i feel so left out?

Question

My parents like dont pay attention to me like at all. My sister is like mean to me and she always has attitude when she talks to me and it gets me mad and like a person like me i have a short temper. i hate it wen they never put me in they leave me out they take my brother everywhere and leave me home and they dont even bother to ask.! Why is that? They even treat me like a lil kid im not in elementary anymore im in high school? MY dad treats my other siblings better than me

Answer 1

why dont u just say somthing to them tell them how you feel i know they would under stand their yuor family and they love so them how u feel

Answer 2

I would say that your best bet is to go off to college and forget about all of that drama. I know it sounds hard but realistically there are only two or three ways your life can go. If you're in high school I'm sure you have a craving for attention and showing out in school or reacting negatively by using drugs or being permiscuous could make u regret a lot of things later on in life. You have to show your parents that even though they weren't the parents you needed...that you took it upon yourself to make sure your life turns out well. Sometimes parents neglect the child they feel needs the least help...so in a way you can think of it as a compliment...but that doesn't heal the warming feelings you fiend from your parents...and no attention matches theirs. Hmmm, try to stay strong and stay away from negative stuff ya know. It'll get easier...try taking walks, taking baths, pampering yourself, drawing, writing poetry, find a pet at the creek like a turtle or something, catch lightening bugs, call your friends or hand out with them...and just show them that you have a life and you don't need theirs until your strong enough to accep them for what they are putting you through. Good luck sweety!!

Answer 3

Ask yourself... why does this bother you? Jealousy? Parents not understanding how you feel? It's typical to go through this during our adoloscent years. And for one thing... I can tell you that it's crazy as hell!

First thing you need to do is stop and think. Analyze your behavior then theirs. It doesn't hurt to know or understand what the other person is thinking or feeling. Maybe they're having a bad or rough day. However, keep in mind that most parents love their children equally but differently. It's time that you move on and reevaluate the situation you are in.

Take this from a young adult who has been in the same shoes as you. One day you'll get a sense of 'why' you even acted the way you are right now. Growing out of your teens and into your adulthood is one of the best phases in life. You are more understanding of yourself and your needs.

Have you ever wondered... that all of your family is having a psychological influence on you? When your sister is mad... don't get mad back... listen and ask why even if she treats you badly. She may treat you badly WITHOUT even knowing it. Same thing goes for your parents who don't pay attention to you. Are you sure they're not paying attention to you even without knowing it?

I know everybody needs that attention in their lives because it makes us feel wanted and needed. Even as adults... we still need it when dating the opposite sex. It helps us feel good about being who we are.

Take it from there.

Answer 4

Like, stop using that word.

If you have a short temper...maybe that is one reason that they feel you need some space.

First ignore your sister, god know that if my sister would have took everything I did to her growing up seriously, we would never be friends now.

Second, when you feel ignored try (and this should be done in a calm and polite way) asking to be included.

Third, you are probably being treated like a young child because you are acting like one. Try being a little more mature, instead of losing your temper...smile or even just walk away. Make yourself become more involved in family activities. Also, try asking a older friend or school counsler for some suggestions on learning to speak to an adult...especially a parent.

Answer 5

I know how that is sometimes and it will eventually level out to where everyone gets the same ammount of attention as the other. If there is something that you have done to get you on your parents bad side then tell them you are sorry about that. if there are things your other siblings are doing that are an acomplishment your parents love then do something of your own that your parents can appreciate, and dont only do it once, continue to do it untill you notice them actually paying attention to you. If you cant get them to pay attention to you just go over and talk with them that it seems as if they are paying less attention to you and more to your siblings and you would like to be less neglected. and if that doesnt work then try to succed in all your work as much as possible and try to stand out in a crowd and have people compliment you in front of your parents and compliment you through your parents. it almost always works with one of those ways.

Answer 6

Perhaps is something in your attitude towards them, maybe they cannot relate to you and don't know how to approach you?...
It could be many things why your parents and siblings are so distant, have you sat down with them and asked if there is a problem, if they are upset at you or something?..... It seems to me there are other issues involved and we are not getting the whole story here, why would they act so different towards you and not your siblings???

Sit down with them and ask them what the problem is, if that does not work then talk to a school counselor

I wish you Luck and hope things get better-

Answer 7

I'm not really quite sure why this is. I had something similar when I was growing up. My sister always seemed to hate me and she was always trying to get me angry to get me into trouble. Children never get along with their siblings growing up but your parents love you no matter what I'm sure. If its really bugging you, i suppose you could always talk to your mum or dad about it and perhaps they don't even realise that they are treating you any different. Sometimes there's a black sheep in a family.. its nothing bad, but just that they have a very different personality and not everyone else understands them. Maybe that's what you are like? I'm sure in time everyone will grow to understand you and appreciate you as a great family member with wonderful talents and qualities! x

Answer 8

Have you sat down with your parents alone where no one else can interfere and told them how you feel? If not try and do this, and be prepared to act mature, don't cry, don't get upset. Approach the matter like a business deal. Make sure you tell your parents how hurt you are, how you would like to spend more time together, how you feel when your sister is mean to you. Discuss your good points such as grades, honesty, hard worker and make sure they realize what a great person you are, and how much you love them. Good luck!

Answer 9

Is there a question here? I'll just assume you want some advice. Talk to them about it. Tell them how you feel - they may not even know that you feel like you're being excluded. Be more open to your siblings and parents, too. I've found this helps a lot. Just remember that your family loves you very much, and don't have a lot of hard feelings toward them, life is too short for that.
I hope this helps!

Answer 10

Talk to your parents about your situation. I am the samething with my uncle. I am 19 but my uncle calls me "boy". I really feel disrespected by himself. If you have a short temper, try some relaxation techniques and don't let their negative affect. You're right about you being in high school, but you must know that you are underage of 18. Once you reach that age, you can gain all the freedom but don't overdue it. Remember you will responsiblities later but keep a calm and positive conscious. Have patience :-)

Answer 11

girl i no the feeling i have the same life you do and I'm 23yrs old now, and i have a family of my own and i still feel the same way if not more, i don't no why they do this to us I've tryed to talk to my family about it and they just try to make me feel like I'm crazy and its all in my head, well girl all i can say is try to make a life of your own find some one who Care's about you and putt's you first weather it be a friend or a guy it doesn't matter it just feels really good to feel wanted. I'm the oldest and my sister has always made me feel like i was crap, i have a short temper to, but watch when you finally get your stuff together and don't include them, there gonna be all up in your life trying to get a peace of you,,, good luck try to not let them get the best of you girl just keep on....