I was in a serious and committed relationship for 2 years. There was so much about the relationship that was amazing, there were times I truly thought I wanted to marry him. He wanted to marry me, but I broke up with him in the end. It was really painful, and we saw each other a couple times after breaking up and reconnected. Each time he asked me to reconsider, and each time I said no because I still couldn't see myself marrying him. The biggest issue was that he is bipolar and wouldn't seek counseling to resolve some ongoing issues he had. He denied they were issues, but I was hurt over and over again because of various problems he had. Anyways, there were alot of good things, but in the end the bad things outweighed the good.
So now, I haven't talked to him in 8 months and i'm still not over him. I miss him, care about him, and still feel romantically about him. My question is: how long will it take for me to get over him? And does it mean something that I can't?
2007-01-30 09:05:41 · 15 answers · asked by OceanLovah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes, if it the right person, and your soulmate, the for me is never. You may always be looking for that person, and everything you do may remind you of that person.
If that is the case, you should consider going back... because that is RARE in a relationship, and DIFFICULT because you may have cared too much.... but so worth it in the end, if it can work.
At least, that's how I feel about it....
good luck,
T
2007-01-30 09:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tappy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship where I thought my girlfriend and I were going to get married, but it ended up like you two, bad outweighed the good. We were together for about a solid 2 years with a few bumps in the road. It took me a while, the biggest thing to do is get involved with an activity that you like to get your mind off of things. I never thought the pain and feelings wouldn't recover, but time does heal, slow but sure.
2007-01-30 17:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to that question is in your heart. Only you can tell how much time you will need to put this guy behind you. Time is actually your friend and enemy here. Just slow down and really think about your feelings. Eventually when you are ready you will move on from this situation. Till then take comfort in the fact that you are only human and alot of ppl in the world are going through exactly what you are. Take care and good luck!
2007-01-30 17:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still have a lot of feelings for him that you aren't going to get over until you truly know you couldn't marry him. you loved him and you will always love him. no one can tell you how long it should take you to get over him. you haven't seen him in 8 months and are still hung up on him? that seems a little long and i'm just gonna guess that since then you haven't tried dating anyone else, probably because you know you will end up comparing them to him. honey, go out and date, don't compare because remember in the end, the bad outweighed the good. just keep that in mind. it doesn't mean anything that you can't get over this guy, you were just seriously in love and love hurts! you'll be ok and everything will work out. good luck.
2007-01-30 17:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it you love the MAN and cannot live with his mental disorder--and that is what he has--if he was not willing to get help then how can he ask you to be 100% in a relationship where he is not willing to do the same?? Hey good idea--next time (if there is one) ask him just that--when he says he wants you back--tell him to get help and you MIGHT reconsider--tell him you simply cant live with his mental disabilities and until he recognizes he has one then you are not going to reconsider--so that way the ball is in his court--and he has to make the changes and you need not feel guilty--
2007-01-30 17:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take a long time. I know someone who was in a 6 month relationship and still thinks about the other person a year later. Still cries about them, but doesnt wish he was with her. Its just the memories that wont get out of his head. Its never certain when you will get over that person, but its always painfull. Hope i helped! Good luck!
2007-01-30 17:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a deep relationship about a year ago and when we broke up i was devastated because he was also my best friend. A few days ago I had a dream that he want out with another girl and I was depressed for days. I think that it all depends on how close you were. Trust me time will heal your pain.
2007-01-30 17:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by lemonzing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since u made the decision,u have to wlak the line all the way,only solution since 8 months is a replacement with new love ,or tolerate him and get him back ,since u want out ,new love is best
2007-01-30 17:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it takes half the time of the relationship to get over someone... So you are more than halfway there. Keep it together girl... you will find someone who is worthy of you. Good luck
2007-01-30 17:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a beautiful relationship that I was sure would last forever. She decided that it would be better if we split. I still think of her often, that was thirty five years ago.
2007-01-30 17:13:28 · answer #10 · answered by Aberdeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋