We went out for 6 years and it was true love, it came to engagement at one point but we were young. Everything was great and all we did was talk about the future, kids, my job, marriage, where we want to live. I am graduating this may and it was all going according to plan my job is lined up we had a great summer, best one yet and then we had problems. Her schedule put stress on our relationship and everything fell apart. She claims to feel the same about me but needs space. Her reason, because she feels different when were hanging out and cant be happy when we hang out. After fighting it for 3 months, i let her go. We still talk on the phone but i have made a decision even if she comes back im done.
The break up happened sunday. Whats weird is i freaked out for the first 3 months but this time i feel relieved and excited to meet someone new. She called me cried saying i hope you take me back when i am ready. Im afraid if i do take her back it will never be the same.
2007-01-30 08:09:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pumpkin queen it's no longer a matter of keeping her or letting her go, shes gone. She probably only calling because we were and are best friends. I wish i could be with her and have everything go back to normal but the damage is done and me holding on and trying to win her back just isn't going to happen. Like i said this has been going on for 3 months, or maybe i didnt say the i dont remember but i cant any more it hurts too much. Your advice i great but just not possible but i could be wrong.
2007-01-30 08:23:41 · update #1
I had this years ago. It's the worst feeling in the world. I wanted to die. I got through it & I'm now married to a much better woman. I still think fondly of my first love now & then though.
2007-01-30 08:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by andy in greece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont' punish her for being honest and not stringing you around. if she stuck around and gave you what you wanted 100% of the time she'd resent you....and then you'd end up losing. but atleast she's going what's right for her. and if you "loved" her you would respect that. how can you claim to love someone and yet not tolerate them for being honest and strong? you might aswell say,"i love you so much and i love who you are, now dont do anything that pisses me off or makes life hard!" grow up and just be patient. and dont punish yourself!!!! by dating others you are just making yourself look and feel bad, because in your heart you want her! so where is this undying love? or is love just another word for "comfortable" and when your love is uncomfortable you drop it like a hot potatoe? WAIT for her, do the long distance. so life changed, plans changed, that's life! dont get into the habit of putting everything in stone. cause you know those grown up things you thought you wanted?? like children, marraige, carreers, well they change, the dynamics, the people, the situations. so just accept change with some grace and dignity. and dont let her go! you'll never forgive yourself!
2007-01-30 08:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds to me like you did what you had to do, but you were ready for it when you did it so that is going to help you out alot, but her on the other hand probably feels alot of guilt and mixed emotions, she will probably get over it and move on but right now she is just afraid of the big change. but i think that you handled it well, hang in there.
2007-01-30 08:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by stacyloaks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋