I have asked this question once already but it was in the middle of the night so I'm hoping for more answers now. Thanks for any input.
I know there are some hospitals in bigger cities that honor unprepared mothers by taking in their babies if the mother abandons them there. Does anyone know if there are adoption programs at these hospitals? Also, is adoption always insanely expensive? About how much?
2007-01-30 06:09:58 · 6 answers · asked by squealy68 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My apologies for not making this clear. I am unable to have babies. For the most part I've been okay with that. I am a nurse and had a home care case whom I fell in LOVE with. Honestly, the only baby I ever really felt I could take home and raise. But, I've only had a few pediatric home care cases so my exposure has been limited. Anyhow, I just loved her and I miss her so. After almost a year I opted to stop the case due to the atmosphere...father a drunk, cops at the house all the time, mother unfit, etc. Anyhow, it has spurred my interest in adopting but I'm 38 now so I'm not certain it's what I want to do... just a thought I've had for a while and was wondering what hospitals did with the abandoned babies. In my city we never had it happen at the hospital I worked at so I had no clue. I'm also clueless on how to approach the whole adoption idea. I haven't even told my husband it's crossed my mind lately. Anyhow, thanks for listening and thanks so much for your input.
2007-01-30 16:58:05 · update #1
I gave you all a thumbs up for your kindness. Thanks again. Many Blessings sent your way!
2007-01-30 17:01:30 · update #2
Hey ya'll who answered.... I just posted a question out there in Y.A. to see if I could spark some interesting leads. I asked if there were any unprepared expectant moms looking for a loving home for their babies. That was a great idea. I'll watch closely!! Blessings again!!
2007-01-30 17:07:20 · update #3
You're talking about Safe Haven laws. Babies abandoned through Safe Haven are placed in the custody of the state, enter foster care, with the intent of adoption. Find out more at:
http://www.ncsl.org/programs/cyf/ailaws.htm
2007-01-30 06:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More than likely there are foster programs first for the drop off centers. These are people already "in the system", and usually even when you adopt, there are instances where the baby needs to go into a foster home until the revocation period is over, varies from state to state.
Adoption can range between 5 & 40 thousand dollars. A good mid range for a medium to high income couple would be 15 K. This is usually through an agency, however, all are different, so do your research. Remember, you are paying for social workers, paper work, counseling, record keeping, birth mother searches, etc., that they do for you. It takes time, you need to be very patient, and you need to be prepared. I suggest you read, read, read. Talk about it too, you would be suprised how many of your close acquaintances have some sort of adoption story, either their own, or a relative, or close friend.
2007-01-30 08:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
These programs were designed to give moms a safe place to leave their babies instead of in the dumpster or behind an abandoned building. The locations are hospitals, fire departments and police stations.
These locations do not have adoption programs, but they call social services to take the infant and then it is placed in an adoption agency or foster home.
For families looking into adopting a child it can be expensive but rates vary from town to town and I'm sure from kid to kid.
It does not cost any money for an unprepared mother to go through an adoption agency to relinquish her baby.
If you contact your local Planned Parenthood they may be able to help you get in contact with an adoption agency before the birth of your baby and work with you in finding prenatal care, if needed, and a good family for your baby.
2007-01-30 06:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by mlcacek 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In general, I'm not sure. But I can tell you we had a mother who left a baby at our ER, also a mother (or someone) who left a newborn baby in our parking garage in a duffel bag behind someone's car. Luckily both these babies were ok, both went into custody of social services as soon as they were stable. So, to answer what I think you're asking - you don't get first crack at the baby if you're there first. They go to social services and are put in foster care before being put up for adoption.
Yes, adoption is pretty expensive, your best bet is to befriend a pregnant teen who wants to give up her baby. How you'd go about this though I'm not sure!!! I did have a friend who gave up her baby for adoption to the manager of the supermarket she worked in. Somehow he got word she was giving the baby up and approached her to ask if she'd consider it. That adoption was very easy and inexpensive.
2007-01-30 06:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to adopt or put your baby up for adoption? If you want to adopt, you can do an independent adoption (without an angency) for a few hundred dollars for the cost of lawyer fees and court fees. You just have to find the birth mother on your own. Suggestions are placing adds in newspapers, internet sites, and maybe even Y/A.
2007-01-30 06:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They will be put in foster care until adoptive parents are found. With newborns, it's almost always VERY FAST.
You can drop the baby off at the fire department and the police station.
2007-01-30 06:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋