ok so ive known this guy for 6 years, we are best friends, he said he liked me once when we first met and he worked really hard at trying to win me over, but i kept turning him down because my parents didnt want me to date, but i didnt tell him that i just told him i wanted to be just friends... but now as the time has passed i know i can talk to him about anything, more than i can talk to my friends that are girls... i like him a lot i think because he's all i think about , now we go to different colleges which are two hours apart... would this work out and would it be worth the risk of losing my BEST friend if it would ever end? i really enjoy being just friends but now i think i can handle taking it to the next level ...please help
2007-01-30 08:42:02 · 24 answers · asked by Tina the llama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AWW. YES YES YES!!!!! Two hrs is not a big deal...you could SO work it out...tell him the REAL reason you turned him down, tell him you are serious, and that you realy need him, hes the only one you could see yourself with, and that he truly is YOUR BESTfriend. Best of Wishes!!
<3 M.C. "Same situation and no real answers" =[
2007-01-30 08:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by morena0kizzez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me forever to convince my parents to let me start dating. I missed out on A LOT of guys b/c they didn't want to sit around and wait for the time to come. I had a best guy friend of 5 years. He wasn't scared to move on to the next level but I was b/c I didn't want to ruin anything. Never let that get in the way. If you are truly best friends, no break up could come between that. Let him know how you feel and I say GO FOR IT! I did and we have been together for 7 years now (married for 5) and have 2 little boys!
2007-01-30 08:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know who this feels hun debating on friendship and love can be a very stressful! friendship is more like a family bond with someone who isnt related to you but love is something that needs trust and most importantly commitment. if you are willing to do those two things and both of you have strong feelings about each other than it is safe tell him how you feel first tell him the real reason why you couldnt go out with him before.it doesnt matter you are best friends and also frienship with a bloke (guy)
can bloom into a beautiful romance plus find your special one.
there is risk involved however about losing your best friend but from experience you both might be upset for awhile after a breakup but if he truely is your friend he will still be himself and stick up for you regardless if you and him arent together.
take sometime think about it breath. and ask him
best of luck hun
-christina
2007-01-30 08:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by christina bedingfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a tough one. I think you shold ask him out, though. He seems really nice, and you two seem like 'couple quality' just because you tell him everything.. even the things you don't tell your friends that are girls. With situations like these.. when best friends might be more than that.. occour, I think they should take the plunge! Even though you might be two hours away, try to keep a close relationship on IM, and really take a step after your schooling is over.
Let me know how it works out!
2007-01-30 08:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by Interior Design Pro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that he still likes you that way. Best friends make the best relationships, especially those that are as old as yours. If you don't try you'll never know what could have been. As the saying goes, "Most people would rather be certain that they are miserable then risk being happy." In other words, to find out whether or not it will work you're going to have to risk that friendship. If you don't you'll never know!
2007-01-30 08:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by albion53151 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the saying "you don't know what you've got til it's gone"? well, this is exactly like it. i think you suddenly like him so much because you two are no longer together. the problem is, long distance dating is tricky. there is also the risk of making this guy as an enemy if you were to break up. my advice is to stay as friends and see what happens the next time you actually see each other in person. who knows; maybe you suddenly felt a passion for him because you simply missed him!
2007-01-30 08:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u like him very much, well then Yes . You should take it to the next level. He is probably trying to keep it to him self, but u should ask him, what do he think if u guys gave it a shot at being to getthere. If that does not work , then u guy are meet to be friend.
2007-01-30 08:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have the foundation for what could be a great relationship laid out already in your friendship. The one your with should be your best friend and a person you could tell anything. Take the chance.
2007-01-30 08:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the friendship to be there no matter what then i would say no. but i dated my friend of like 5 years and we were friends for so long that when it ended we were comfortable being friends again. so if you have a steadfast friendship and are like bestfriends then yeah but otherwise no. its wierd at first though
2007-01-30 08:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dodge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would go on one date and see how it works, maybe there isnt any feeling there, but i wouldnt recommend it as i lost one of my good friends because we dated. i found out later i knew too much about her and dumped her because i was scared i knew too much about her, almost like dating my sister, it can either be really good or really bad....i would be careful on this one....i would at least go on one date , maybe ask him 'what would you think if we started dating', that kind of question might give you an answers immediately. Good luck!
2007-01-30 08:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by chrisj7682 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋