My soon to be in-laws gave my fiance and I champagne flutes for Christmas. I am to believe that these were intended to be used at our wedding (reception). They are actually very beautiful crystal with a peacock coloring and design. However, my theme is fall colors. Not to mention, it has always been tradition in my family to have personalized wedding flutes with the date and names. What would you do?
Please don't be rude, this is a very sensitive subject for me. I don't want to hurt my parents or his parents feelings. I need a happy medium.
2007-01-30 07:47:27 · 23 answers · asked by angel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
And, yes, I'm the only daughter in the family.
I'll attach a photo of a somewhat similar design of the flutes. (These are not exact)
http://www.latinlizard.com/images/ShopProducts/fixed_1167525_4076591.jpg
2007-01-30 08:18:52 · update #1
This is a difficult position to be in. I have a couple of ideas, but they might not work since I haven't seen the flutes that you got.
Add things like ribbon and leaves to the base of the flutes to make them look more like the theme of your wedding. Bring the flutes to a place like Things Remembered or a store like that and see if you can have a small metal plate engraved and attached to the flutes.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-30 07:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could use them at your rehearsal dinner instead (since that is traditionally the part hosted by the groom's parents) and take a moment to draw attention to the champagne flutes, mention that they were a gift at Christmas, and that it's very special to you to be able to use them, etc. etc. etc..
That being said, color coordination is not as important as people's feelings. You could always get the engraved flutes you intended to use and enjoy both at the reception.
The notion that everything must match and the entire wedding and reception must be a flawless professional production are fairly new ideas. When my mother got married in 1947, the bridesmaids' dresses didn't match. When my in-laws got married 20 years later, there were no printed napkins and matchbooks, no reception favors. When I got married 20 years after that, the dresses matched and we had napkins and matchbooks, but the only reception favors were bags of birdseed to throw.
Write your own book for your own wedding, and do what makes the people who are important to you happy and comfortable.
2007-01-30 07:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Karen M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always tell your future in-laws that you think the flutes are too beautiful and precious to risk being broken or lost at the reception. Use the engraved flutes you want, then display the in-laws gift in a prominent place in your home.
2007-01-30 08:19:51 · answer #3 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a hint of one of your colors in the peacock coloring of the flutes? If so, take ribbon that is that color and tie it around the flutes so that it ties in with your colors.
Although I didn't click on the link, I imagine you can still have it personalized if that is important to you. Or if you do have the ribbon tied around it, have the ribbon personalized.
Good luck, and try not to sweat it too much!
2007-01-30 09:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by jaye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say tradition is important. You should see how your future husband feels about it though. Or maybe you are just assuming and are not correct as to why your future in laws gave you the champagne flutes.
2007-01-30 07:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Hotcakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your fiance and get him on the same page as you. Then talk to his mom or mom and dad about your family tradition and tell them you would like to use their flutes at the rehearsal dinner instead. Or arrange to have them waiting witha bottle of champagne for you in your weddning suite post reception.
2007-01-30 07:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for the flutes but gently tell them about your family tradition and wedding colors. Or just don't use them at your reception! Trust me nobody will notice...
2007-01-30 07:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by londonblondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with your husband to be? If it is a tradition that you feel very strongly about go ahead and use the glasses of your choice. If the in-laws say anything about the glasses just let them know that you wanted to follow your family tradition. Im sure they will understand.
2007-01-30 07:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if there is room why not just have the glasses they gave you engraved and use them anyway....that way you are using the glasses and keeping the tradition of personalized flutes. the colors will just add a hint of vibrant color...not enough that people will be commenting on them...but enough to notice their beauty
2007-01-30 07:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say figure out some way to incorporate them both. Maybe use his parents' gift at the rehersal dinner and then possible create a new tradition with them. Perhaps they could be your "New Year's" glasses (or maybe some other family celebration). That way, his parents will know they were special to you.
2007-01-30 08:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by java girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋