I'm not Miss USA but I don't think I'm that bad...people have told me that I'm pretty and nice...and I don't put people down and help them out as much as I can. I'm currently in college but I like this guy. He seems to be comfortable when speaking to me, he once hinted I was pretty...on his myspace there's this girl that leaves him comments that enrage me. She's pretty which of course makes me a little jealous. I've actually considered not talking to the guy anymore because I feel that she is so much better than me even with her bad grammar, lots of makeup and bleached hair (I can only look at the comments she leaves on other people's myspaces since hers is private). What the heck is wrong with me?
2007-01-30 08:57:37 · 14 answers · asked by I MISS YOU! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes I try to stop myself from thinking bad things about this girl because of karma, but sometimes when I read certain comments I feel like socking her in the face!
2007-01-30 09:01:19 · update #1
why do you assume that there's something wrong with you?
how do you know that she's really better than you?
have you met her?
hmm?? and how does this guy respond to you?
and why should her comments pose you issues? hmm?
they shouldn't should they?
because she's not you. and only your oppininons and the oppinions of those whom you love, about yourself ought to matter to you.
2007-01-30 09:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who said anything is wrong with you. I have a guy friend on myspace to. He has a girl that does the same thing. I have messaged him through email so she doesnt see what i write. I have posted comments but nothing to bad. Why would you not talk to him. Has he done anything to you for you not to talk to him? I feel the same way about myself on occassion, its a girl thing and eventually you grow out of it at least thats what i tell myself. If you are a little jealous about her comments why don't you make a comment to him in person. I mean say something to him about the comment that you saw his on his mypace page and see what his reaction is. You never know she could be a long time friend or someone he has dated. Try it and see what happens. What can hurt? Really nothing at all. Say something like," wow who is that girl i saw on your space? That was sure some comment she left you." and then take it from their.
2007-01-30 17:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ranger Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be a little bit insecure. Just think positive thoughts, and actually think about how much she is provoking him to talk on Myspace and how much he is actually involved in the conversations. If he's hinted that you're pretty, then it's probably a pretty good sign, I think you should try maybe complimenting him back, and see how it goes from there. I wouldn't stop talking to him, because, in a way, that's almost like she's won. Just stay confident and believe in yourself.
2007-01-30 17:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an insecurity issue you must have with yourself. I feel a lot of girls never feel adaquately beautiful. I mean there are girls that yes, dress up and go out and say, "gosh I look hot".. But when we all sit there and when it comes down to it...Who has ACTUALLY felt beautiful without someone having to say it? Yes... there is always that great reassurance that the special someone says, "wow you look great, etc.." But I think since you feel this way towards him, you feel like you have an ownership on him.. Not ownership as, "oh he's mine.." but mentally you have given him yourself.. you have given him a piece of you, to make yourself vulnerable. When you see this girl writing things like that you see it as a step in losing him. I think what you can do is take two paths.
Path 1: You can let her get to you, do what is expected and quit speaking to him.. Since he's a general guy, I'm sure he'll have no idea what just happened and either let it bother him and ask you about it and you'll make up an excuse as to why.. or he'll just stop speaking to you all together since he has no clue about it.
Path 2: Take the initiative to sit down with him. Let him know that you feel the way you do.. but also, hint or non-chalantly bring up this girl and ask him what she is to him.. you know? I would do path 2, (easier said than done) but ultimatley it's going to be easier for you in the end.. rather than leading yourself on, jump on the band wagon and realize that you are beautiful, and every girl (and most guys) all have insecurities. In this girl's case, she has to be flirtatious to make herself feel good. You get what I'm saying? Best of luck!
2007-01-30 17:06:47 · answer #4 · answered by campisi05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well uhh, Miss USA is just 10 miles of bad road if you get where i'm comming from, so be glad you arent her.
I think these are natural feelings, I cant really figure out a decent explanation tho. It just happends, usually to the most of us too. It's called a crush, and the reason it's called a crush is because the feelings inside consume you so much its crushing.
2007-01-30 17:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. The guy might be interested in you, you never know. Just because he isn't giving you his full attention doesn't mean he's not into you. You've gotta expect all guys to be different.
And definitely don't compare yourself to her. Her flaws are unimportant; you dunno what the guy is looking for in a girl. And are they even going out yet? Don't get too obsessed with this, you'll find a guy that you like soon enough and forget about him. Then you can rub it in BOTH of their faces :P
2007-01-30 17:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anodyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no more is wrong with you than with the rest of us.
you did not come out and say it in your write up..... but if you like this guy, by all means - take a trip to mars and be direct (y'know women from venus .... men from mars - bla bla bla)
be direct and tell him you like him. give him a chance to respond and go from there.
don't waste your energy getting upset over the other girls. don't worry about looks if you've been told that you look good, from there it is about brains and libido. be yourself and be honest & you'll get a good guy.
please don't be upset about my grammar
2007-01-30 17:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are insecure. You lack the confidence to realize that the actions of others are not as important as the actions of yourself. If people do not like you for who you are, you have no idea why that may be, so comparing yourself to others is pointless. There are 3 BILLION people on this planet is all this drama worth 1/3,000,000,000 th of them?
2007-01-30 17:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you,just be yourself and dont let your feelings stop you talking to him otherwise he will wonder what he has done wrong,and remember beauty is only skin deep it is what is on the inside that counts,you seem a very nice person to me.
2007-01-30 17:04:43 · answer #9 · answered by lynda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with you. all girls feel like this sometimes. its stupid but it happens. your never going to be the prettiest girl out there. there will always be someone prettier than you, but think of how many people youre prettier than. think of some of the guys in your classes that your friends with. or just guys you hang out with. ill bet theres girls who like them that are thinking "im just not gunna talk to him anymore, that girl (YOU) are way prettier than me". girls are hoes and they flirt with anything with a penis. not you, her. and maybe she doesnt even like him. if you like this guy, fight for him. you dont have to put it out there, but make sure he knows your interested.
2007-01-30 17:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by braineak123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋