My husband and I married recently. Our wedding was entirely for our parents and I hated every minute of it! The planning process was completely awful and even the wedding itself was not what I wanted it to be. My problem is that now, I can't get over it. I keep thinking and thinking about how wonderful it would have been if we had done it our way, even though I know that kind of thinking is pointless.
Well, recently, I've been thinking about doing it over. Our dating anniversary is this summer (5 years together!) and I would really like to do something on that date, just for us. Something completely simple, I wouldn't even care if nobody else was there. Despite the huge wedding we had, I think doing something on the day we began our journey together as a couple would mean more to us than all of that hooplah last month. I just can't think of what. It's too early to renew our vows. Can anyone think of what we should do?
2007-01-30 07:40:15 · 15 answers · asked by austin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have a small outdoor ceremony. Just keep it simple where you two recite words (not necessarily vows) to each other and then just party hard afterwards. Make it a small affair with plenty of food and drinks.
2007-01-30 07:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that your day was turned into someone elses. I've seen some of the push and pull also, and sometimes it does put you in interesting spots, but deep down it really comes down to you and your husband. I think doing something small on the day of your dating anniversary is wonderful. Do you have a really close friend or family member that reflects your style? See if you could get them ordained to renew your vows, or even go away for a weekend and just commit yourselves in your own way. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-30 18:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you and your husband to do it again. But the truth is the marriage is more important, not the wedding. I had an elegant, sophisticated wedding. People all over town talked about the cake, the dresses, the procession, and dozens of roses that filled the room.
However the marriage was a complete nightmare. I would have traded the tackiest wedding in the world for a good marriage.
2007-01-30 15:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I feel sad for you, that you LET this happen. That was really immature of you, but it's not any more mature now to dwell on things the way you have been.
Don't do it over, there is nothing to do over! What you had was what it was, for whatever reasons. If it makes you feel better, plan a special day with your husband on another day, like you explained, but don't drag others into it.
If you want, renew your vows on your 10th or 25th, have a simple blessing or ceremony and a dinner.
2007-01-30 22:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a cruise
I recently got back from a cruise and I thought it was great to see couples renewing thier vows at sea.
Most cruise ships offer a package and have a tux rental on board.
You can take your dress or a new one.
It can be your wedding and a honeymoon all in one
2007-01-30 17:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Matt's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and think about where you met, or where you went on your first date, or perhaps where you were when he proposed. You get the idea. Why not tie one of these special events in with your special day? Discuss with your husband how he would have liked things to be regarding the wedding, and then take the most important things from his wishes and yours. Make it all about just the two of you! Best wishes!
2007-01-30 15:52:40 · answer #6 · answered by ceegt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who set a time limit on when to renew your vows? Sneak off together and get remarried! What a romantic thing to do and how wonderful for both of you to finally have the wedding you want!
Congratulations!!
2007-01-30 16:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say get away from it all. It is winter and cold. Go on a cruise and renew your vows on a beach somwhere. It isn't to early to renew your vows and it would help you get over your diappointment from the wedding
2007-01-30 17:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by froggiebutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just got married last August. We wen to Vegas...by ourselves. (Yes, I am Catholic.) My husband is shy and really did not a big deal wedding. I just wanted so badly to marry him I did not care. I also did not want to be the center of attention and I would have been nervous. SO we went to Vegas, got a DVD of it and showed everyone. We told everyone ahead of time and they understood. (I am also 36 and he is 35) We honeymooned there and had a lovely time)
I guess that does not help you, but I had to share that with you.
2007-01-30 16:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it.. something quiet, sweet and romantic for just the 2 of you. Celebrate, maybe a few days on the beach or a night or two at a cozy Bed and Breakfast.
2007-01-30 16:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cheeva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋