How does one teach a five-year-old that another five-year-old is not all-knowing?

Question

Lets call two little boys I know "A" and "B". While both are 5, B is several months older and in kindergarten. However, A is more advanced in any number of things- dressing himself, clearing his own place at the table, and even writing. However, A seems to feel certain that B is smarter than him, and is always making allusions to the fact. He is also likely to mimic B's 'wrong way' even when he knows the right way.

Example: A writes his name beautifully, including the letter 'y'. B announces to A one day that "I'll write it for you.' He writes the letter y as a cross inside a triangle. Now, this is how A writes it too.

Assume a familial relationship that precludes seperating these boys. How does one teach A not to look up to B so much????

Answer 1

i guess the only thing i could suggest is to tell A that he is doing it correctly and maybe he could help B to do such things correctly. just explain to A that you are the one to teach him things, and be matter of fact that B doesnt do them correctly. good luck with that one.

Answer 2

A isnt necessarily looking up to B, he could be dumbing himself down to get along or saying things to make B feel better about himself since A is better at some things. If he idolizes the other child then there isnt much that can be done but when one is put on a pedestal there is a tendency to fall so you should be prepared for that day. They are making their own way and unless someone is really unhappy or in harms way I would let them be, they will figure it out.

Answer 3

I would bet "A" is your child correct? Seems like "A" is the all knowing child to you. Maybe "A" really likes "B" and looks up to "B". That could be why "A" thinks "B" is better. I wouldn't worry about this. If "A" is as intelligent as you say then "A" will do just fine.

Answer 4

Strenghten A's self confidence and self esteem. Also expose him to a variety of children, not just cousins. I think cousins can be as influential as siblings. Plus it might just be a phase. Good Luck.