my friends have all told me your first time is rubbish and hurts alot!is there any way of numbing the pain?i always thought your first time was something magical??but now ive been told you bleed also can this not get a little messy?!im 16 in a serious relationship and have been thinking of taking things to the next level but as a virgin am a little worried?!any advice, dont get me wrong i am ready and have thought long and hard about it??!xx
2007-01-30 06:44:37 · 29 answers · asked by lil Miss Irish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF YOU BOTH TAKE YOUR TIME AND HE TREAT'S YOU WITH CARE IT WILL BE OK
BUT LIKE MOST YOUNG BOY'S HE WILL WANT IT OVER AS QUICK AS POSSIBLE AND HE WILL HURT YOU
BUT BE SURE YOU ARE READY , AND USE PROTECTION
2007-01-30 06:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its good that you have thought about this before you just jump right in because once it is gone you cant get it back.
Anyway to be honest your first time will hurt but every girl is different so you may not feel it as painful as your friends did. I'm afraid there is no way of numbing the pain and some girls can bleed but its not as much as you think it will be, it wont get messy so don't worry about that.
Its not the act of sex which makes your first time special its who you choose to share that first time with that makes it magical. If you are truly in a serious relationship and feel that this guy is the one you want to share your first time with then regardless of a little pain it will be magical for you.
Good luck xxx
2007-01-30 15:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaw skittles....
We can not tell you how you feel. You will not truly know until this happens.
Make sure you are doing this for the right reasons, and with the right person...otherwise, what could be beautiful may turn out disastrous.
Don't let anyone pressure you!!
If you guys both care about each other, and realize the physical aspects of what is happening here you should go in to it atleast educated.
It can be uncomfortable at first, but it gets a little better. But only you know when you're ready.
Take care, and good luck!
2007-01-30 14:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first time was very nice but the guy I was with was trying to make it nice for me. He was as gentle as he could have been and, yes it was sore and yes, I did bleed but it was with someone I liked and he made it memorable for all the right reasons. If it is with someone who wants to really be with you then it will be magical. Just take your time and be sure it is with the right guy and not someone who will let others know that you are easy. It wil be worth the wait - I waited til I was 17 and did not care what anyone thought. The guy I lost my virginity to is someone who is still in my life, as a friend and you can have that too if you choose well.
2007-01-30 17:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not hurt. It may be a little uncomfortable, but if you are ready, sexually aroused, then it should be fine. The first time is generally not "magical". I truthfully can't even remember the way my first time went, although I stayed with him for 5 years after, and I have plenty of memories from that! Make sure you are both comfortable and relaxed and have a lot of foreplay. And please use a condom, that is very important. Also, the lube on the condom helps ease the way as well.
2007-01-30 14:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every girl is different. Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you bleed. Sometimes you don't. Others just find it uncomfortable, where as others feel it can bring you closer to your loved one. To help make it better, do it for the first time with partner - with NOBODY at all in the house or nobody due to arrive home (If your luck is anything like mine, then somebody will come home just that extra bit earlier) This will help you feel more relaxed, which will make you less tense ( decreases the chance of it being painful)
Also tell your boyfriend that you love him, and make him reassure you that he loves you too and that will make you feel even more comfortable. But remember, never do anything your not comfortable with or don't feel like you have to do it because everybody else is doing it.
Usually you don't have mind-blowing orgasms on your first time but don't panic, it gets better. Have fun!
2007-01-30 15:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's different for everyone. it can be a little painful, but just ask your boyfriend to take things slowly & carefully... it should be fine. and yes, u might bleed a bit, but that's natural. sometimes there is a thin membrane of skin called the hymen that gets broken during the first time u have sex. it's not as painful or as bad as it sounds. main thing is to make sure that u are ready to take this step, and to try to relax. use lots of foreplay (and don't forget protection !) i'm sure it will be fine, and it gets better with practice ! ;)
2007-01-30 14:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It didnt hurt for me but it wasnt that good or felt anything like it does now. Sex is a fantastic thing and nothing to be scared of.
The hymen, which is the layer of skin that gets broken and can bleed during your first time, can get broken at any point before that by riding your bike or anything!
So it may not neceserly hurt because of that.
Its just something you have to get over with and like someone else said the more you do it the more you will enjoy it.
The hype is overrated and its just not that bad at all.
You just have to get used to doing it so you enjoy it.
2007-01-30 14:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is too young for a serious relationship that goes that far.
It will hurt, not just physically but mentally,if the relationship does not last as many early age ones do not,then in later life you will regret that you gave away your virginity so lightly.
When it happens when you are that much older it will not seem to matter as the pain will fade compared with the deep satisfaction of knowing you have given it to the one who will be so much a part of your future life.
Hold on to your precious gift.
2007-01-30 14:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by david a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vasaline, keep your skin moist, if you rush and get straight to sex its gonna hurt. i find even now after having a nice long soak in the bath and moisturised my body, a touch of vasaline helps.
you will be fine, just make sure your ready, you dont want to be worrying about it as it can become a physcological issue, and you will think it hurts. RELAX. sex is supposed to be an ejoyable experience. xxxxxxxxxx
2007-01-30 15:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by emz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, use a condom ok:) Be safe. If your boyfriend know's how to make love and is gentle with you then it should not hurt. Ask him to use a lubricant. It did not hurt me at all and i did not bleed at all. I loved it. Just be safe you don't want to have a baby at such a young age. Take care :))
2007-01-30 14:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋