I'm 19 and i'm done with playing around in life. all i want to do is find the woman of my dreams and get my carrier started.
i'm going with a girl now and i'm madly in love with her, we been going out for 4 months, today :) we have so much in common and everything is going great and getting better. shes helpful, supportive and very smart. after about 10 or 11 months if everything is still going great would it be wrong if i proposed to her?
Most people probably think that were all lustful, but we both chose not to be sexual other than kissing because we don't want to be in lust. can i have some advice?
2007-01-30 08:46:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are only 19, you need to have some fun in life! If you think you are ready to propose, then do it. Don't let anyone tell you when is the right time b/c there isn't. I know people who got married after only being together for 8 mos. and they are still going strong and I know people who have been together for 6 years and divorced. So there is no time limit and there is no right age of when to get married. You do what you feel is right. Always follow your heart!
2007-01-30 08:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the sound of you... I'm sure you know that marriage is a huge commitment and not just a good idea to play with.
Most marriages fail because they don't know themselves well enough to give themselves completely to another person.
I don't think proposing after a time is wrong just be sure its what you want. I would suggest having a long engagement just to be sure. Remember marriage is a state of mind and you don't always need a piece of paper to tell you how committed you are to each other. Good luck.
2007-01-30 16:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bailey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dunno if anyone has said yet but i just thought if your dying to do it but your stuck because you cant till you get married, try to write down all the things you like about her and what you dont.
If you do what i did and loose your virginity at 19 you will find it hard to refrain from sex again as its rather addictive once you start.
Other than that my boss told me marriage is about giving and being there even when it feels uncomfy or like its in a low period. If you can see yourself with her in 20 years and dont have secret issues which you are waiting to unleash then go for it.
All the best .
2007-01-30 17:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...actually i been wit my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years nd we talk about that all the time but when u really think about it marrige is a hole lot more than 10 or 11 months marrige is 4 ever nd really think, 4 ever iz really long, nd i love my boyfriend with all my heart nd i would marrie him in a hot second but not now we still gotta think about sum stuf im 17 hez 19 well i think itz good ur done playing around so iz my boyfriend but both of ur problems r u should have started thinking about this a while back like 17 but if u take it from me...i think u should wait 4 a longer period of time to ask her it might scare her that ur even talkin bout this subject sooo soon...well good luck...
2007-01-30 17:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by sexy 916 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True story- my cousin started dating her BF at 16, they got married at 18 had their first child at 19, second child at 21 got divorced at 23. He was in the military, she was a stay at home mom. When i talk to both of them they say they still love each other but they need to grow separately and become individuals something they didn't get a chance to do because all they ever knew was each other. They both missed out on alot growing up. Just a bit of advice.
2007-01-30 17:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kee-Kee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um marriage comes after sexual thangs and you're only 19. a successful has lust and love in balance and is a great way to show passion if your both ready. too soon for marriage like when you have all your **** together then yes but you still have a ways to go homie
2007-01-30 16:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dodge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh please, hand me the sick bag (maybe I could borrow your carrier?)
Come on, 20 years down the line you'll wonder why you didn't have a bit more fun, variety, sex etc. and want a divorce. At least wait until you're 25 before proposing, you change so much, even in a few years.
Definitely have sex though, you don't know what you're missing.
2007-01-30 17:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to school for 4 years before you can get stable and have a career. Wait until you're done university before you go proposing to anyone, you'll learn more about yourself and the girl you want that way.
2007-01-30 16:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi149 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always say this . . .propose but don't marry until you're 21. There's just something wrong about a couple that cannot partake in the champagne toast at their own wedding . . . if the intention is to be together forever; then know that marriage ceremonies and certificates don't guarantee that, your words, heart and the actions you do to make a future do.
2007-01-30 16:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly if in about a year everything is still going good then yes propose. no one can tell you what you feel inside. just wait til the moment is right and then pop the question. tell her that she is a very lucky woman for having someone that has such a good head on his shoulders. good luck!
2007-01-30 16:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by ber-ber21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋