there is this girl I like and I think she still likes me, we kissed few times...no sex....everything was going good but than she told me she is not ready for relationship yet. we both are freshly out of long terms relation ships and she is still actually in final stages of divorce....and that was her husband that left her
we do hangout every once in a while, go to restaurants, movies etc
question is
lately when we go to the movies and she sits next to me and her legs are crossed in the way that her upper leg is pointing towards me and she touches my knee with her foot very very gently....not just by accident she keeps the contact for minutes at a time or until I move my legs. but at the same time she keeps her hands close to her so I can't hold her hand maybe she is just to shy to extend her hand?..is this some kind of a sign? Also when I look at her she would glance back but quickly turn away...
and she always gives me hugs and kiss on a cheek, but lately every once in a while she would place her hand on my chest and gently slides it down to where my stomach begins...this happens quick is this how you hug your friends or is there little more to it?
What should I do next time she hug me like that?
Is she having second thoughts about not being ready just yet....its been over two months since she told me that and I was very cool about it, acted like I wasn't disappointed which I was a little, and never brought it up again
2007-01-30 05:33:50 · 13 answers · asked by mr.ask_a_lot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Imagine being abandoned by the one person in the world who you thought wouldn't and couldn't hurt you...that's a rough place to be in...your lady friend, while very much attracted to you is having some serious doubts about herself, her self worth, her attractiveness (is that even a word?)...EVERYTHING. Her entire life has literally been flipped upside down.
On the plus side, she is really REALLY attracted to you...she's doing some pretty hardcore flirting with all the soft touching and cuteness...there's definately no bad there...(and kudos on being a genuinely nice guy, who understands that just because a woman won't or can't have sex with you right now, doesn't mean she's not interested, or is no longer interesting.)
On the not-so-plus-side, you have a situation where she is literally SCARED. Scared to make herself so vulnerable to another human. Scared to hurt you if this turns out to be an attraction based on her need to feel "worthy"...most of all scared that this is just a "rebound".
Your girl really likes you, and you really like her too...that's awesome...just be patient. You guys seem to be good together. It's ok for you to let her know that you're sexually attracted to her by the way...it's good for her to feel sexy, and to know that you find her sexy...just let her make the "final move" towards a realationship.
2007-01-30 05:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, is she already divorced. if she is not, maybe the reason she is not totally open with you when you go out, is she does not want to run into anyone from her past who might not know what is going on, and then why go through a difficult situation for no reason.
she is probably getting more comfortable with you and the relationship. it sometimes takes time for a woman to really show her feelings especially sicne her ex-husband walked out on her. maybe she is trying to be very catious so she does not get hurt again.
just be patience with her. but if you do see the situation getting a bit too fast, ask her about it. the best part of any relationship or situation is communication. without it everyone would be lost.
also maybe she is shy./ she can also be shy to the point that she wants to show you she likes you, but does not want to show too muhc in case you will ry to jump her bones, and like she said before, she doesnot want anything too serious for the moment.
give it a few months, if six months from now, your feelings are just as strong for her, if you want the relationship to go further, then sit down and talk to her.
also keep this in mind, if she married young and is now divorces, sometimes this has a great affect on how she sees the world now and what her point of view regarding her life should be.
2007-01-30 05:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's scared. Don't be too pushy, but don't let her think you aren't interested either. Plus, since it's been two months, you might want to introduce the subject again if you are still interested in being in a relationship with her. You could probably determine that more since you know her. Be careful that she's not just lonely though (not to throw a wrench into things).
Oh and I don't hug friends like that. To me, that would mean a little more! Good luck!
2007-01-30 05:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is definitely more to it than just friends. She is most likely interested in you. Just continue to be patient and things will work out.
I am speaking from experience when I say that she is probably really scared to get into another relationship and is probably even more scared of the feelings that she is feeling for you. If you stay patient and continue to be a good friend to her, then she will realize that it is okay for her to have these feelings and hopefully things will progress.
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-30 05:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not over the fact that her husband left her. She was right to say she's not ready for a relationship. If you decide to get involved with her no doubt you will be what they call a "transition" relationship. Be careful if you don't want to get hurt.
2007-01-30 05:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she definately likes you, but maybe she doesn't know how to deal with the fact that she's more attracted to you than she wants to be, because she doesn't want to allow herself to fall for another guy when she has just been hurt by one. Just give her some time, take it slow, show her that she can depend on you.
2007-01-30 05:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's flirting, but gently. She's shy and nervous about her feelings I'm guessing, due to her divorce. If you like her, let her go slow, and go slowly with her.
2007-01-30 05:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BRING IT UP.... Tell her what you think of it. Chances sound pretty good that she feels ready.
2007-01-30 05:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just ask her what her feelings on relationships are again! it just might be time! Good Luck!!
2007-01-30 05:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart ... nothing ventured, nothing gained!
If you think she's ready, she probably is. Be gentle!
2007-01-30 05:41:49 · answer #10 · answered by NEWTOME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋