2007-01-30 05:45:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i dont want to blame her but her expressions and agressiveness on certain words make me feel like she is trying to hurt me literally,but when i try to talk to her she cries and says "YOU know i love you "you KNOW I DO!"ex[pressions on capitols.THE vibe i get is starting to depress me.
2007-01-30 07:07:12 · update #1
Be patient and understanding--love can cover over a lot of things. Focus on the positive and when things get hard, remember what made you fall in love with her, and keep in mind that ADHD is not something she chose to have, its something she was born with, and it must be very frustrating for her to deal with.
2007-01-30 05:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Someone who cares 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I'm a woman with ADHD, but it has never caused any problems in my romantic relationships. In fact, my social life is probably the ONLY place in which ADHD isn't a problem. I love planning and organizing fun outings to go on with my significant other, I always remember birthdays and special days, and I'm extremely patient and tolerant and will "wait forever" (well, almost) for a guy to come around if he has commitment issues or other problems. I do NOT get bored easily in relationships and am definitely a one-man woman. I have never even been the one to break-up with a guy, in fact. I've always been the one broken up WITH, because the guy decides he doesn't want to be in a relationship after all.
Anyway, I don't quite understand the problem you're trying to explain. WHY is your heart torn in two? (Did your woman say/do something hurtful?) And why did you cut yourself off before finishing your last sentence? You simply said "I dont want to blame" but you didn't say what. Can you please add a little more info to your question, explaining what TYPE of issues are causing so much anxiety and/or sadness for you? Since I'm a woman with ADHD, I hopefully can offer you some insight and help you understand your woman better. :) But I can only help you, if you help ME by explaining things a little bit more clearly.
2007-01-30 13:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by htebazile808 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can let you know is my daughter had ADHD, and if you truly love someone you love them no matter what. But we did find a sleep system that turned things around for us. She is able to control herself as much as an 8 yr old can, and she sleeps so much better, which many to believe to be one of the main causes of ADHD (poor sleep). I am going to put a link at the bottom of this so you can look at this stuff. Hope you two can work things through and have a happy life.
2007-01-30 14:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by wellnessINC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like a bad thing she has a disorder and she can get on some pills to help her.It's just that she can't focus on one thing for very Long.I take lexapro and it works Great for me I function in the world fine I have 2 jobs a husband and 3 kids.I may not have it as bad as she does because I don't know all the details.But if she can get on some medication you and her will see a big difference.Good Luck
2007-01-30 13:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just like you or me if you really love her you would not be askin this question. Think hard about if you really love her or making yourself love her because she need some one to love her. You would know that what ever happens you are still going to love her and she will still have ADHD. Show her you really love her by not caring about her disorder. If you had ADHD you would want loved by her just as much as she want you to love her.
2007-01-30 13:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by thats whats up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love her if u had a disease i would not dump u i would live wit it
2007-01-30 13:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only way is w/EXTREME patience. u will only hurt yourself and her if you cant.
2007-01-30 13:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by supertuul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋