My son is going to be 8 months old on the 6th of Febuary. My husband and I have been talking about when to have our next child. I want to wait till our son is out of dippers and my husband is ready now. I'm not sure having childern 1 year apart or a few years apart is better.
2007-01-30 05:54:15 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
From what I've noticed, having them close together often reduces the sibling rivalry, and make the adjustment of a new baby easier on the first born. It might be another 2 years before your first born is out of diapers.... can you wait that long?
2007-01-30 05:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an only child so I battled with this question as well!
My son is 22 months and I am due to have our second in a week, so they are almost 2 years apart. My son is still to young to really understand what is going on just yet, we shall see how he handles having a little sister really soon!
My husband was ready to have another right away after our first, I wasn't so sure if I could handle two so close in age.
I think regardless of one or two children, there will always be days that you want to pull your hair out, but I think when you feel ready is when to do it.
There will always be the concern about finances and how the other child will react no matter how long or short between the children.
Good Luck and I wish you all the best with what you and your husband decide.
2007-01-30 06:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Why? ... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard both sides of the issue. On the one hand it's nice to have two children who are close in age. That way they always have someone to keep them company and who usually have the same interests and experiences because they're so close in age. Plus alot of mothers like to just have all their children close together to get the pregnancies over and done with in one swoop.
On the other hand, some women say its easier to keep a few years between children so they don't put too much on their plate at one time. That way the older child can help out somewhat and it's not so difficult on the mother. Keep in mind that having more than one small child all at once creates added stress for the mother and spouse, and the marriage. If the mom is tired and cranky all the time, then that can't be good for anybody.
2007-01-30 06:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just read an article about this in a parenting magazine. I read so many that I can't tell you which one. Anyway, my husband and I started ttc when my daughter was a year old. Mainly because of our ages (38 & 40). I was happy to read that most babies adjust to a sibling if they are at least 18 months old when the new one arrives. This gives the first child a chance to be the baby for a while. My daughter will be 25 months when the new one comes so I hope she will adjust well.
2007-01-30 07:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine are 2 1/2 years apart. It was what I wanted and I am glad that I did it that way. My eldest was able to understand that she now had a little sister and was able to help out. I have friends who had their kids very close together, 1 1/2 years apart and they are happy with the way it has worked out.
If you are not ready, even though your husband is, I would suggest you wait.
2007-01-30 06:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by scorpio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently read a study that says for maximum health and intelligence, a child should be conceived no sooner than 18 months after the birth of the previous child, and no more than 4 years.
I highly recommend NOT waiting until one is out of diapers before the next is born. Once you have any time without diapers, you will never want to start again.
2007-01-30 06:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way.... are you ready for twins? If you have them really close together it's like having twins. I work with two ladies who have close children, it's hard. My children are 5 years apart, they don't have any sibling rivalry and I thought it was perfect. My oldest was becoming independant just about the time I was ready for the next. Either way there are pros and cons. Choose wisely based on your needs/wants and your husbands.
2007-01-30 06:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by gymfreak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a 3rd child born way after the first two, the sooner the better so your 1st child doesn't grow up alone. Meaning not too far behind.
2007-01-30 06:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by BamaJJP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine are 2 and 1/2 years apart that works well cause the first one was out of diapers.
2007-01-30 10:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone is different. It depends on your family and what you want. If you aren't ready yet, then by all means don't have a baby yet. My son will be 2 the 8th of Feb and we will have our second baby in Aug.
2007-01-30 06:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by rn4sicbabies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋