My mother gave me up for adoption when I was 3 days old to my grandparents. After me she when on to have 2 other kid, in all she has 9, in which I'm da 7th one. Should i have some type of resentment against her.
2007-01-30 06:59:24 · 15 answers · asked by Brownie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Doesn't matter what you should or should not feel...how do you actually feel? If you have no resentment, that is a healthy way to feel. If you do, you might want to get some help so that the resentment is not actually hurting you.
2007-01-30 07:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have some kind of harsh feelings, and it is kind of peculiar that she had nine and only give up one.. However, things happen in life, and you try to make the best choices possible at the time. I would grieve a little and be a little mad, but then move on past it, and realize that you probably had life a little easier being raised by your grandparents then with 8 other children. You will be fine.
2007-01-30 08:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason she wasn't able to care for you. You can't ask anyone how you should feel, you have to ask yourself that. Is she trying to fix things now. Have you tried to find out what her situation was at the time? All in all just understand that for whatever reason she couldn't keep you, you have wonderful grandparents who have taken care of you and you were able to stay with your biological family! Some kids are given up to the state and foster care. I'm not saying that you should be perfectly happy about it, but you got to stay with family and maybe if she kept you with her life may not have been for the better.
2007-01-30 12:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have the choice to let this go and live your life to the fullest or harbor resentment feel bad about what happened. The past is the past. Don't let it define you. Don't let it control you. Think more about the here and now and towards the future, the destiny that you will create with every thought.
You have the choice. Choose wisely.
2007-01-30 07:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she chose to bring you into the world even though she couldn't take care of you at the time... Most people abort when they can't take care of a child, which is a shame... She chose to give you life... She may not be a good mother, but be thankful for your life..!
2007-01-30 07:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me you should have a serious talk with your mom. explain to your mother that she caused a lot of pain to you,as you was growing up.i mean when you let her know how you are feelin inside dont say anything that will cause an fight againts you two. just be claim and listen to what she has to say, then speak what ever is on your mind to her. even though your mother did that to you.what ever you do please dont ever hate your mother. because she is still your mother no matter what she has ever done to you in the past. i mean i know how u are feelin inside, but please love your mother cause God say honor your mother and father no matter what!!!!! Good luck!
2007-01-30 07:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no, understand that life is hard sometimes, but it is weird that she had 9 and gave away the 7th!
2007-01-30 07:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Mendi8a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. She wanted you to have a good life.
Did you have a good LIfe?
2007-01-30 07:03:20 · answer #8 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you had a better life because she did. she could have given you to strangers, had an abortion, etc. but gave you to ppl who cared
2007-01-30 07:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it first. She may have had good reason.
2007-01-30 07:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋