will a childminder be good to my little girl?

Question

had a really bad experiance with an after school club recently so i have now hired a local mum with a child in my daugters class who is a registered childminder to pick my little girl up 2 days a week whilst i am at work (i have to work as we rely on the money)
will she be good to my little girl or favor her own children every time
i really like her but my confidence has been knocked after i put my trust in the nasty women at the after school club.

blimey fat patti hope to god you have no children let alone a childminder, your gramma is awful & you obviously need the points - not recieved best answers bonus points yet ? !

Answer 1

If this lady is a registered childminder that means she will have had other kids probably from around your area - ask around - and find another parent who has used her childminding services so you can find out a bit about her before placing ur daughter with her.

I understand your concerns but if you do as much "homework" on the matter as you can your mind will be at rest somewhat - especially after you have had a bad experience.

Good Luck and I hope all goes well for you and your daughter

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear of your awful experience.
I am a playworker at an out of school club and take my
job very seriously. I treat the children the way I would
like my own children to be treated.
It,s so important to let parents and carers know that their children
will be well looked after. After all you put your trust in us! I don,t
blame you for not letting your little one go back to people who
have mistreated her. I would have done the same myself.
However, now you have been put in a position that you have
had to put your daughter into someone elses care. You really
can only do has you have done and that is place her with a
registered childminder. Make sure she has had all her checks
and also that she is fair with all of the children. The childminders
that I know are very good. Because they are doing a job that
they enjoy - in their own environment. Usually the children hate
to leave the childminders! Talk to your little girl because she
is of an age that she can tell you of any upsets that she has had
while at the childminders. No doubt your childminder is aware of
of your feelings and she herself should give you lots of reassurance! Good Luck!

Answer 3

I can understand your reservations about a childminder. I was a registered childminder until about 3 months ago and I also have a 6 year old son. I looked after children from 9 months to 12 years old and my son loved having them round. I was very careful not to favour my child but with a balance of not making him feel left out in his own home. Childminders are a good way of having you child cared for in a home from home environment and I've found childminders treat the children in their care like their own. Maybe let your daughter have a couple of trial sessions with the childminder while you are at home, make sure you visit the childminder while she has other children in her care so you can judge the care she gives, speak to other mums whose children the childminder looks after. You don't say how old your daughter is, but if shes school age you can ask her how happy she is at the childminders and judge from things she says if she likes it there, hope this helps. good luck !!!

Answer 4

I had bad experiences too - I'm afraid to say that the 9 childminders that the local authority authorised and recommended were absolutely awful. I've had another child and since I've given up work my eldest (who needed the childcare) has blossomed, improved at school and has loads more confidence. Some children just don't cope well with badly behaved, callous, avaricious and untrustworthy carers. If in any double use an ofsted'd nursery.

Answer 5

I think it will be good for her - it will be better to have close contact than in a club where she has to wait her turn to receive attention. Don't worry about the other mum favouring her daughter over yours - a friend of mine who does childminding actually makes sure her daughter behaves correctly and sets a good example to the kids that she looks after. Talk to the mum or even spend an hour in her house so that you feel more comfortable with it. It is a worry but I am sure she will be fine - perhaps even ask the mum for details of other kids she has looked after and speak to the parents for reassurance

Answer 6

My children go to a childminder who is a school mum. She tends to favour the minded children rather than her own ( a bit like I do when I have kids friends over to play)

I'm lucky that I alreay knew her really well before she was a child minder.

Kids are the best ones at sussing people out. If they are happy to go to the house, then you're probably ok.

good luck xx

Answer 7

Assuming that registration is equal to a standardized level of care, then she probably will be okay with your daughter. If she has cared for other's children, perhaps you can find them and ask them for a reference. I'm not sure of the requirements involved in becoming a registered childminder but, hopefully they are good guidelines with a screening process in place. Good luck.

Answer 8

dad says, 'My step daughter is a registered child minder. She had to attend classes at the local college and obtain qualifications. She is registered with The Care Commission here in the East Coast of Scotland. She is only allowed children in certain numbers and ages. To be a registered child minder is not a matter of just a name, she has to demonstrate she has the skills, the patience and the dedication. Her house was inspected, smoke alarms and other safety devices fitted and she has to have insurance.'.

Answer 9

Well naturally she will favor her own child, but keep in mind most mothers, childminders, etc. are good people who will take care of your child. How old is your daughter? Hopefully old enough to communicate if she is uncomfortable or ill-treated by this woman. I can understand your hesitations but it sounds like a good arrangement. But, you have to follow your instincts.

Answer 10

My daughter started nursery since she was 18 months old as I had to go back to work. Then I was stuck as she got older as it got more expensive. I put my trust in a local mother too, but my little girl took an instant dislike to her. But as she was older then I was able to ask her what she thought. Keep your daughter involved and see what she thinks. There will be signs! Its important that if as an only child she gets the interactive involvement with other children. Its not easy but stick with it!