What to do about bullying from day 1 in year 7 for a girl?

Question

My daughter is being harassed by a boy in her class.She has problems with perspiration and a boy makes fun of her at recess.He has ADDproblems and he repeats the same thing over and over againMy daughter came home depressed last night.He acts like an angel in the front of the new teacher.They are in a combined class with a teacher they had last yearHe used to give the teacher lip so she knows what he is like with Naomi. Apart from the fact that my g daughter showers regularly and uses deodorant in the morning how else can I help her with her perspiration problem?Any ideas please would be grateful for them.She says she will talk to the teacher today if he harasses heragain.I am wary of stepping in because at this age because she needs to handle some of this by herself.The other half ofmesay I should go to the principal and tell him my daughter is being bullied by this boy.Sensible answers only please.We have run out of tactics with this boy and how to deal with the situation.

I knew about the problem last year talked to the teacher and requested by letter to the principal that I did not want this boy in my daughters class.I did not get listened to.As the teacher said my daughter needs to be more assertive because she is very quiet.Hailey Ido not have my head stuck in the sand.The school does not deal with bullies that well. The kids with problems get away with more stuffIn the past I have had to tackle the school over other bullies.No I cant change schools because my daughter has good friends that she may not see next year as they are taking different paths.If we change schools like with apast bully that has left the then he wins.I dont have the confidence myself to talk to the principal.The whole school had lessons on bullying teaching them to be more assertive.My daughter has said that she does not want me to talk to the teachers because the boy finds out then he will make her life worse but Iwill try andtalk to the teacheragain.

Polynesia I am from Australia and you are right.Our school does not take our concerns seriously.The situation with bullying is getting worsein Australian schools but I wont take her out because she needs to be at school with her friends and learn to mix with other people.The teachers dont seem able to handle troubled kids.

Answer 1

You are right in not getting in the middle. That was the age that I finally fought back and was barely bothered again. It took only one time, but it was done. That was with another girl though. The boy, especially being that he has behavioral problems, would be more apt to get more violent. I don't think that this child should get away with his behavior no matter what his problems are though. Even if a child has ADD they are still capable of learning right from wrong. Too many times I saw this one child who is in special ed classes and is supposed to have ADD get away with bloody murder because of the label. The father would literally sit back, watch and do nothing. But still, your daughter needs to stick up for herself. This is the only way that it will stop.

I don't know any remedies for over perspiration. You should ask her Dr or go to a health food store. Perhaps they can recommend an herb that can help out with it.

Good luck.

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And for the people who say that she should get involved, everytime my mom went to the teacher, it got worse. It didn't stop till I stopped it.

Answer 2

Have you tried an anti-persperant called Mitchem sports this works effectively for the perspiration problem. I have similar the week before my period.
As to the bullying, I know over the years that in Australia the problem is getting worse and no principal ever listens, changing schools was not an option as it is a small rural town, after a few years of it I eventually took her out and put her in home schooling.
This solution worked for me but it may not for others (but her schooling improved 60%, back to A's & B+).
Being bullied can emotionaly scar a person for a long time and I really think you need to step in but only if your daughter is okay with it as it tends to make the problem worse.
I don't buy into the teachers saying he has ADD if he can behave in class at certain times sounds more like an undisiplined little s@#%$ if you ask me, usually children with ADD have been diagnosed and have medication which allows them to interact on a 'normal' level with others. It won't stop until the parents group together and demand it is stopped through the education board itself.

Answer 3

Your daughter may need to learn how to handle things on her own, but not this! Arrange a meeting with the teacher and the principal. Make sure they are aware of the problem, and discuss what can be done about it. Some schools have anti bullying policies. If they do there will be a set procedure to follow. If this doesnot get results put your concerns in writing including what action you would like taken i.e: meeting with boys parents, he or daughter changed to a different class. Present the letter in person but keep a copy so that you have a record of it. In the letter give a date by wich you want a response. Ask for it in writting also. Keep a record of every conversation and every written correspondance. If you have attempted three times unsuccessfully to get a result then take your complaint higher. To the education department. Find out if they have a procedure to follow. If they do not help then go to your local MP. Attend P and C meetings and raise the issue of bullying there. Good luck! Do not stop until you get the result you require. Bullying is not on, and his ADD does not make it okay. If that is the cause of his behaviour then his parents are responsible for not helping to manage his situation.

Answer 4

This is not the way your child should be treated with.... I would go straight to the the principal and tell him what 's been happening to your daughter and school system is doing nothing to stop that.

I believe that simple method will work... If same thing happens again, just change the school as if that school is not good enough to stop that bullying then its not a school...

Even if somebody is disable nobody has right to tease him/her. Show your support to your child... she will trust you more and will realise that there is somebody she can always rely on..

If changing school is not an option; talk to that guys parents...that may help...but it is purely school's and teachers' responsibility to safeguard your daughter agaisnt that kind of situation..

Again never let any teacher or schoolmate abuse my kid.. ..they are there to learn not to get aboused..

Hope you will make some wise decision...and your daughter will be happy again...

Cheers.

Answer 5

Talk to a dr about her perspiration.
Just because the boy repeats things, that does not mean that he has ADD. If he truly had ADD, he'd get bored of making fun of her.
YOU need to set up a meeting with the teacher and tell her about the problem...calmly. If the boy acts like an angel in front of her, she will not know of any problems. Despite what people think, teachers dont see EVERYTHING that happens in a classroom...nor on recess. If you set up a special, confidential meeting, the teacher will be more likely to pay extra attention to the boy especially when he's around your daughter.

Answer 6

Awww, I don't think there is anything I hate more than bullying!!! I would definitely speak with the teacher and the principal and get this resolved ASAP. If nothing gets resolved that way, then go to his parents, the superintendent, whatever you have to do. This little boy definitely needs to know how to respect people's feelings and ADD has nothing to do with the lack of respect he shows for others. He is definitely old enough to distinguish what is rude and insulting versus what is appropriate. As for the perspiration problem, my sister (although much older than your daughter) had a similar problem and our family doctor prescribed with a topical medicine that has helped tremendously. Good luck and unfortunately, this little boy will probably learn his lesson the hard way.

Answer 7

I don't know if your culture eats alot of spices or not, but this can cause body odor from the strong spice smells coming out through her pores. That may be her problem. Seven is quite young to have a perspiration problem, I'd get her to the Dr. Most children don't wear deodorant til puberty starts in! I'd set up a meeting with the teacher and the principal together and try to get this problem solved. Your daughter should not have to suffer because of another child, even if he does have his own problems! Best of luck with it!

Answer 8

Well first of all you need to take your daughter to a doc for a check up. Shower and deodorant are all she should need and if its too bad for the deodorant to keep odor away then she needs a professional opinion. There are special anti persperants out there that are for those with special needs look into them for her. As for the bully you say you are too timid to stand up to the school for your daughter I guess we know who she got that from. Go online with her and research on bullies and how to handle them this will give her more confidence. Tell her to stay with her friends and avoid the boy when ever possible.

Answer 9

You are the parent and you need to intervene. I believe in letting kids handle things themselves, but when it's getting to the point where your daughter is suffering emotionally (you say she's depressed), it's time for you to get your head out of the sand. Go talk to the teacher and the principal and, yes, the boy's parents. How on earth do you expect a child to deal with this kind of cruetly?

As far as the perspiration, have you talked to a doctor????

Answer 10

My kids are younger, but in our school we can call and speak with the teacher anytime. I would try calling the teacher and make him or her aware of the problem, tell them at what times and where it's happening the most and see if they can pay attention and catch this person in the act, this way this person is not aware that you said something, and maybe if he's caught and punished, he'll stop. It's such a hard age, good thing it's only a tiny portion of your whole life, but when your in it, it seems like forever...Good Luck.