I have a friend who has a 5 yr old girl, and the little girls grandmother babysits alot and the other day the grandmother and the little girl got in the shower together and they told my friend(the mother) they did this as if it wasn't a big deal, do you think this is right.....?
2007-01-30 07:21:10 · 10 answers · asked by Pompin Jo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the society has created the "weird" this is the mother's mother... she trusts her mother or she would not leave her daughter with her.. correct? let me ask you? was it "weird" when you showered with your entire female gym class? they weren't there to ensure you did not slip and fall.. or to conserve water... or whatever the reasons... yet.. there was this big open space and everyone came out of gym, showered and changed and went to class...?
I monitor and teach my children how to shower... by teach I mean, I am in there to catch them if they slip and fall... which they can and do at that age.. they do not constantly think of the dangers of a bath tub... whether bathing or showering.. which they want to do from as young as one to two.... grandmother could also just be trying/wanting to shower.. and rather than leave a five year old alone outside the bathroom where you can not hear if something is wrong from the shower? had her in for that reason... or, the five year old asked.... what do you do then? I know I say okay..even though that is the only time I can hope to be alone..... it is like being in a nice warm summer rain.... and they love it... they are "grown up" like mommy, and grammy.... and they are proud of their achievement.....
weird is that people twist things that are innocent into something sinister or wrong, for some odd (or weird) reason.....
2007-01-30 08:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No...I don't think it is strange at all. American society has a such a hangup about nudity. Nudity is dirty only if you make it so. Just like a kiss is sexual only if you intend it to be. Is it sexual when you kiss a relative? Is it sexual when you change a babies diaper? No. Her grandmother doesn't have anything that little girl won't have one day. Unless the child says it makes her uncomfortable then I see no problem with it. I often showered with my little girls from the time they were babies into their toddler years. Even now that they are older and really understand the difference between naked and clothed...they don't bring it up...they are not traumatized for life. I haven't needed to seek therapy or hypnosis to cleanse their memories. People need to lighten up.
2007-01-30 16:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by silentscreamer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly why would you think that this is a problem? I have a four year old who loves bathing with her grandma. They play with the bubbles and have a great time washing each other's hair. I would be concern if it was the grandpa or if it was a boy, but I don't see anything wrong with the little girls taking a shower with her grandma unless it is done against the child's wishes. To me my mother cares for my baby the same or better than I do and I trust her with anything and unless my daughter expresses some kind of discomfort in doing so I don't see why I would ever think that there is anything wrong with that.
2007-01-30 15:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by DEE 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I still have vague memories of taking showers with my mom and being supervised during showering/bathing up until I was about 5 years old. I fell asleep in the tub alot though so it was kind of necessary for me. I wouldn't consider it weird or wrong. It has nothing to do with "hang ups" about nudity, but alot more to do with safety. A child showering or bathing by themself that young probably doesn't really understand yet how easy it is to get hurt in the bath. It depends on the individual child. If they understand not to play too much, then allow them to shower by themselves. If they still need to be supervised, it's better to superivise them than to run your kid to the ER with a cracked skull.
2007-01-30 15:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is not really pleasant.I think a 5yr old should be able to understand certain issues like explaining to her that is idle for her to take her bath alone or the Grand mom helping her with her bath first without having it together with her.I think that's what most grandmothers.
2007-01-30 15:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Goood 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I think this is fine. I get into the shower with my 5-year-old son without a second thought. (I am male.) I wouldn't have a problem if his mother bathed with him.
2007-01-30 15:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by dentroll 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anyone should bathe with their children once their children are old enough to know the different body parts and ask questions. This seems a little sick to me!!
2007-01-30 16:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would not like that, but thats just me. I think its weird, yes shes young, but still she will still remember when she took a shower with her gma.
2007-01-30 21:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by angel01182 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it is weird. It's great if children grow up without hangups about nudity.
2007-01-30 15:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a bit weird. she can still supervise her without getting in with her, just give her a bath instead of a shower.I wouldn't want to have any memories of a naked grandma yuk!
2007-01-30 15:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by sweet lady 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋