for my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years to confide in his ex-wife. The situation doesn't have anything to do with her or their kids? He says he called her because she was there when the same thing happened. I feel like the only communication they should have is regarding their children, not outside personal information. Am I wrong?
2007-01-30 05:53:48 · 10 answers · asked by Luvatlanta 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, you are not wrong. Thier conversations should be about the children, personal issues, are just wrong, it suggests emotional ties. If he has something to confide, it should be to the lady he has been with for over 2 years, it's time for a "talk", you deserve to know where you stand in this relationship, the best to you.
2007-01-30 06:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong unless there is absolutely NO romantic relationship between them. If he wants to confide in her on a friend level that is fine but if they still have feelings for each other than it would be wrong. My ex and I are best friends and I go to him about everything. Even about my boyfriend.
2007-01-30 06:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh.... Yea, Kind of. You have to realize that at one point those two were friends... Just because you are in a relationship with someone else doesnt mean the relationship has to end. Im probably going to get slammed for that, but Im friends with all of my ex's. And so is my husband, and we are much happier than any couple I know because we eliminate jealousy and mistrust from our relationship. We COMPLETELY trust eachother and neither of us gets jealous. I dont think its wrong at all to have her as a friend or someone to confide in. I wouldnt let it stress you out. Good luck
2007-01-30 05:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need to be friends for their kids sake. If they actually get along as friends its fine and probably for the best. I know with my bro our entire family is very relieved he is close friends with his daughters mom. They aren't doing anything beyond being friends. So its definetly a good thing and alot less stress on the kids. Their ex's, so they know they don't work as a couple. But being friends is alot different. Its ok and a good thing.
2007-01-30 05:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by gi_jane_kicks_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what it was i think......if its a personal matter between you and him "NO" i think he was out of line......if its between him and his friends than its his choice......if its between you and friends and him......then i dunno.......but over all if the situation had nothing to do with you drop it......its not worth a fight.....if it did tell him how you feel about it and that you really think that she didn't need to be involved......as far as the only communication they should have being the kids....no your wrong.....my boyfriend talks to his ex and i talk to mine.....after all he was married to her at one point and if they can be friends that great......its the best thing in the world for the kids.......set some limits though it it hurts you......like if you don't want her to know about something that involves YOU tell him that......he needs to respect that.......try to look at the whole picture and talk with him about your feelings
2007-01-30 06:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rhylie and Paiyden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to trust that he told her for the reasons he said he did. As long as they have children together, it's healthy that they remain civil with each other. His children need their parents to get along, and that should always be more important than you to him because his kids need to come first.
Sorry if that's harsh, but I have a ton of friends who have divorced parents who go off and sleep with anyone and forget about them. My mom isn't dating until I'm out of the house because she wants to spare me all the drama.
2007-01-30 05:58:44 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you don't own this man. So you can't control who he confides in Also you are sounding insecure and childish. that will turn him off most likely. what is not appropriate is some one controlling who you talk to and who you do not. would you like to be told whom you could associate with? I think not! grow up
2007-01-30 06:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
naw, its ok if theyre friends. its better that way, if he was hot for her, he wouldnt be with you.... just as long as he tells you what he's telling her... my ex's new thing is being absolutley psychotic pure devil right now, for no reason sending emails... its better especially for the kids, if ya all get along....
2007-01-30 06:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct to be concerned.
2007-01-30 05:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....
2007-01-30 05:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋