my fella has promised to buy me a puppy for my birthday (which is october). the breed i want is expensive and i couldnt get one myself unless i saved up for a few years.
thing is i want to finish my boyfriend in april if he doesnt move in with me by then.
do you think he knows?
what should i do?
2007-01-30 08:27:56 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
ive been with my fella 3 years and its just not moving on... but i also really want the puppy...
2007-01-30 08:28:38 · update #1
i must come across so selfish
2007-01-30 08:28:57 · update #2
That's out of order love,save up for it yourself that's the right thing to do!
2007-01-30 08:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong on all counts, the first is you are using the guy, you sound as though you want the dog for all the wrong reasons, as for going to finish with him!!!
That takes the biscuit. The poor fellar, you really ARE taking the piss. Frankly you are just prostituting yourself, not I think something you should be proud of, and you are better than that.
Firstly, you need to talk to the guy, I reckon he is probably shy, many guys are. Secondly, if you think you may chuck him then do it NOW and let the pair of you move on.
Your attitude is like the girl in Two Pints that has not got a boy but a load of degrees.
Watch it and think about it.
Read the person who said about going to battersea dogs home, they take b1tches as well
2007-01-30 09:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by rinfrance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You`re right you do come across as rather selfish. Dont hold the guy to such a stupid obligation. If you want to move on do it now and spare him the heartache. If you are that desparate for a puppy buy one yourself or go to a rescue shelter. A dog is as much a commitment as a partner so think long and hard about what you are doing.
2007-01-30 08:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who is to say he won't walk out with the puppy? If he spends the dough, you're going to have to "own" that dog a long time before you'll have any legal right to it. It can be a pretty messy "divorce" topic, so to speak. So, in addition to being really selfish, it probably will backfire in your face.
What you really need to do is sit down with your boyfriend and discuss your relationship. Where do you want to go with it? Where does he want to go? How do you really feel about him? If it is not going to work out, now is the time to end it, not later. Otherwise you are both going to get hurt. It sounds, based on the limited information you provide here, that your respect and love for your boyfriend is on the wane. You've got bigger fish to fry than whether or not you should try to "steal" an expensive dog from your boyfriend.
2007-01-30 08:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
first that is a nasty attitude to have.you want to get rid of the boy cause he may not move in with you,you want a puppy huh so when the puppy does sumtin you dont want you get rid of the puppy as well,you have no business getting a puppy or any animal,they need uncondisional love,100pc care,comittment,patience,attention and understanding,i would strongly advice you to get your life together well before you even think of a puppy.plse understand im not been nasty to you but dont do anything that will be bad for the puppy and if you still want a puppy inthe future why not visit your local animal shelter you be surprised
2007-01-30 08:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by majella h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do not even get a dog you just want one to carry around in your purse or whatever because it is popular right now when you get a dog it is a 10 to 15 year commitment and that relationship will not move on any further that the first year so if you are going to dump your boyfriend for not moving on any further after 3 years then you dont need a dog either
2007-01-30 08:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by The Shoe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretending you're in a "long term" relationship with your boyfriend just to get a dog out of him and threatening him with ultimatums is dishonest, disrespectful and selfish... And a puppy should not be brought into that kind of "toxic" environment.
Be honest. Tell your boyfriend what you need/ want of him (regardless of whether or not you'll get the pup)... and save up to buy the puppy for yourself. If you REALLY want the pup, you'll make the effort to find an honest way to get it for yourself.
2007-01-30 08:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Fetch 11 Humane Society 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and break up with him now.
Then get a dogs today magazine from a newsagent and in the back find the number of the uk club for your breed and see if they have any dogs of the breed up for rehoming.Many pedigree dogs need rehoming each year through their breed club cos of owners dying and similar stuff.
2007-01-30 09:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Initial cost of the puppy is cheap in comparison to what you are going to have spend on vet care, food, toys, and hopefully training. . . if you are strapped for cash right now, then don't get one until you have some savings built up. Puppies are cheaper than kids, but not by as much as one would hope!
2007-01-30 08:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sunflower81 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Caring properly for a dog takes money so If you can't pay for the dog yourself you probably can't afford to get the dog groomed and vet checks and unexpected accidents not to mention food and toys. Having a dog is very rewarding but they do make a dent in the pocket book.
2007-01-30 09:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by DVSKITTEN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the puppy...not because you want it bad enough to use your boyfriend...that's wrong. If you want to know if he is serious, wait for the pup, if he buys it for you, he's not a promise breaker... and he's willing to spend money on you, to make you happy. Then after you have the pup, slowly start requesting things like, "I need to run an errand, can you babysit our pup?" or, "we're out of "pups names" favorite treat, can you pick some up on your way home?" If he does everything you ask...he's committed, and in my opinion will make a helping father if you ever have kids. On the other hand if you do this, and he doesn't like it, he'll break up with you himself, you'll have your puppy, you'll know he isn't reliable, and you won't feel guilty about staying with him longer only for the promised dog. Then it will all be fine.
2007-01-30 08:46:45 · answer #11 · answered by Courtney L 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋