Female Pressure to Marry. Should it effect dating?

Question

Recently I have started dating two different girls. Both are 26 turning 27 soon and both have current long-distance boyfriends.

Both girls say they are somewhat unhappy with their current relationships but are scared to completely breakup with their boyfriends unless they have a sure alternative.

The fear comes from the fact that they are getting older and would like to get married + children and they don't want to go through the lengthy cycle of dating, finding someone new etc.

Both seem to be interested in me but we are in the very early stage of dating so they have not brought up my long term goals.

One of the girls is on a "trial-seperation" from her boyfriend and he knows that I am sleeping with his girlfriend. The other one has not told her boyfriend.

Is it weird of me to feel weird about this situation? Do a lot of women find themselves in this situation of having the age pressure? How should this effect whether I should choose to continue dating either of them?

Answer 1

Really... this is the type of girl you want to marry?
Someone who is sleeping with you while on a "trial seperation"... what is that anyway?? They either broke up, or they didn't?
Sounds to me you need to reavaluate what type of woman you want to be the mother of your children.
Sounds like you aren't ready to be married and a daddy anyway.
Take time to mature and make good decisions!

Answer 2

What the hell is all this mess?
Why are you dating two different women? Wait no - rephrase -
Why are you dating two different TAKEN women?
Is there a shortage of single females in your area?

Besides all that, if they are unhappy in their present relationships, then it is their responsibility to sh*t or get off the pot...not go around trying to get fresh meat caught in their webs.
If you really like ONE of these girls, then talk to her, ask her where the relationship is going...if she can't tell you, you need to step away.
Yes, there are still women who feel pressured to be married by a certain age. Not all women, mind you, but there is still quite a few who feel this way.
A woman should NEVER feel pressured to marry no matter WHAT her age - make sure you make them aware of this. Marriage is not just a stage of life. Its about sharing your life with the one you can't live without. If either of them actually have to THINK about it, then they're not ready, or he's not the right one.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd slowly step away from this viper's nest and seek other prospects...at least till they decide it's convenient for them to make up their goddamned minds.

Answer 3

I think it depends on what your goals are and how you feel about marriage. As a woman, yeah, quite a few girl friends I know seem to get married simply out of the pressure to get married. Most, including myself, did not seem to let the pressure get to 'em, but it surely gets to some, and I worry about the foundation of those marriages.

But ultimately, if you re-read your message above, doesn't it sound weird? I mean, one lady won't separate from her man, and the other is hanging on by a thread until something better comes along. Neither is very encouraging. Surely there are better dating cadidates out there for ya! Ones who will only date YOU.

Answer 4

26 turning 27 is still pretty young, but anyway, whether you want to date them or not depends on whether or not you want to settle down yourself and are looking for "the one."

What I would be more concerned about, though, is that you're obviously dating two whores who clearly don't care about their boyfriends. Why don't you find girls who aren't dating anyone? This whole situation sounds weird.

Answer 5

So you're dating two lying little cheaters who are too immature ("scared") to be honest with someone and you think either one of these losers would make a good girlfriend? LOL Your standards aren't very high. Keep doing girl 2 and hope she doesn't end up pregnant.
I'd dump them both, but you might think you can't do any better.