Why is it when people hear that you are getting married by the Justice of Peace they assume you are knocked up?? Why can’t people just be okay with the fact that weddings are expensive and not everyone has a mommy and Daddy to pay for there wedding.
2007-01-30 06:34:26 · 30 answers · asked by calalily82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Did you know that you can still have a church wedding or a pastor/minister marry you without the big expense of a major reception? People all over the world are very set in their preconceptions from years and years of a certain way. You really should take offense, but patiently explain your reasons. Good luck and God Bless Your Marriage.
2007-01-30 06:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wanted to have my wedding at the courthouse LOL We already have a son who is 11 months old, & have been together for 3 1/2 years. We were planning on getting married before I was pregnant, but not many people believe that, cuz I didn't have a ring BECAUSE we could not afford it. We still cannot afford an expensive wedding, but our families won't let us get married at the courthouse. Yeah, it's not really their decision, but we just do NOT want to even HEAR about how we did that for the rest of our lives ya know? So we are having a backyard ceremony with a simple small reception afterwards for about $3,000 including my dress & everything. I don't think that, I would just assume that you either a) did not have the money OR b) didn't give a damn about the hype of weddings, all that matters is that you two are together.
Weddings are just to show everybody else, not to show yourself. You won't love your partner ANY less if you have a small wedding
2007-01-30 08:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by starlightstarbright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi people alaway ask that question and its insulting isnt if,Im getting married this year and when we announced us getting married the first thing my fiances dad said is she pregnant and i was fuming. When they say this you can tell they dont have much respect for people. Thinking you are only getting married because they think you are pregnant. When he said this my mum shouted down the phone' no she is not' . Its the same with a church wedding, some people believe you shouldnt get married in a church if you dont go to church and then you have got the other religions who say there is no way to get married in the church if you are living together.
I just say well its what i want to do. People just dont like the thought of other people being happy. I have to admit you are worng about it not being expensive thouh its actually dearer to have a wedding there than it is a big whote wedding at the church. So its still no matter what going to be expensive so i think you should have the best wedding you can
2007-01-31 06:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married at the courthouse in a neighboring state by a judge because we are both non-religious, and at the time in NC you had to be married by licensed clergy. We took my best friend and my sister and her husband. My Mother made my dress. We did have rings, but no reception at all, we just left straight for the honeymoon. That was almost 33 years ago, so things are working out fine!
I don't think people assume pregnancy, at least not in a less wealthy, rural area like the one I live in. What I would think is, "There is a smart couple who would rather have a down payment on their house than a multi-thousand dollar party!"
My hubby and I may have an anniversary party with our grandchildren, family and friends. So you can always have a celebration sometime in the future!
Good luck!
2007-01-30 16:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ara57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a registry office wedding with just my in laws as witnesses and my husband returned to work straight after. Everyone was surprised but I had a reception a week later that was cheap and cheerful. No big decorations, just a band, disco and good food. No speeches, or best man, bridesmaids or anything like that. Maybe you could invite some people to the pub afterwards and offer to buy the first round only. We were skint and that is what we did like that. If people support you, it doesn't matter how you get married, they should just be so pleased for you and enjoy however you choose to spend it. Good luck.
2007-01-30 09:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by india 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a carry over from days gone by. At one time, a gal was whisked off to the JP or county judge to get it legal before the rest of the world found out she was pregnant. And then the baby came "prematurely". But it fooled few people.
It's hard for some people to imagine that there are some who are actually more comfortable without a big wedding and want something very private & intimate.
I wouldn't worry about these closed-minded people.
2007-01-30 07:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I actually had alot of friends get married at the courthouse. Either they didn't have the money for a wedding, or their parents gave them the money and they chose to spend it on a house or something more practical, or some just did the ceremony there in private and had a big reception. Hey whatever works, and to each his own. It's not the ceremony that matters it's the next 75 years that do!
2007-01-30 07:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by auequine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people think that. I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for 10 years and have 2 kids together. They will have a big wedding someday. They will go to the JP for medical insurance purposes. Then when they have the money they will plan a big wedding.
Don't pay attention to what other people say! Congrats and good luck!!
2007-01-30 08:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's called being narrow minded and gloating!! Lol...don't worry, so many people get married by the JoP now, or in the registry office, it's called free choice, and you have a right to choose what you feel is best for you. I'm also getting married at the registry office, who wants a big old draughty church anyway lol...have a great wedding!
2007-01-30 23:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I got engaged at 19 (after being with him for 6 years) and although we weren't planning to get married until much later all my family assumed that i was pregnant.. and then later when i was married in front of JOP.. rumours again started flying.. i figured stuff what other people think. I still had a great day.. didn't cause me or my family to go bankrupt and from what i heard my family enjoyed it to...
2007-01-30 06:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋