2007-01-30 07:01:50 · 38 answers · asked by mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
adult children should not be in your house and should be living on there own...... if they are in your house then yes you need to charge them rent....
2007-01-30 07:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mye 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Charge the rent. If you don't need the money toward household expenses, then put it into an interest bearing account. When your daughter moves out, give it to her as a down payment on a house or condo. Give her the responsibility of being an adult, but dont charge her what it would cost to rent an apartment in the real world, if the average apartment in the area goes for $1200/mo charge her $800.
2007-01-30 07:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEFINITELY!
I think the operative word here is "adult". Where ever these two "adults" live they should be paying their own way. If you want to give them a bit of a break then price out an apartment in your area and charge them a bit less than they would have to pay out in the world.
They should ALSO be paying part of the utilities, food costs and sharing the household cleaning and upkeep duties and you should have a set date arranged when they will be moving out on their own- even if you agree to two years from now-set the date.
You are not helping young adults grow up and learn to be
independent when you give them everything for free.
Not charging them is saying your house is a free motel where they can have sex and get free food. And hey Mom, there ARE no free motels where they can have sex and get free food.
2007-01-30 07:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would charge them rent. You need to teach them responsibilty and they will learn it first there. I wouldn't allow the boyfriend to be in the house though. She needs to pay you rent first and learn the feeling of responsibility and see if she likes it enough to go out on her own and make the decision to live with someone else. If the boyfriend wants to live with you, that is a problem to begin with, cause he obviously doesn't want to try his best to provide. I would deffiently have a rent option, or they can pay it elsewhere. You certainly don't want to be an enabler, but an encourager!
2007-01-30 07:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We lived with my husbands Mother briefly after a big move. She did not charge us rent, but expected us to help out in other ways. We quickly fell into a system. We bought the grocery's and I cooked and cleaned. My husband took care of the yard work. It worked out well and everyone was happy! (as far as I know!!)
However, if they aren't overly responsible people, then, yes, I'd probably work out something more firm, like a fixed rent price.
2007-01-30 07:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No necessarily "charge" them rent....but since they are adults and have another party with them, they should feel obligated NOT to mooch off you. I'd suggest it to them. She's an adult now and should be on her own. It's called growing up and being responsible. And it's your job to make sure you're "child" is able to be a responsible adult in the real world. Don't cripple her by paying the way for her and the boyfriend.
2007-01-30 07:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes charge adult child rent to live at home. I wouldnt feel comfortable including boyfriend. They'd need to get another place outside my home.
2007-01-30 07:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If they are going to live there and use the electricity, water, heat, eat groceries, and whatever else you can think of, then charge them. If there are 3 of you there, then take your monthly bills and rent and add them together. Then divide it by 3 and that's amount you should all contribute each month to rent and bills.
2007-01-30 07:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by b-recca 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep, they are adults and can start acting like them. There is no reason you should have to support your daughter anymore and her boyfriend which isnt even related. If they lived in the real world they would have to pay rent on their apartment so they should have to do it now too.
2007-01-30 07:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by ehrlich 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Mom I most certainly would. Perhaps a reduced rate if they are saving money to move somewhere else but regardless in my opinion anyway it shows them how the real world runs, as well as some money habits. They should not expect to be staying anywhere and paying paying some of their own way. But if they both are working at good jobs and merely staying there because it is cheap then they should be paying the going rate.
2007-01-30 07:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummmm...Yeah you should charge them for staying with you. If you don't feel comfortable having them pay rent, sit down and talk to them about buying food, or helping you out with bills for the house as a way of payment. I lived with my mom until I was 19. I would give her $200 a month to pay for food and bills. Everything else I paid for myself.
2007-01-30 07:09:28 · answer #11 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋