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Ok so i've kind of been involved with this guy for a while now...he's great, we like all of the same things, he treats me amazingly, i know he really cares about me, BUT he's 4 years younger then me and still in high school (i'm in my 3rd year of college!) he's 17 and i'm going to be 21 at the end of March. I've told him I just want to keep it as a "just more then friends" level because i don't think a relationship is realistic. I'm going away to a different school next year an hour and a half away and he'll still be in grade 12! I know he really likes me and i'm worried that the age difference and where we are in our lives will make it not work out and he will end up getting hurt (which is the lst thing I wanna do). So...should i continue this because i do like him and enjoy being with him, or should i just let him go and if its meant to be it'll work out??

2007-01-30 07:13:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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In true love, there is no such thing as an age issue.

The love of my life was 17 when we met and I was 34. Those were the best two years of my life and I'll never ever forget it.

2007-01-30 08:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0 0

If you were 33 and 37 it wouldn't make much difference, but at the ages you are it does make a difference in my opinion.

Consider your own words in your question related to going to a different school Going to a different school wouldn't affect a grown-up relationship. You're both young, but he's way younger; and if I were in your shoes I wouldn't even consider it. People have different opinions, though - obviously.

He isn't a "guy". He's a boy. Boys his age are very likely to be attracted to young women slightly older (or far older) than they are. My first reaction to your question is that YOU may be the one who risks being hurt or potentially used, no matter how nicely he treats you.

Also, though, if he were my son (which would mean I'd want what is best for him) I would be very, very, unhappy if he were going out with someone who were that much older than he. I would be worried that he would miss out on sharing the usual high school things and develomental things and instead be involved in a relationship with someone who may want more than he was emotionally ready or able to be in.

He isn't the only person who will ever treat you well, so don't think you have to have a relationship with him just because of that.

So - as you can see - I vote "no" on the relationship; but then again, if you get into one it will most likely fizzle out in the near future, so maybe it doesn't matter a whole lot.

2007-01-30 15:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0 0

Age is just a number. Someone could be 17 but have the maturity level of a 25 year old and vice versa. It all depends on who that person is. If everything has been great so far, chances are it will continue to be great. The fact that you're going to be moving might become an issue. Trust issues may come up. But an hour and a half away isn't too far. Just give a relationship a chance. He may be "the one".

2007-01-30 15:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful♥Baby 2 · 0 0

Age is never an issue. Love is a feeling that crosses the boundaries of time and as long as it is true love nothing can stop it because it is so WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!

2007-01-30 15:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

as you get older, the age becomes less important. for now, keep it legal, and wait to mature more.

2007-01-30 15:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by Trombone_Girl 2 · 0 0

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