We argue over dumb stuff. I blame it on the hormones. but i know i cant take much more arguing. deep down it has to be my fault. he is there for me and our unborn child he gets me anything i want and is really sweet. But hes a little imature. hes 17 and claims to be ready for our baby but he drives crazzy, lies about dumb things like if hes going home or to his friends, i dont want to loose him but again i dont just want to be with him for the baby?? please please help!!!
2007-01-30 05:31:42 · 11 answers · asked by courtney 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
damn! you two should have been arguing over having sex! what in the world were you thinking?
ok--you weren't thinking. i was 15 once and i didn't think at all. esp when it came to sex.
seriously---you two have an awful long road ahead of you. you're going to need all the help you can get from your family. you don't mention them in the question. are they going to be there to help?
if not, it would probably be in everyone's best interest to give the baby up for adoption. give the baby a chance to be with parents who will love it and have the resources to raise it up to be a good person. this would give you the opportunity to finish school and grow up some yourself.
whatever you choose, my prayers are with you, kiddo. don't beat yourself up too bad---i was 15 too once---it's easy to forget how crazy you can be at that age. best of luck to you, your boyfriend and your baby.
2007-01-30 06:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are BOTH too young to be going through having a relationship and having a baby. But,........you are.
I was 17 when I married and 19 when I had my first child. I look back now and see that I was too young. You will need to realize that it will take time for both of you to mature.
The main and most important thing is, the baby. The baby will need your maturity for good mental health. Children need to be taught, nurtured and disciplined. A lot of patience will be required. The lying and arguing must stop. Don't blame it on hormones.
A good relationship is built upon trust and respect. Treat each other as you want to be treated. This is maturity. God Bless You
2007-01-30 05:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to sound mean and even preachy, but to me it sounds like the both of you aren,t ready for a child. You're only 15 yrs old for crying out loud. You shouldn't even have to worry about an unborn child. You should be worried about make up and clothes or where you're going to college. Children could've come later when you and your boyfriend were mature enough to handle a child.
I say that if the 2 of you are fighting as much as you say you are, then you should break up. Children should not be raised with 2 parents who do nothing but fight. I think you should make arrangements with the dad for him to see his child after the baby's born because as you say, he is being a good dad, but if the 2 of you aren't happy, then a child shouldn't be raised with unhappy parents.
Take Care,
Cindy
xoxo
2007-01-30 05:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by agarthfan_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether not you are together you will always be around eachotehr due to the baby. SO take your time getting to know eachother on a more mature level. and in the meantime avoid fighting because of the baby. You will be fine. You are young and chances are you will find someone else in a few years that will treat you right. DOnt rush into anything and no that a baby is not going to keep you together forever.
2007-01-30 05:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to no longer sound advise or something, yet have you ever seen putting your son up for adoption? you're 15, and don't have a job, and your bf is working yet could his earnings be sufficient to shield a infant? toddlers are very costly and that i understand you have your mum and dad and all, yet do you recognize for particular that they might help you with money without situation, and babysit together as your in college? do no longer you want the wonderful on your infant? in case you won't have the ability to shield him appropriate then he won't have a physically powerful existence. distinctly in case you and your bf don't get alongside now. you may continually have an open adoption and notice him whenever you want. i'm asserting this reason you do no longer sound very to blame reason your bf is a juinor in highschool so he's sixteen or 17, and your 15. i'm quite particular that's unlawful.
2016-11-23 14:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie
You are both children. Forget about about being boyfriend/girlfriend and try to start being friends.
You two are tied together for the rest of your life
The baby comes first. Let him go out with his friends know
When the baby comes, you both have to take care of him
He needs to grow up. Give him a chance.
Take care of yourself.
Parenthood is not easy at any age. At 15 and 17, it will be harder. Please stay in school. Make sure he does to.
Good Luck
2007-01-30 05:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you expect you are under a lot of stress
as for him being immature do you think having sex make you mature if you guys were mature in the first place maybe you will have used birth control
as for your arguing all the time maybe is because you have not told your mom & your family yet
so get your priority in other that will help releve some of the stress
2007-01-30 05:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you have a very hard road ahead, a very hard road. My daughter is 19 and in her second year of college and I am still scared she will call up with news like this some day.
I couldn't give you an advice to save my life but I can send you my best wishes .
2007-01-30 05:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably dont want to hear this, but you are way too young for a baby. It would be best for everyone if you would give it up for adoption.
2007-01-30 05:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are both way too young to have this serious responsibility and I think your bf is feeling normal pressure. he cares for you but knows he is too young to be tied down. good luck!
2007-01-30 10:58:47 · answer #10 · answered by tcbtoday123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋