If you feel you have too many children, would you give custody?

Question

of one or some of those children to someone else?

For those of you that are quick to judge we don't have children and aren't wanting any anytime soon! Answer the question and quit judging! Or don't answer. I wanted to know if love of a child was something that one has or something that one gives!

Answer 1

If I had to many children and was unable to provide for them then Yes, I would give them to someone who could make sure that there lives were better! It is what is in the best interest of the child!
But if someone does have to many children and can't take care of them than they need to make sure that they stop having babies!

Answer 2

If I had sextuplets naturally (without having fertility drugs), I might consider getting live-in help, but no way would I give up custody!

If you have too many children, you need to A) stop having children and B) find someone or several someones to help you! and C) utilize all available local services and government programs to make sure your kids are provided for while still living in your home.

My sister was having trouble conceiving and she and I were both trying to conceive at the same time. I seriously was considering giving her one of my babies if I had twins. Of course now that I HAVE my beautiful son, I know I could never have been able to bear giving a baby up, even to my sister. The mother-baby bond is unbreakable.

I wonder what the men will say to this question.

Answer 3

depends on circumstance. If the child(ren) would be better provided for, it takes a person with a BIG heart and a selfless attitude. Yes it should and is done. What about all those parents out there that are raising their childrens children while they are out doing whatever. that is not exactly right. It is not fair to call someone who gave a child up as a heartless or mental mfer.

Answer 4

no way. I hope that i never get into the situation of not being able to support my kids but maybe then i would consider it. But only to a close family member or something. Kids r not animals to be given away because u misjudged your limitations.Once u do have kids u will see that there is nothing that even comes close to the love u have for your kids. Just because u have had to many is not a reason to give up your kids. But in saying that i have never walked in someones shoes that may have had to possibly do this.

Answer 5

there is nothing better than a child having his birth parents i should know. my mom gave up her eldest son to my aunt because he was born in Canada and she thought she was doing him a favor cause she is from the Caribbean now he has all material things, he want but he is very unhappy and rarely gets on with anyone because he feel unwanted, thus that is why the US government provides alot of help for single or poor mothers, because of the child well being i promise you if that child grows up without his real parents he will always feel empty so think about it if you are about to give up your child but if it is in the case the child is being abused then it can be justified but but it still do not put the icining on the cake for the child

Answer 6

Hell no .. I have 6 in all the youngest isn't mine the ex was messing around and got pregnant so i got rid of her and kept the kid I love him to death. Hes 4 now and raised him from 2 weeks old myself. Talk about going threw hell . I really don't see how any person can give up there kid . A person would have to be heartless or mental. If you are with a person that thinks that way get rid of the worthless m.f because that's all there really doing is thinking about them self .

Answer 7

OMG haven't you figured out what caused the problem in the first place? Why don't you find some of the babydaddys and give the kids to him. Yes you can give your kids up to foster care or adoption, but its not always possible to pick the person they would go to unless they are family. They would need to be checked out first . In the meantime get your tubes tied

Answer 8

I would'nt ever because how would you pick ? My husbands mother who gave him up for adoption (thank god she is crazy)claims that she had to pick between her two sons (my husband and his bro) or her daughter. And she was with the girls father @ the time ,so she chose her.I personally only have 2 kids but i could never pick one over the other to give away . The thought makes me emotional .

Answer 9

haveing babys isnt a matter of too many to love.With each child a parents loves grows.I was worred when I was pregnant with my secound child that I couldnt love him as much as my first child becouse i never loved any one as much or as completly as my baby.But funny thing is it was love at first sight.It was never easy to provide for my kids but as long as I and God were willing I found a way to provide.I would have never given coustody to any one else.I feel god gave me my children as a gift and it was my responseablity.I can not say that my choice is for everyone.My 4th child is adopted.She is disabled but doing wonderfully.Her mother was in a sistuation she couldnt find her way out of and thought it best for her to allow my daughter to be adopted.Sometimes in life its moore of a sistuation of whats best for your child.If you know you can not now or ever be able to give your child what it needs to be sucessfull in life maybee its best to place that child with a family who can.I guess the best answer for you is this(it is diffrent for every parent in every sistuation)

Answer 10

No!That is you and your husbands fault for having all those kids.I would love them all!!