What good are men anymore?

Question

They can't provide for their families (wife has to dump kids in daycare and go to work), they aren't the heads of their families anymore, they are not protecters, they want to play the field even in their 50's and don't want to make a committment. They want woman to pay their part of a date, and split the bills (this is more like a room mate situation or friends going out than a relationship. If we women have to do everything for ourselves , what does a man do? Sex is important but there is more to a relationship than sex. What has happened to the caring , take care of his family, committed to his wife, type man? p.s. before anyone mentions women's lib, not all of us are women's libbers. I hate what women have become and consider myself a traditional woman who has no desire to compete with men but it seems that men don't want a traditional relationship anymore, and I am presuming because todays attitude caters to their every desire and asks nothing from them. Am I right??

Answer 1

you sure sound like you're meeting men in the wrong places. There are plenty of good men out there, but most of them aren't in bars. I don't know if I would make a good man by your standards, but I bring home a paycheck, wife stayed at home for 6 years, we have 3 kids, she now works part time. Problem is that men are getting belittled more and more in the workplace and it is very hard to make the kinds of wages men used to make in order to live on one income. I now have to compete with half of india and China and I haven't had a pay raise for a long time and I don't give a crap anymore. I'm not a machine you know.

Answer 2

They are still good men out there. The situation with the spilt bills and all that, is normal. Men everything for themselves just like women. Men tend to over do it sometimes. Plus now, women aren't starting to mind. Women I know (including young women too) like to be independent, and have their two cents put in. It's like ttheey say- Chivalry is dead. Men aren't changing the traditional relationships, we're just now trying to respect women and what they want. I may not be able to change your attitude towards this, but men are trying hard. I agree there is more to a relationship than just sex, but the thing some men want more than others. Men that your asking for cant coexist anymore, because women are rising up and want to get their voices heard.

Answer 3

You NEED to find a better man, or look at all the older lonely people, who have no one! They are out there, but with that kind of an attitude you will not find one! And a lot can be said for women who aren't very appealing either! Have you seen some of the women today? No wonder the good ones are all in hiding!

Answer 4

Sounds like you have had some bad relationships in the past. Not all men are like that, i know that is easier said considering that i am a guy, but it is true. There are still men out there that would love and take care of women and their families. Men that would put others in front of themselves. But true it is good for women to get out there and take care of themselves but there are men that would help with that.

Answer 5

Back when I was in the Army, a friend was nearly court martialled because he stated that women were different from men and ought to have different "roles". His statement put him in violation of the government's male-female equality policy. He learned his lesson in a hurry--equality between the sexes is the law of the land.

You are clearly asking for men to fulfill traditional roles. If a business were to declare that they pay men more than women because men traditionally need to support families, that business would be subjected to a string of lawsuits.

Women want equal pay? Then they need to pick up their half of the check when dating. If not, please do not complain to me that you are being discriminated against when a man gets a job you applied for.

Like it or not, feminism is the law of the land. A man who discriminates against women can be hauled into court, if not jail. Women have demanded equality for decades. Now they have it. If you have complaints, please do not bug us men. Go see your feminist sisters.

Answer 6

Wow!!

You can't blame it all on the men honey! Men are sexual creatures, and unlike women, when we get into a serious relationship our libido doesn't bottom out. If you stop doing those things that attracted us to you then we're going to fall out of love. If we fall out of love we're not going to treat you like our girlfriend anymore.

If you want to be a stay at home mom, then we expect to see the house clean and dinner on the table when we get home from a grueling 10 hour day at work. We'd like to see you in that lingerie we bought you every once in a while dancing around a little instead of just laying there asking, "Is it over yet?" Unlike women, men are visual, we'd like you to maintain the same exercise regiment you had when you were looking for a boyfriend instead of gaining 50 lbs by sitting on the couch watching American Idol and eating boxes of bonbons. A relationship is about compromise and pulling you own weight. If you don't want to pay the bill, then make sure we're taken care of when we get home or when we get to the car, or when we drag you into the broom closet at the restaurant. If you want us to buy you that $400 coach purse or nice jewelry, then don't nag the crap out of us when we want to buy that $350 Pete Rose rookie card. That purse is no more useful then the baseball card. Women want romance, fine, men was visuals. It would be nice if when we got home from work you'd be washing the dishes in only an apron. Then maybe we'll surround the bathtub with candles, fill it with rose peddles and wash your hair for you. Maybe then we'd write you little love notes and hide them around the house. But, BUT, if you're not willing to give us what we need, then we won't be willing to give you what you need.

Now stick that in your pipe and smoke it!

Answer 7

You are really upset with someone, right? A man?

It is not fair to stereotype men. And women for that matter.

I never think of myself as liberated or my man as a New Age one.

We are just people with needs and these do not always tally with each other- sometimes he is not in a position to be the hunter gatherer and sometimes I feel competitive. Not because he doesn't want his "role" or doesn't understand it but because he is in a different space. Not because I am a feminist (I dislike the label- I am feminine and that is about it) but because I too like to achieve something for me.

Today's attitude is formed by society. Society is formed by individuals. Like the man you appear to be raging at, those feminists you seem to distance yourself from and folk like myself- who are just PEOPLE without gender-specific hang ups.

Attitude is not a blanket excuse for how people treat you, or, indeed, how you treat them.

Attitude is what we affect in order to achieve our own goals. The more positive it is, the better your life leading up to achieving your goals.

Lovely word- attitude... Check it out one day. Sorry- side-tracking here.

What are men good for? OK- here is what MY man is good for. Good for looking at me and smiling when I smile at him. Laughing. Because his laugh makes me happy. For using his hands to ease my back-ache. For making my 15 year old daughter feel like she is special when he threatens to buy a shotgun to keep the boys at bay. For reaching a foot higher than I can because he is a foot taller than I am. For being my best friend who will not go off in a huff because I didn't phone her/him last week. For making endless cups of tea and for not knowing how a washing machine works. For cleaning my car while I repair the video recorder he knackered?! For helping me realise that while I CAN do everything for myself, and probably should, I don't HAVE to because he can share in all that. And for more personal things too.

So- men are our other halves because there is no point to half a species.

Pro-creation is how we "immortalise" ourselves. For pro-creation the homo sapien (if we are not talking immaculate conception) requires the opposite gender.

And sometimes those simple explanations are the best.

Answer 8

No. Do you really think a "liberated" woman is going to cater to a man's every desire? Heck no they don't. Not that I would mind if they did! But on the whole I think I prefer a woman who can stand on her own two feet sucessfully and be my equal.

Answer 9

Hey, just because you've met some guys you don't like doesn't mean all men are jerks. Just like if you meet one girl who's a jerk, not ALL girls are jerks. You can't judge an entire gender on a handful of people. And I say this having had a father who treated my mom, my brother, and me like crud.

I know a lot of great guys, and I know some jerks. That's just how it is. As long as you never settle for a guy who won't pay for your date or take care of you, because as a man he should, then don't stress about it.

Answer 10

This question could go either way...which is why some men and women cheat. None of us are perfect and stuff happens. I've been a boyfriend and a husband. I was faithful to the women in my life and supported my kids...(still do, even though my youngest is 26). I'm single and loving it now. I don't need anyone "to complete me"...nor do I feel anyone should want or need that from me.

So to answer your only question in this post, YES you are definitely wrong. You sound like a wounded psycho-***** on a mission to burn every man because you made a mistake.