i guy ive been seeing, for nearly two months now. well i not sure whats going through his head, i feel hes pushing me away
he said hes got this problem that only he and his dad knows about and he cant tell me, and he wants to get it sorted, so all in all i said you need your space, he said yes, i know it must be hard but i gotta get it sorted, i think i need to know when this problem arose, cause if it was there before we met then he shouldnt have any excuse, it annoys me cause he wont talk to me about it.. i feel torn in what to do, surley for him it would be easier to just get rid off me and he can focus on what he needs to do.
2007-01-30 07:08:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Respect his space. It's responsible for him to want to DEAL with his personal problems before startng anything too serious with someone. It's better than coming to you with a storage shed of BAGGAGE.
2007-01-30 07:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by shees_a_challenge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u really love him or even care for him, u sure need to show some patience. Respect his privacy. Give him time and if u feel perturbed why not tell him and also tell him that u would like to help him in it. may be he lets u know. In any case u cant force urself on someone.
It is also likely that he wants to get away from you. Give him a chance and also brace urself for the situation, it will ultimately help u in facing the undesired situation.
Good luck
2007-01-30 15:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Sumit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what his problem is or when it originated - he obviously doesn't feel comfortable discussing it with you. You need to let it go. No matter the reason he needs his space, give it to him. The old saying goes "If you love something let it go, if it loves you it will return" (or something like that). If your relationship is meant to be it will resume when he has worked out his issues and he will look you up. If not, you can move on. Either way, Good luck and God Bless.
2007-01-30 15:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing for you to sort out. His problem could be extremely personal and painful. You pushing the envelope could jeapordize your friendship as well as your relationship. It's his problem, give him time and space if that's what he needs. Be his friend and let the rest come at his pace, he could probably use a friend more than a companion. Is he worth that to you?
2007-01-30 15:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU HARD UP OR SOMETHING, IS HE THE ONLY GUY IN YOUR TOWN. YOU ONLY DATED FOR TWO MONTHS, LET IT GO! HE DON'T WANT TO BE WITH YOU. I KNOW ANY GIRL WOULD WANT TO KNOW WHAT WENT WRONG, HOWEVER IT IS BETTER NOW THEN A YEAR OR TWO LATER GET OVER IT LEAVE HIM ALONE, BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT HE WANTS. I HOPE YOU DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM BECAUSE IF YOU DID, HE GOT WHAT HE REALLY WANTED FROM YOU AND IT IS OVER NOW. AND WHY YOU ARE FEELING TORN I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO FIGURE OUT. HE WANTS OUT MOVE ON AND DON'T GO BACK IT WILL NEVER WORK. IF HE IS NOT BIG ENOUGH TO TELL YOU, WALK AWAY WITH A SMILE ON YOUR FACE BUT DON'T GO BACK YOU REALLY WILL BE SORRY.
2007-01-30 15:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have gotten another girl pregnant, before you 2 met. It would be his own business on how to deal with that. He may have gotten a std. Leave him alone, give him his space to sort out this problem. If he has feelings for you, he'll come back.
2007-01-30 15:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by Donna D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is an excuse,he just want to get rid of you,a friend of mine had the same problem with her bf,she thought its worth it to wait for him until his problems are solved but quess what the guy got married without letting her know.two months is not long to get out of the relationship,good luck.
2007-01-30 15:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by prettyg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been two months since you started dating this guy, you can't expect him to disclose personal info about certain things just yet. Try not to give up on this fresh relationship because of this. Give it time.
2007-01-30 15:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space - if he comes around and wants to be with you he will but if you keep asking about it then that will push him away.
2007-01-30 15:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by midwestgurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he wants space...give it to him. Nothing you do can change that. If he really likes you back...he'll come back to you when he gets it worked out...if he's worth waiting for you shouldn't have any problems.
2007-01-30 15:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Da Phantom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋