ok.so.here's the problem.there's this girl in my college who has a huge crush on me. last term she came and told me how she felt abt me,plus she asked me if i felt the same way abt her.(she was sweet,quite pretty & a really nice person).i would have yes.but i wasn't looking for a relationship then,plus the fact i was still getting over another girl.i told her that & i also told her that we could still be friends.
now this term,she doesn't even talk to me as she used to before,though i know for a fact that she doesn't have any hard feelings on me(she told me she understands everything & that she's ok with it).we don't meet much since we don't take any classes together.(just during break & while passing through the hall)in the past,she used to sometimes come upto me,but not now.by what my friends have told me(she's even made a card for my b'day though i know for a fact that she's not planning anything special with me in mind for valentine's day)
i'm confused.why's she acting like this?
2007-01-30 08:01:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was really nice to her btw
2007-01-30 08:02:21 · update #1
Beause she got rejected in a sense. Even though you were nice about it she still feel rejected and is trying to move on. She isn't going to act the same way towards you because for all she knows you still don't have feelings for her. No girl is going to go out of their way to keep things on the same level unless she knows there might a chance of you liking her. If your feelings have changed I would tell her that. It seems like you liked the attention she was giving you, you just didnt want to make the commitment. I would look inside yourself and figure out where your feelings lie and then tell her.
Good Luck!
2007-01-30 08:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, she's probably thinking something on the lines of "WHAT'S THE FREAKING POINT!!". More than likely, she was giving you all that attention because she wanted more out of your relationship than just friendship. So, now that you've told her how you feel, she's probably decided that it would be best for the both of you if she backed off a little bit and moved on with her life. It seems to me that she's ready to enter a serious relationship with someone, and you're not the guy, so she's not going to put extra effort or time into your "friendship" to only come out of it with...well....a friendship. You know what I mean? Is it possible that you, now, want to be more than friends? Why would you want her to make special Valentine's plans for you, when you only want her for a buddy?
2007-01-30 16:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by keipitright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think she feels rejected. But, it's not your fault. I mean you told her up front how you felt about the whole situation. So, you really shouldn't feel bad. Or, she might have gotten over her little crush on you. It happens, especially after rejection! But, all you can do is give her some space...and maybe just ask her out on a date. That may make her feel a little better. Sometimes the best way to get over someone else is to find someone even better to occupy your TIME! Good Luck.
2007-01-30 16:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she does not want to put any pressure on you because she is scared you will call her a stalker. It sounds to me also like you want her after you. Since you are disappointed she has no plans to do anything for you for Valentine's Day. Well how about this. Why don't you approach her and do something nice for her for Valentine's day. Maybe then she would react. That is all she has done so far-reacted to you
2007-01-30 16:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just moved on. Girls can't wait forever. You weren't ready for a relationship then and thats what she wanted... to be in a relationship with you. Have you tried talking to her? Maybe she's waiting for you to come up to her. If you and her were pretty close then things should be okay once you start talking again. but probably not back to normal...
2007-01-30 16:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT seems to me that you have feelings for her enough to care about what shes doing for you on v-day and your b-day. I suggest telling her that you like her because you seem to be developing a crush. If you dont like her that it shouldnt bother you what she does for you on valentines day or your birthday. So i say either get over yourself or start clean. (if you know what i mean)
best of wishes kesha
2007-01-30 16:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like you want her to keep pursuing you. Do you want to be more than friends with her now, or you just want to be the same way it was. If you don't want to be with her, just let her be herself. Maybe she's gotten over you. Sometimes it is hard for girls to be friends with the guys they have/had a cruch on. Talkto her.
2007-01-30 16:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kendra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that she has issues - whatever those may be - and that you should just ignore her.
2007-01-30 16:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a woman for ya... we're all weird.. don't you know that.....
2007-01-30 16:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋