she takes it every where
to eat, to bed ,to daycare even in to timeout what to do o stop it
2007-01-30 07:19:54 · 7 answers · asked by josh z 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First, if it is 'truly' a 'comfort object' why are you allowing her to hold it when she is in 'time out' ... time out is SUPPOSED TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE, and her 'comfort object' negates that to the point that she may actually be 'using the time out' for some 'comfy alone time' instead ... thus reinforcing the 'bad behavior' you are using the time out to stop. Second ... how old is she? Ask her if she wants to be a 'big girl' or a 'baby?' Her answer should be 'a big girl' ... and your next step is to say "then you shouldn't need your (comfort object) any more, but I know that there are times when you might want to 'feel like a baby' for awhile, so why don't you let me put it up (HIGH) somewhere safe, and you can ask me to get it down for you when you really do need to hug it for awhile, but then you also must give it back so I can put it away again when you are done." Then you MUST let HER decide when she 'needs it' and when to put it away, because that is what 'big girls do' ... and when she has gone two whole weeks without asking for it, you should take her aside and 'congratulate her' for not wanting it any more, and you may then want to put it into a small 'showcase' that she can keep on a shelf in her room ... it's in the showcase to both 'show off the fact that she doesn't need it any more' and also to 'protect it from further use as a comfort object' ... and eventually you may be able to simply put it into storage to 'hold' until she's all grown up and 'ready to leave home' ... or she's getting married. That 'comfort object' that so distresses you now will then be something 'truly special' for both of you ... because it will signify both her 'being your baby' as well as her 'first steps toward growing up' and you can give it (back) to her, all 'clean and shiny and safe' as a 'sign' from you that you KNOW SHE'S OKAY and is ALL GROWN UP.
2007-01-30 07:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old is your girl. If she is fairly young, under 10, I wouldn't worry about it. She will drop the habit when she is ready. My son had a blanket that he drug around everywhere, like to drove my husband crazy, but one day he just quit taking it everywhere. I never hassled him about. He was about 8 or so, I think. He is now 11 and it's no problem. Good Luck.
2007-01-30 07:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try to litem where she can take it. My now 5 year old has a baby blanket that is only for bed, but he use to take it every where, I started with he could take it to daycare, but that it had to stay in the car and he couldn't take it in, little things like that.
2007-01-30 07:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just suggest she keep it safe under her pillow, I saw this on Super Nanny and it actually worked. Don't try to take it away though, that wont work. I am 21 and still sleep with my baby blanket lol.
2007-01-30 07:29:20 · answer #4 · answered by shugarmagnolia420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it that much. Some kids have their comfort object until they are way older. It's only a big deal if you make a big deal out of it.
2007-01-30 07:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by blondie21_97504 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple: take it away from her, and say "you're a big girl now, you don't need ____ anymore" and put it away out of her sight. she will probably scream bloody murder and cry for hours, but that's the only way to do it. she's certainly not going to give it up on her own, so you need to take it from her.
2007-01-30 07:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. You don't see many grown-ups carrying their blanket. So sometime along the way they get rid of it.
2007-01-30 07:29:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋