I have recently broken up with my girlfriend of 2 years, it was a very messy realtionship and it has completely ruined my head, what the worst thing of all, that i want to discuss is that we both had myspace accounts and she blocked me on hers , so to keep in contact wit her i created an alter ego ''willy'' to find out answers as to why we broke up and what she was doing with her life a month on, because i could not accept that we were over, and i was obssessed, at this point aswell, i was taking a lot of drugs which partly out of my paranoia caused me to do the things i did.
I am now every ashmed of what ive done, because she found out it was me and so did a lot of her and my friends, who now think i need psychiatric help, and a lot have fallen out with me.
I am at a very low point in my life and i am struggling to cope at times, resorting to alcohol but trying to keep away from drugs etc, bcos they had a lot to do with what was going thru my mind at the time
what do i do ?
2007-01-30 08:59:11 · 12 answers · asked by messyhead 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
get a life.
2007-01-30 09:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that. Didn't get excessive with the alcohol, but did hit some pain pills for pain that wasn't exactly physical.
You do need a counselor, at least. Psychiatric implies therapeutic drugs, which may or may not be necessary in this case. What you're going through is close enough to normal you should try to talk it out first, and let your counselor decide whether to refer you for something stronger.
The humiliation and ostracization, while very painful, will get you out of the cycle of obsession that your alter ego let you continue. That alter ego has served his purpose--to try to get answers. This is an absolutely normal part of coping with loss. Now you have to try to let him--and your girl--go.
Don't kick yourself too hard on the *occasional* getting drunk, because sometimes you just need to put off the pain. Keep in mind though that it only puts it off, that it will still be there when you sober up, and you have to face your troubles in order to fight them.
2007-01-30 09:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by barbara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be too hard on yourself. Life is hard and everyone makes mistakes. I would suggest that you do not try to keep in contact with your ex. The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and not her. If you have done things you regret forgive yourself as will anyone that is your true friend. Break ups are awful and even though it hurts now everyday that you spend focusing on yourself and where you want to go in life you will SLOWLY start to feel better. Drugs only put off problems until later so try a more healthy activity to take you mind off of it like video games or exercise or even other not so evil women. good luck hon.
2007-01-30 09:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by nancy a 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. Not easy, but necessary. Concentrate on you. Find an activity. no one wants to hear me say this but a couple of good one night stands will help. JUST REMEMBER to be nice to the ladies. A bad breakup can make a guy resentfull to women. That will only put you in a darker place.
I love women but unfortuntly some of them are evil and/or crazy. Keep loking for that golden angel. The one you broke up with must not be her. Don't get back with her, two bad breakups with the same girl is too much pain to bear.
2007-01-30 09:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Captain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you do need to seek professional help. No this does not mean you are crazy, but rather have gone beyond what you can cope with by yourself.
Find yourself a psychiatrist or therapist. You can see if your local hospital has a behavioral health or mental health center/clinic which you can go to as well.
If you are drinking daily and suffer symptoms of alcohol withdrawal when you stop, you will need to find yourself a detox program. You can ask at your local hospital as they will likely know a place where you can go. Alcohol withdrawal can be potentially dangerous.
2007-01-30 09:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by littleturtleboy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you want to rely on drugs and alcohol to help with your problems, you will continue to have them. THEY ARE WHAT'S CAUSING YOUR PROBLEMS!! Get to rehab and start standing on your own two feet and deal with your problems so you won't feel like you need the other stuff!! In other words it's time to be a MAN! Your relationship just ended so it's a great time for a new start! You will have to get yourself under control, before you can have a successfull relationship with another woman. Get ahold of your boot straps and pull yourself out of the hole you're in and look toward your new future! You can do it!
2007-01-30 09:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over the girl! You should not let your life just take a dump because you are not with her anymore, there are other fish out in the sea! Oh yea also get some rehab help or something!
2007-01-30 09:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a new girl to have a one night stand, thats what I do after I get dumped. It will make you feel better, trust me. Also don't have any standards take what you can get fast and wear a condom. Once you do this you'll be able to get over her.
2007-01-30 09:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by ericlarsen86 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely need some physiological help. This is really serious, you need to wean off your addictions. Look for psychologist to go talk to.
2007-01-30 09:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get professional help...go to rehab as well.
2007-01-30 09:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~**Athena's Mommy**~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋