OK IVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND 31/2 YEARS N WELL ITS SEEMS AS IF HES NOT INTERSETED IN ME ANY MORE HE TELLS ME HE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH ME ANYMORE BUT THEM WHEN I WANNA LEAVE HE SAYS HE CANT BE WITHOUT ME IF HES NOT WORKIN HES ALWAYS WITH ME HE DOENT GO OUT PARTING OR ANYTHING BUT ALL WE DO IS ARGUE WHEN HES HERE HE TELLS ME IM FAT AND UGLY AND THAT IM NOT SPECIAL AND HURTS ME WITH ALOT OF OTHER NAMES I DO LOVE HIM BUT ALL THAT HE TELLS ME I JUST LET PASS AND 4GET ABOUT IT HE TELLS ME THAT THE SEX IS BAD THAT IM LOOSE AND ALL THIS OTHER THINGS BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO HES ALSO REALY JELOUS WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HIM HAPPY FOR HIM TO NOTICE ME AGAIN PLEASE HELP
2007-01-30 08:36:58 · 19 answers · asked by MARIA M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's playing games. Look, I'm 62 years old. I know games when I see them and he's not playing fair. Move on.
2007-01-30 08:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, and he will probably dump you when he finds another girl. I would just leave him. I don’t see a reason why you should make him happy, it doesn’t seem he is trying or even thinking about making you happy, is he?
If you actually decide to stay with him, then I suggest you sit down with him, and explain how you feel, and try to get him to be honest. See if you two can come up with an agreement. If you do, then test it, see if it works out, but if things are the same still or get worse, just leave, otherwise you will only get hurt even more.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 08:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend you think you've been in too long a relationship for you to be messed about. Tell him you want a straight answer, and tell him if he doesn't start treating you right, you'll leave. Nobody has any right at all to call you names at all. It's actually upsetting me to read some of the things he's said to you. I think you're an amazing person for staying with him as long as you have. If you decide to stay in the relationship, please be careful because his behaviour and attitude towards you sounds scary and hostile. The verbal abuse could become worse and even lead to physical abuse. I think he's the one who needs to make the effort in the relationship, not you, he needs to treat you with love and respect for being the girl you are. I really hope this helps!
2007-01-30 08:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let's try not to SCREAM the entire question!! Second, let's try to spell correctly and use sentences so it's easier to understand. This guy is only keeping you around because he does not have anyone else to put down to make himself feel better. He will never change and if he's going to be disrespectful you should move on and find someone that cares about you. Don't put up with this crap.
2007-01-30 08:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you that desperate for a man that you will let that pig call you names and degrade you like that. What the hell is wrong with you. I don't care how much a guy tells me he loves me.... once he degrades me in anyway, he's out the door. The only reason he said he can't live without you is because he has no where to go and can't support himself. He's using you and you can't see it, your blinded by love. You don't need to keep trying to make him happy because it's not going to work, he's going to keep treating you like crap because you allow it to happen. Get rid of the a sshole and find someone that will enjoy being with you.
2007-01-30 08:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should be worried about making him happy or getting him to notice you again. He sounds messed up. Love isnt enough in this case you cant fix a relationship when it cant be fixed or when both partners dont want to make it work and he dosent. You need to move on its only going to get worse.
2007-01-30 08:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should move out and then do the relation ship from there, kind of like that just see each other on dates try to start over
2007-01-30 08:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by CANDY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worth you and has some real issues. If you want to keep him demand he go to counseling If he says no-GET OUT immediately and go on with your life with someone who will appreciate you when you are staying not just when you are leaving
2007-01-30 08:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres always more to a story than we hear from one side. But honestly, dont' let yourself be verbally/physically/any type of abused.
I always give my g/f massages, back scratches, breakfast in bed, make them lunch, etc....
If you are having thoughts of leaving him, come on down...You're the next contestant on my dating life show..:)
2007-01-30 08:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by djdjr01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be its time you moved on ,he would not say these things to you if he even cared about you at all good luck dear.
2007-01-30 08:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by lynda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋