My mother, is the most important person in my life, i dont want to make her cry, and i hate her being disapointed. My family is pretty understanding. but my nana is going to turn everyone aginst me and everyone will try and make me abort my child. thats wrong. someone please give me advice on how to break all this to my mother.
2007-01-30 05:36:01 · 16 answers · asked by courtney 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
who is this nana person? is that your grandma? it sounds like you've got a good relationship with your mom. there's no easy way to tell her--but you have to.
your mom will be upset---but that's ok--that's normal. she'll get over it. and then she'll you're be your best defender and God help anyone who comes near her grandbaby!
tell you mom---tell her today. you are too young to be worrying about this by yourself. and trust your feelings. trust your mom.
NO ABORTION. don't do that to yourself or your baby. i don't know what religion you are--but if you need help contact your local Catholic church. they can help you out, both spiritually and in this case. don't abort the baby---call your local Catholic church--they can help!
could you post something to let us know how it goes? or email me---i'm dying to know how you do. my thoughts and prayers are with you, kiddo.
trust your mom.
2007-01-30 06:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a child at a young age can be dangerous for both the mother and the baby. I think you should talk to your parents soon. The most important thing right now is that you take care of yourself. Your mother will cry. She will be disappointed. Thats' what mothers do when things don't go as expected for their children. Maybe you could consider adoption as an option since you are very young and many people would love to adopt a child. Good Luck.
2007-01-30 05:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Le'Anna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No easy way, you just got to tell her. You can make it clear you arent interested in an abortion. However I will suggest that you at least consider adoption. You give the child life but what kind of life can you offer at 15? Give the child a real chance in life if you cant do it right or if you arent ready to really settle down. I understand you not wanting an abortion but at least think about adoption. If you decide to keep the baby it will take all you have to make but if you want to and work hard at it you can do it. Good Luck.
2007-01-30 05:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take her aside & in private just tell her. Dont beat around the bush about it. I had a friend who got pregnant when we were is high school & she was scared to tell her mom. Finally, when she was 6 mths pregnant, she told her. Her parents were only angry/upset because she did not tell them sooner. You may be surprised by your moms reaction. She may not do what you think that she may do. Mothers are supossed to love you regardless, or at least that is how I feel about my kids. I would want my daughter to just be honest with me. Just tell her how you feel honey. It will be hard for you to be 15 or 16 & having a baby but you can do it. Stay in school & graduate. Good luck to you.
2007-01-31 05:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by leashell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent is a hard thing to deal with, you know people say that about kids but personally I think parents are harder.
All you can do is tell her, let her scream and throw things and call you names if she must. Give her a few weeks to calm down. A mother loves loves her daughter unconditionally and will eventually come to terms with it. I am not saying it will be easy but you have got to do it, (welcome to the adult world).
The pressure to have an abortion will be strong, but this is your baby. Would your mother of killed you? Only you can make that decision. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-30 06:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by Maroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not going to be any easy way to tell them. You do need to tell them. You are their daughter they are not going to stop loving or anything because of this. I do believe they can not make you have an abortion. You need to also tell them because you need to take care of your self such as going to the doctor. I can only imagine how scared you are right now...but just pray about it and God will help you to make the right decisions if it may be adoption or keeping the baby. But you are 15 and raising a baby would be hard for you...but its your decision. You should just get your mom off to yourself and just tell her. Good Luck. God Bless.
2007-01-30 05:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by MB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write your mom a letter leav it were she can see it before you go to school explain everything and tell heryou need her support not her judgement and that you are pregnant and you plan on keeping the baby and that you want her in your life because shes a greatmother and you need help because you dont believe in abortion and adoption is not an option and tell her you made the mistake of laying down and now your ready to take on the responsibility that sex has brought and tell her that you dont want her to be dissapoited in you because your human you make mistakes just as well as anyoe else does good luck honey do you know the dad
2007-01-30 06:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by shyshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry, you will desire it tough. You greater effectual tell your mom and dad in enhance and rapid. And at 15 your boyfriend is hurting you, tell your mom and dad and get faraway from him. Your baby does no longer might desire to stay like that. perhaps adoption is an determination you and your mom and dad could communicate. Than you hold your knees jointly and greater effectual your existence and stay faraway from the scumbag boy. you're too youthful to advance a baby. i be attentive to i develop into 18 as quickly as I have been given pregnant. i could no longer end college and stay my existence on minimum salary jobs my entire existence.My oldest is out and on his own now married and making his own way. although that is been a tricky existence for me and him. you won't be able to stay like that any greater. seek for counseling from a therapist, perhaps for the full relatives. good success.
2016-11-01 21:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom for sometime with her alone like shopping or getting your nails done. Then break it to her slowly. "Mom theres some things i have done that i am not proud of and i really want to talk to you about it. I made a big mistake and do not want you to be angry but I'm pregnant. Please try and understand i do not want to make another mistake by aborting my child. I know i am going to have to grow up and be responciable but please give me the chance to make this right." Good luck!
2007-01-30 05:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do ,keep the baby.You will regret it for the rest of your life if you terminate him/her.As for your parents,be honest,tell your mom that you love her and don't want to hurt her but you have created a life and you need her help and support.Tell her how much she means to you.Dint let your Nana ruin your life or make decisions for you.I know its hard when you dint want to hurt the people you love but you are all family.They may and probably will be upset at first but they love you and will be there for you,even if it takes time.Once they see the new baby things will be OK.Congratulations on the baby.Dont stress to much and do the right thing.Oh ya,if they are religious you can also mention how the bible refers to abortion as murder.I know scriptures to prove it so just ask if you need more help.Take care,good luck.
2007-01-30 05:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Brittany L 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋