lately i've been having sexual feelings for women but i'm with a man. i've never experiement with a woman and dont know if i should or not. i've never considered it before but lately i've been really feeling like another woman would understand what i want and how i want it. plus to be honest i'm not being satisfied with my man. we hardly make love at all and when we do its good but not great. what should i do?
2007-01-30 07:56:52 · 17 answers · asked by CountryGal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just get a new man, sounds like he is a waste of a p e n i s
2007-01-30 08:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Man first.... tell him how you feel... if he loves you he will understand or at least try.... you should be with the person you love... regarding your sexual feelings for women... see if you man will let you be with a women or maybe have a threesome... again, if he loves he will understand... if he doesnt let you then he might loose you... now think about it... dont leave him just because you want to have sex with a woman because when you are with the woman... you will have sexual feelings to be with a man
2007-01-30 08:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by l_romanmd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are humans, and as far as I know, we need to experience things to be able to understand them and to be able to know if we like it or not. So in your case, if you are not sure, you should try… but try what? For what you wrote, it seems you are not only looking for sex, in fact, I think you are looking for a real relation with another woman.
To be simple, you could try having sex with another woman, maybe you have a friend that is ok with it, or know someone who would do it with you, but just sex. If you enjoy it, then at least you know that you are ok on that side.
But for a relation, unless you want to keep a double relation, then you would have to brake up with your current boyfriend and start a relation with a girl. That is a different story. You would have to think about it, cause you will loose your man.
Now, the bad side is that one way or another, you should talk to your boyfriend and explain everything. If he cares about you and the relation, he will do whatever is needed to keep you happy and help you out as much as he can. Of course, everything has a limit, and it depends on each person, so you would have to see what is he willing to sacrifice for you, cause you have to understand that he has feelings too and that you might hurt them.
I saw many people talking about threesome. I particularly love to have threesomes with my wife and other girls, and I think is like 99% of the cases with guys, but because the guy is sharing two women, both of them (or in my case at least my wife) must agree on the entire thing. But for your case, it might not be a good idea, as it might even put your boyfriend lower than what he is as another girl (and more if experienced with women) will please you so much, that you will forget about him in no time. So you have to be careful on what you do. Having a three some in your case should have to be only if he agrees after you talked to him and explained what is going on (if you just suggest a threesome and he doesn’t know what really is going on, he will probably say yes and things might get worse after).
I suggest you try what you feel you want and need, but always keep in mind what you have, and what you are willing to loose in exchange.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 08:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to spice things up with your current mate to make sex better for the both of you. The random thoughts you are having is normal...it's the thrill of the chase or the fact that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
Remember it's a 2 way street in a relationship, voice your thoughts with your mate and try to give things a kickstart.
2007-01-30 08:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by chad_zortman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its your man that isn't satisfying, not all men in general. But there is nothing wrong with being bi, or even becoming a lesbian if you truly feel that way.
2007-01-30 08:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by Lady K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your "man" that you feel this way, and he'll probably understand, and it could be an opportunity to bring another woman into the bedroom, if that is what you want. but if he doesnt like the idea, then you can start looking for a woman to please your needs, and then dump your bf for her. or dump him first if that's what you want.
2007-01-30 08:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment, see who you like.
2007-01-30 08:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by anny.j. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it with a woman. You then might know if you like it or not.
2007-01-30 08:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by tchem75 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u should always try everything once -there is no harm in it-u need to be true to yourself and if you are having these feelings go with it
2007-01-30 08:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, and let us know how it turns out
2007-01-30 08:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by GREATJJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋