Fiance and I cant agree what to do with dog...?

Question

My fiance and I are in the process of finding a home to rent. I've been looking for over a month and the only places that will take a pet (which he has a year old dog) are $400 more a month than the ones that say no pets plus a $300 non refundable deposit. We are paying for own wedding and are expecting a baby in July. I feel the best thing to do is to find his dog another family and move into one of the cheaper but just as nice places that say no pets but he would rather keep the dog and pay more. If you were in my fiance or my postion what would you do?

somehow this ended up in the wrong catagory. sorry.

My fiance took him in even though I said no.. he has only had the dog for a couple months and the dog lives with my fiance and his friend not me and the kids.

Im an animal lover as well, I just feel that if we could find him a good home (which we have some friends that will be happy to take him in) that it would be finacially easier on us with the new baby and all.

Answer 1

I think you are wise to give the dog away. However, parting with a pet is not easy. This needs to be done gently which I am sure you are doing.

Starting the marriage off on a bad not is not good, and if you are having to pay more money for this dog, this will be on a bad note. If your fiance refuses to give up the dog, then you and him need to rethink what you are doing, this is a give and take, and you do not need all of the extra expences the dog will bring on you.

I know that he loves his dog, but you have to be practicle. Right now my husband and I are having to discuss our cats. We have two and they are not declawed. We either need to declaw them or get rid of them because they are tearing up the house. They have shredded my living room chairs. Problem is, it takes to much money to do two cats at one time, we can't do one at a time because it will get hurt by the other. the only other alternative is to get rid of them, but then we have a seven year old autistic son who loves them. We have a big choice and someone is going to be hurt no matter what we do. I happen to like the cats as well, but I could handle it if we got rid of them. My son I don't know. I just know that these things are not easy.

So just keep talking to your fiance and keep trying to get him to understand how unreasonable it is to pay that extra money when you are young in your marriage. If you have to, make a budget of the wedding, and then of the monthly bills, including gas, electric, groceries, and any other bill you may have to pay, car whatever, and show him that, and then show him the actual income. If his dog is more important well, you two have a lot to talk about.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, I don't think that you can make this decision by yourself. I rent and have a dog and I would rather pay an extra $400 a month than have to give her away and I have only had her 2 months.

If you are financially strained, talk to the "no pets" place about your dog. You can create a "doggy resume" with their recent shots, play habits and any training they have been through. See if you can make a down deposit and sign a contract with a pet clause in it (any damage done by the dog will be covered by you). The reason most places don't want pets is because of the smell and damage. If you can make this part of the lease, most no pet buildings will rent out.

Answer 3

Would it be possible for the dog to stay with a relative or friend until you can afford a place that will allow pets? That would probably be the best way to solve this problem without giving up the dog.

Congrats on the wedding and the baby!

-Kate

Answer 4

I know that it can be a hassle to have pets while renting, (I have 2 dogs and rent). However, a pet, in most cases is a part of the family. And to your husband, he probably has an emotional attatchment to the dog.

It may be hard financially, but I would just figure out a way to keep the dog. I could never give mine away!

Answer 5

Actually, it kind of fits in this category. If you can afford to keep the dog, why not? It will be a great experience for your child to grow up with a pet. Having a pet around also helps build up your baby's immune system to being around animals and will help prevent allergic reactions unless your baby is born with severe allergies already. If you can't afford to pay the extra rent for a pet, then it's time for his parenting skills to kick in and be more concerned about being able to afford caring for his newborn.

Answer 6

We are having a baby in March and are going through a similiar situation. Our puppy is too hyper. I think it would be a good idea for you to discuss it thoroughly with your fiance and not pressure him into anything. He may blame you later. Plus a dog can be a great comfort to you when you are home alone with your baby. You will feel more protected. Good luck. Also, you may want to try renting from a private owner. That is how we were able to keep ours.

Answer 7

well i think that u should find the dog another family and when the baby is born and u have a nice house that u owen and as the child gets older then ask him or her if they want a dog and well he'd have to wait a while well all my dogs i had to give away but later on in life i got me a dog.

Answer 8

You shouldn't have gotten a pet in the first place if you couldn't take care of it. I would pay more to keep my dog. Pets are part of the family and shouldn't just be given away because of inconvenience. If you really have no choice, then please give to a respectful family and not a shelter.

Answer 9

That dog is a member of his family. You should not even ask him to give the dog up. Find a way to find a home where ALL OF YOU, including the dog can live together.

Answer 10

He took on the responsilbility of that dog and he should keep him. Are you ALREADY trying to control everything in his life? That would throw up a red flag to me. I would never ask my boyfriend/fiance/husband to get rid of his beloved dog.