Is it true...about starting to date again?

Question

is it true that your not ready to date until your okay with being single and you dont mind being alone?
being by myself is hard. i dont have that person i can talk to but im wondering if i should start dating again after 1 1/2 yrs.

Answer 1

HI
yes, because until you are comfortable and secure with yourself is when you make better decisions about partners, being lonely leads one to make mistakes and except anyone that comes there way so take your mind off of being lonely and keep yourself busy and it will work out good. When you are whole as yourself you don't need someone to fill in the emptiness and with that you make a better choice for a mate.
Lammy

Answer 2

I would very much agree with your initial statement, that you should be happy alone before dating again. That's very hard for some people, though. But, a year and a half is a long time, certainly long enough. You simply want to minimize the amount of things that leave you vulnerable to getting into/staying in relationships that aren't good. If you can't stand being alone, that leaves you at greater risk of getting into a relationship that isn't good for you. Keep trying.

Answer 3

my psychologist who i pay $120 an hour, says you shouldnt date until you are okay being single and you dont mind being alone. so there i saved you some money. but do it your way and you will end up being so attached with "him" and even if he's a jerk you wont leave him because you'll tolerate any bad habits and behavior because you're too scared to be alone. try loving yourself and you'll find it's not so hard. and when you are at that point y ou'll be amazed at how the quality of men you date goes up. because you will only date good men who are good to you. you wont have any fear of letting the bad ones go because you'll have no fear of being along! GOOD LUCK!
sign,
single mom of four

Answer 4

You do need to learn to be comfortable being on your own, in my opinion. I am not so sure that there are any hard & fast rules that say that you NEED to be ok with being single BEFORE you date again, it is entirely up to you [&, of course, whether or not you have someone who you REALLY WANT to be with- don't just get desperate to find someone...anyone!]

I was single for almost 2.5years after I split with my bf of 3 years...& I was constantly looking forward to finding someone else. I have now, & things are great...things just seem to work out when they are ready to!

Have fun with your friends, & with your life & take this time to highlight all the things you can do being single[that you can't do so much when you are dating someone]. Get to know who you are, & what you truely value in life & that way you will be able to attract someone that you are truely suited to. :)

have fun, & goodluck.

Answer 5

ah convinced i think u thoroughly, i have been given otu of a 5 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and proper off teh bat i had this female that grow to be already in touch so i have been given fortunate taht the timing grow to be there (not a lot anymore yet thats yet another tale)....look, what u decide on to do is purely commence speaking im severe i dont care if u r purely standin in line at ur community cvs n per chance the dude in the front of u is lovable or sumthin discover something he's preserving or possibly he's lookin at a mag purely element out sumthin say hi purely say sumthin! yea its not continuously gonna come out proper n u may appear like an fool now and again yet thats purely ur lack of self assurance cuz u been out the loop for see you later, now its time 4 u to construct it again up one layer at a time, as 4 ur ex no man or woman man or woman is an same so overlook abouyt that crap thoroughly and purely make convo with random people n continuously be effective it attracts goofd issues to you per chance not promptly n it ought to take a lengthy time period yet ultimately you receives ur groove again (no pun meant haha!) :)

Answer 6

I would think after 1 1/2 yrs you would be ready to date again, just be your self and nothing more or less, if your to find love than it should be for who you are.
best of luck

Answer 7

I'd take it slow again and let whoever you date know how you feel so there is no confusion...everyone wouldn't mind being single its the lack of companionship that makes us feel not complete..
Good luck ..you seem like a good person..

Answer 8

It is just a better idea to be ok with yourself first. If you don't then you might date someone for the wrong reasons. You need to get the point in your life when you "want" a mate and not "need"one. If you are dating just not to be lonely then you may date someone who is not right for you. You can't expect someone to be happy with you if you can't be happy with yourself.

Answer 9

i stayed two and half years with no dating,then when i dated i fell in love very strongly ,u can say its the love of my life ,and within 7 months she broke up with me,right now one month single and dont feel in the mood for the rest of my life,worst thing that happens is every fall takes a piece of nice thing out of u,and next person has to tolerate it ,give u a good piece of advice ,date again when u feel u found someone good and dont blame him for the hurt others caused ,

Answer 10

Sweetie you should date when you feel ready and I think you are no one can tell you that you should start dating but yourself so get out there when ur ready. Have Fun!

<3 M.C.