my boyfriend said i "have" to owe him something if he gets me something, why? do i absoulutly "HAVE" to owe him something? is it manditory?
2007-01-30 07:17:16 · 37 answers · asked by US 2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's stupid. How old is he? 13?
2007-01-30 07:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not sweetheart. He sounds selfish and self-serving. The only thing you may owe is yourself a new boyfriend. A person who gives with the expectation of something in return is not giving from his heart. To be happy enough to be able to give is the heart of a good person, think about that, sounds like you ha? Give yourself a break kiddo, dump him.
2007-01-30 07:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "owe" anyone anything. While many people feel they owe things to people, be it their loyalty, money, trust, etc, you do not owe anything to anyone. I'm not downplaying people's feelings, or saying it is bad to feel that you "owe" things to people. It seems that your boyfriend wants to have control over this particular situation. When he does something for you, it should be done b/c he wants to do it, not so you will owe him something. If his actions do not appear to be sincere in these particular situations, or he continues to let you know that you "owe" him something, it might be best for you to reevaluate your relationship, or this specific situation. However, it sounds like you may be already doing that by asking this question. Again, this is all just my opinion but I hope it helps.
2007-01-30 07:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Calli 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok well in my opinion i dont think that you should have to owe him anything. If he gets you anything he should be doing it because he loves you and not because he wants something in return. I would never buy him something just because he told me i had to. When should you? If you are serious about him then maybe like Valentines Day is coming up i would buy him something but not if he tells you that you have to.
2007-01-30 07:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no it isn't because everything should be done out of love not expecting anything in return, you don't do something just to get something in return you do it out of love and because you want to make that person happy that's what counts anyway it is better to give than to receive, love does things just because... you don't necessarily have to buy anything you can make him something or write a poem or a letter it's the thought that counts
2007-01-30 07:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!!!
..IF you are a prostitute (which I doubt, so , NO!). There is a thing about give and take, but it's definately not about OWING eachother.
Let it go, girlie. Oh! And, let him go, too. He's not worth it. There are plenty of great guys out there willing to love you for FREE, as well as buy you flowers just because, also for free. He and the real keepers will even bring you chicken soup (NOT Top Ramen), when you're sick, also, for FREE.
'Love don't cost a thing...'
2007-01-30 07:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by shees_a_challenge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm, like no. Why should it be a requirement that he gets something in return?? Has he ever bought you flowers? Just by that question alone, I bet that he hasn't.
Whatever happened to opening a door for a lady?
Or, pulling out her chair?
Simple gestures have always put me ahead of the game when I go on a date.
What I buy you roses, suprise you with them, and then you don't get me anything in return..............sounds kind of petty to me.
There's a thousand fish in the sea.......if he stops suprising you, and starts expecting you..........throw that fish back, bait your line and go fishing :)
2007-01-30 07:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by John G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. He is being manipulative. If he insists that this must happen, then perhaps you should just insist that he doesn't give you anything. No one should be under obligation like that. If he wants to do something for you or give you a gift, it should be from his heart because he wants to do that. He shouldn't be doing it for his own gain only.
2007-01-30 07:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't, you shouldn't. A relationship is about enjoying time with each other not who owes what. If it is that then it is more like a relationship based on material things.
2007-01-30 07:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
what a douche
you do not owe that boy a thing.
if he wants to buy you things that's his problem.
Maybe do a few nice things for him or something or buy him a gift once in a while but you DO NOT owe him a single thing.
he should just be happy to have a nice girlfriend
2007-01-30 07:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he gets you something...it's a GIFT and should be given freely, out of love for you, and with no expectations of anything in return. It's nice to also surprise him with gifts, but there is no reason, or mandate that this is expected. Personally this guy sounds selfish and classless...lose him and move on
2007-01-30 07:23:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋