I am an attractive, educated girl with a great personality however I have been told that I look "unapproachable" and "pim". I am a tall (5'9) girl so I know that might scare some men off but not all of them. I have not had a date in a looonnngg time and am really starting to wonder what it is I need to change. Guys I need your opinion???? Im actually a very cool chic who loves football and will kill a dude in Madden but I cant even get that far to let a guy know that because they wont talk to me.
2007-01-30 08:03:50 · 30 answers · asked by explosyv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't change who you are to date anyone. Be yourself and just go to different places. I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you the way you are. Maybe you just act too much like "one of the boys" I shouldn't even be telling you this because it's kinda "guy code" but we don't really like to spend too much time with smart girls because they're to hard to crack. We like easy access, if you get my drift. Now promise you won't tell the guys what I just told you.
2007-01-30 08:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make yourself look approachable. How do this?
There are two scenarios:
A) You're in a group and in this case you just have to be conveying that everyone is having a good time, and people around will want to join. To even futher success you could say something a little louder than normal that would intrigue a guy walking by. Example: "Oh, I Know! All guys do it at least once a day!" This could get a guy walking by to easily stop and find out what you are talking about.
B) You are alone. In this case just give the guy indicators of interest. Give the guy eye contact that you are interested in. SMILE. Hell, even give him the "come over here" finger single.
If you are still having trouble, you should try approaching yourself, I know you might think guys will look down on this, but there are many that will actually think that it's pretty awesome that a girl had the guts to approach them.
2007-01-30 08:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is that if you wear high heals, quit, you are right in thinking your height could scare some guys off. A lot of guys don't like taller women. It is also not unusual for a guy to be afraid to approach a really beautiful woman either because he thinks she wouldn't be attracted to him or he assumes she is already taken. Just try to be down to earth and have fun, the right guy will come along, you may need to approach him though.
2007-01-30 08:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy --but there is no such thing as an unapproachable person UNLESS you make it that way--so you are tall--that's not going to stop a man --what is probably scaring them is if you don't smile --and have eye contact--because the combination of the two will get a man to come over and say hi--I am married and even out with my husband if I smile (not a come hither smile) just a I see you there and hi how ya doing smile they come over and actually apologize to my husband for being forward but wanted to say Hi --so its all in allowing yourself to be approached--
2007-01-30 08:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have the exact same problem and I'm a guy. I'm not the best looking guy but I'm not ugly either. I have a mean look so many girls will not approach me. But you have to figure out what works for you. I figured out that all of my gfs have been friends before lovers because they got to know me either at school, work, or we trained together.
2007-01-30 08:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys have a hard time approaching women in general. They usually need some liquid courage to get them going. Or they are still reeling from the last approach they did 2weeks ago that bombed. Best thing to do is look at a guy that u r interested in and smile. Hopefully that will give him enough incentive to come and appraoch u.
2007-01-30 08:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the exact spot as you, except I'm a senior. People always ask me if I'm a model too. I personally think that boys get very intimidated by a girl who is really pretty. Even if you think that if he came up to you you would want to talk to him, he might be thinking oh what if she rejects me and stuff. A guy getting rejected by a pretty girl would definitely make his confidence go down. Just be yourself. I'm really nice and friendly too and when I would just talk to guys who were in my class as if they were my best friend I noticed that they became less intimidated and talked to me more. Maybe you could try that? Good Luck!
2016-03-15 02:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I not a guy but girl to girl. Guy aren't interested in your education or if you think your attractive. They what a woman who look sexy and comfortable in her own skin. You need to make your self look approachable and friendly. Go to sports games/ sport bar that where most guys hang out, if that doesn't work ask some of your co-worker to set you up with someone with common interest.
2007-01-30 08:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strictly intimidation I think. Attractive and educated is enough to send some guys running but those aren't the guys you should be targeting. Try to pick someone you have a lot in common with and approach them. It is quite alright for a woman to make the first move. Cuz from the info given you will make some guy very happy.
2007-01-30 08:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
See theres 2 sides to look at the situation to 1. either blame yourself on why guys dont like you or approch you and how its your fault.... or 2. To maybe look at how you approch guys.
Sometimes guys need that extra first step when it comes to meeting a girl and if it means going that extra mile and talking to them then go for it. I can tell you this why your single now all reflects on your self doubt. IF you take initiative of your actions and make a change like maybe being more outgoing with guys and taking the first step in approching them then you will see the change.
best of wishes kesha.
2007-01-30 08:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋