I was seeing this guy but we got too serious too quick and he got scared. We started hanging out everyday and we became "official" we also went on a trip to Seattle together.But,he got really scared of getting into another relationship(he just got out of a 4 year one) and told me we had to take it slower.We stopped seeing each other so often(about twice a week) and it seemed like he didnt like me anymore.This isnt what I wanted though,so i decided that we couldnt talk anymore, b/c it hurt me too much.I havent called him since but he's called me 3 times and text me once.I've only picked up one time, but I was busy so he said he'd call me later(that was one Saturday and he hasnt called back since).It's really hard for me to talk to him b/c I will start to want to be with him again. Why do you think he's calling & should I call him back? If I do call him what should I say? Or should I just text him and leave it up to him to call me back if he wants to.
2007-01-30 05:55:36 · 36 answers · asked by kimmy_717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, it sounds like he's not ready for a relationship yet. this is something that you want to clear the air. you need to talk to him. be ready to break it off since you feel that he's distance himself from you.
2007-01-30 06:01:32 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How to drive a man away in two easy lessons:
1] If he says he wants things to slow down - say no baby, it hurts me to talk to you if I can't be with you all the time
2] Don't answer his phone calls
It's clear he likes you. It is also clear that he doesn't want to feel vulnerable by being serious about you. And it is painfully clear that you are an all or nothing girl. Do you both a favor and call him back and tell him you're too hung up on him to have a halfway relationship. If he's as spooked by clinginess as he seems he will end the relationship - but at least it will be a real and honest break. If you're honest with each other now perhaps you can a relationship in the future when the timing is better.
2007-01-30 06:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship similar to this. we where together about 6 times a week. He practically lived in my house! I liked it, but he thought that we needed some space from each other. we cut it down to seeing each other twice a week and texting only every so often.
I didn't like the arrangement.
We eventually had a "relationship talk" (which i hate) and sorted some thing out.. We'd still text/call when ever and see each other loads, but we'd go out more, instead of him just being in my house all the time!
it was (is) great, its like dating again. :)
maybe you two just need to have a serious talk. If you really want to sort things out, the two of you will find a way :)
good luck
2007-01-30 06:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, breathe, first off.
Now, how about you answer the phone next time, and listen to him. If you guys don't exactly have a friendship yet, this is a damn good time to develop one because if you jump right into a relationship, it will come back to bite you sometime in the future. Discover how you both feel. I can see how you're hurt and how he's feeling a little overwhelmed too. I mean 4 years is a long time, right? I think you guys should work out a friendship for now since he's got a lot of healing to do.
2007-01-30 06:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by SiC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously calling you because he realizes what he had going. You two were together very often, and then suddenly stopped. He wants to have the closeness that he had before. Call him back, you both want eachother. It doesnt have to be as close of relationship of which you two first had, but start if off slow with a nice conversation over the phone.
2007-01-30 06:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by the_rat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea girl, I've had this happen. Look you need to tell him that you agree that we got too serious too fast but I'm not looking for a husband. Try to flip the situation on him, because by doing so he thinks you don't want him and now it becomes a challenge. Just hold back girl...he will come around...then the ball will be once again back in your court. I did it and he came a runnin. It sucks that in some relationship this is what you gonna do to have the man "man" up but hey there isn't nothing wrong with it. Hope all goes your way girly!
2007-01-30 06:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rican Princess 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont push him away, be patient, the only thing i regret is trying to rush, i was stupid. dont ignore his calls and texts anymore. thats probably why he hasnt called back. Call him back, tell him your sorry youve been so busy, ask him how hes doing, and tell him your sorry for trying to rush things, and that you would rather take it slow, than lose him.
believe me, i didnt want to rush into a relationship right away, for fear of getting hurt again, it takes awhile to trust anyone!!
be patient, go slow, let him take the lead on how fast you move forward, even if it kills you...really, find something else.... knit, clean anything...it will be sooooo worth it. otherwise, you can sit in front of the computer, wishing you had, just like me...
2007-01-30 06:11:22 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! I think u should meet and talk about your relationship seriously. Share your ideas about the future and u will see whether to be together or not. if he called u it means that maybe he still loves u, and just because u jump to the love too quickly he was afraid of it. So u should take it easier and try it again slower. But comunication between both of you is the most important. Don´t be afraid and talk to him about what u think and want.
2007-01-30 06:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by pavlinka32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you 2 are realy into each other. You are very lucky to be able to find another like that. Do'nt stop seeing him but give him a little space. He is nervous about jumping into another bad relation and I don't blame him. This could be something great and it would be a shame to not know if this the one. Slowly work your way into this and good luck.
2007-01-30 06:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NEVER chase a guy who has told you he wants to see you less. When a man says that to you, make sure he gets what he's asked for immediately. If he wants to see you at all, he must make a tremendous effort to convince you he is worth your time.
If you do not want to be rude, text him back and he can call you if he has something interesting to say.
Good luck.
2007-01-30 06:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by justagirl33552 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when you told him that you were too busy to talk that it scared him off. Maybe if he isn't ready for something as serious as you want it to be, you should let him go and maybe in the future, he'll be ready and you'll be ready and then you can get back together officially.
2007-01-30 05:59:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋