I've been dating this guy for the past 5 weeks and for the first 3 weeks, everything was perfect. We would talk for hours every night, he'd text me sweet nothings throughout the day, and if we couldn't talk because our kids were around, we'd IM each other. We had an amazing connection from the start and tons in common and even starting talking hypotheticals about the future. But lately, things seemed to have cooled on his end. When I see or talk to him, the affection isn't always there like it used to be. (Long hugs/kisses, pet names, etc) I really like this guy, but a big part of why I like him is because he is so affectionate like me. Without that, I don't know if I can see a future for us. Should I say something to him or let it go a little longer since the relationship is so new? I don't want to scare him away, but I also don't want to be wasting my time. Btw, I'm new to dating from my divorce so that's why I'm asking for advice. It's been 12 years since I had to date!
2007-01-30 05:11:56 · 10 answers · asked by nefit3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No Johnny, we have not had sex and we also haven't introduced our kids to each other. We mutually decided to wait on both of those things until we knew we had a future.
2007-01-30 05:49:00 · update #1
Hi, Just give him a little space. Men are like that. They begin to think they are starting to become "committed". Just lay low and go about your day. Do things so you won't think about him. Once you let go, he'll come running back. Men are like rubber bands. Let em go a little and don't smother them and they will pop right back! Trust me it works. Let him miss ya girl! Also, DO NOT CALL FOR A COUPLE OF DAYS. DO NOT! not for any little thing! Stay strong and he will be back in your arms.
2007-01-30 05:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by candigirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people date there is always the "honey moon" period where you are really into each other and super affectionate and attentive to each others needs. But then you get comfortable to one another and reality sets in a little. This doesn't have to be a bad thing. I would say to kinda let things be. If he is being good to you overall by respecting you and being kind then don't say anything. You know he has the ability to be affectionate and there are so many different parts to a realtionship. Don't concentrate on this one part. For example what if he continued to be incredibly affectionate but had a huge flaw like he was a lier or a cheat? That would be truely horrible and something that could not be worked on. So make sure you look at the entire package. Don't say anything to him just yet.
2007-01-30 05:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by SSV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess, you gave him your body now he is bored and is changing his mind, what don't ladies understand about this. If you want a man then act like a lady, by the way men it works both ways. This country has a lot of people who need to just grow up, life is not about sex, it is just part of life a small part and too many of us let it control us. Love comes from the heart not between your legs. Sorry I just read so many of these that I had to sound off. He is not the man for you if he can't give you the attention you need, I have been married for 17 years and show more affection for my wife today than ever, every day is a new day and every day she means more to me. And yes I would ask him what’s going on, you always have the right to know.
Good Luck...
2007-01-30 05:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look honey, that's just the way men are. If you try to talk to him about it, it will just freak him out. Men like to say that women are moody, but they are so much worse. They freak out a lot easier than we do. Also, if this is your first relationship since the divorce, I wouldn't consider it wasting your time. Everybody needs a rebound relationship. Unless you're looking to just jump right back into something serious, give it some time. Just play! You have that right and that need. Unless you take your time, you are probably dooming yourself anyway.
2007-01-30 05:19:55 · answer #4 · answered by tx girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was all just too much too soon. He's probably rethinking how fast things seem to be moving. It's not good to totally smother each other in the beginning, or it burns out, as is obviously the case here. Things have obviously changed for the worse, which may mean he's getting ready to call things off or distancing himself because it moved too quickly. Sometimes in the dating game, less is more, ESPECIALLY in the beginning.
2007-01-30 05:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you burnt out all of his energy in the 3 weeks just cool down your jets and wait and see if things return to normal but if it doesn't talk to him about it if things still doesn't change dump him and move on you've already miss 12 years of the dating scene.
2007-01-30 05:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by xoxo;Danieee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about everything. You will not know unless you ask, he may be sad about something else that is affecting his relationship with you. It is by talking about things that you discover each other.
2007-01-30 05:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Supplicant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up casually and nicely but make sure you get an answer that you understand. I hope it works out for the best!
2007-01-30 05:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by DN1503 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grl!!!! u should talk 2 him.let him noe!! maybe he'll understand. and if doesnt than he's not the guy 4 U!!!!!
2007-01-30 05:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by bulapgrl1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really relate with this..😢
2015-12-19 03:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋