I'm getting married this year and I'm trying to find a place to hold the ceremony. I'm not really all that religious so I have no clue what kind of questions to ask when I call a church to find out information on having my wedding there. Any suggestions?
2007-01-30 08:16:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How much is the fee for the following:
Church facility
Minister to perform ceremony
Clean up after ceremony
What are you responsible for cleaning up, what are they responsible for?
How early can you get in to decorate?
When do you have to be out?
Any other costs not previously brought up?
Do you have to be a member of the congregation?
Does the bride and groom have to take any classes, etc?
You also will want to meet with the minister, and see if he/she would be the person you want to officiate the ceremony. Find out how personal he/she will make it (some will change it up, some won't).
Good luck!
2007-01-30 09:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you religious or aren't you? If not, why even use a church at all for your wedding? You should be choosing a church beause it has spiritual significance for you. It's a house of WORSHIP, not just a random building to be "rented" because you think it's pretty, like a hotel room or a car.
If you are, indeed, spiritual but just have no specific church affiliation, Unitarian Universalist churches are very good about adjusting the wedding ceremony to suit your beliefs, and also they are good to use for interfaith weddings. So start out by phoning those churches first.
Phone and ask for an appointment to come by and speak to someone about holding your wedding there.
2007-01-30 19:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the minister if he will marry you
Find out how much it cost for rental of the church for a marriage ceremony
Ask what the ministers fee is
Find out if he has a pianist or someone to help play for your wedding and what the fee is.
Find out if you are allowed to have a reception in the church hall
Find out if he has a sound system and if it is updated and whether or not it will cover your preferences
Find out the time increment you will be renting the church for.in hrs. And ask if they have a contract for the time period you want
Find out if you are expected to clean up after the ceremony or if it is part of the fee
Find out how much money you have to put down to rent the church and what $$ will be returned if you leave the church in tip top shape.
Ask what his expectations are of you and your fiance (does he want you to come in for counseling before the wedding for like the months before the ceremony)
Find out if you have the reception at the church if alcohol is allowed.
My dad was a minister and would never marry anyone who had been married before. Find out if he has any rules regarding the marriage.
Find out if he becomes ill or something occurs before the ceremony if he has someone to step in for him.
Find out if he will be doing a wedding rehearsal before the ceremony.
Explain your preferences for the wedding ceremony and find out how accomodating he is for those preferences and the wording of the ceremony.
Ask the minister if he has any questions for you.
Find out if the church has your date available.
2007-01-30 16:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start off by asking how much it would cost to "retain" the church on your special day. Let them know that you will need their minister to preform the ceremony. See if what the fee is to have the church cleaned after the ceremony. If you are having the reception there ask if they have a fellowship hall.
2007-01-30 16:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some churches will allow the use of the facility and let you bring in a justice of the peace. Also you will want to visit the church to see if it what you want, will it accommodate all of your needs.
size of wedding party
size of dress you don't want a huge one in a small church
then number of guests.
If you are looking at churches to please someone from either family forget it, go where you want after all it is a special day for the two of you.
2007-01-31 00:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by desiree c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't religious why are you getting married in church? You can get married at the place you're having the reception or some place that has special meaning for you and your fiance.....you just need a Justice of the Peace.
2007-01-30 16:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married in a church, you know. But I'm sure if you call a church and tell them you wanted to discuss getting married there, they will tell you all you need to know... chances are, they've done it once or twice before!
2007-01-30 16:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cost of retaining church, officiant's fee, organist's fee, what type of music will they allow, how long are you able to be there. (pics, getting dressed etc)
2007-02-03 10:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet wt the paastor well in advance and ask what is required if you are not a christian try Unitarian or Unity
2007-01-30 16:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋