We are having trouble in potty training 3 Year Plus child. she screams when we try to take her to bathroom.?

Question

Any help is appreciated.

Answer 1

maybe try to make your bathroom kid friendly. Hang up a favorite picture or poster for the time being. get her a sticker book and everytime she does well give her a new sticker. And just refuse to let her wear pull ups or diapers. I am going to have a new one soon and my two year old is still in diapers. it worked with her. in two weeks time she goes on her own. i just dont believe in pull ups they cost to much and they make it to easy for accidents. it will get worked out. dont worry. i do let my two year old wear diapers only at bedtime because at 2 they just dont have control to wake up. But she knows diapers are for babies. and she is a big girl.

Answer 2

Some people may disagree with this tactic, but I've used a treat jar. Each time they go potty, they get an m&m or two. It's been a real incentive for all 3 of my children. When I felt my kids were ready, I put them in big-kid underwear (no pull-ups) and let them run around as usual. The first few times they potty in their pants, they definitely don't like the sensation. After a few days of this, they are telling me when they need to use the potty. Obviously, this won't work if she's in daycare, but you can try it on the weekend or evenings. Besides a little treat, it also helps to give a lot of praise, even if all she does is sit on the potty. Another thing you could try is to let her pick out her own underwear at the store. At 3, your daughter is physically ready, she's just trying to have control over something... not going to the potty when and how you want her to. By making it a fun and exciting thing for her, she may be more willing.

Answer 3

I feel you pain believe me. Here's what i just got done doing last week. I had tried everything, potty time elmo, baby that drinks and pees in potty, potty that talks and sings and even a elmo potty seat that sits inside ours.
Be prepared for laundry!!!

1. I pulled out all diapers from closet set them on the floor and said no more diapers, your a big kid now( I told her to go throw them away) (keep in mind my girl's a very strong willed child)
2. You must remain firm no matter what!!! as hard as it is mine played every angle
3. I made up chore list of things she could acheive ie make bed, brush teeth, brush hair I explained each time she did it she would get a star ( your probably thinking how does this relate) under that list i drew a line and put pee and pooh and told her the same if u go u get a star. ( you can also make something close to the potty so she can put stickers on them .
4. we got a step stool so she could get on the potty herself( gave her more independance which she loved)
5. I covered or sofa with plastic and towels just in case an accident happened.
For the first day she had a lot of accidents and I just kept tellin her that" you know that feeling u got when u peed thats when u know it's time to go on your big girl potty" I wouldn't change her right away so she would get the feeling of being wet and not like it. She's start saying change me mommy I said in a little bit hunny she's get upset and say no now and I would remind her that she put's her pee in the potty. Everytime I had to go I'd say to her ohh ohh I've got that feeling and I'd run to the bathroom and go. She thought that was funny. But then she started saying it. By the end of the 2nd. day she was getting the hang of it. I have resorted back to diapers at night b/c she would wake up wet but she is close to being trained at night too b/c the other nite she woke up and went potty. This training thing is very trying, have patience, remain firm, don't give in and she'll know your serious and come around.

Answer 4

Oh My 3 and not potty trained.. BUMMER
Is she still drinking from a bottle? Just wondering what else is going on.
Do you put her in little panties? Not those diaper pants but real little girl panties.
Usually they don't want to mess these little lacey panties, they get upset about that.
Try placing a bowl of sugar free candy on the back of the toilet, and whenever she goes in the potty she gets to take a piece of candy.
Have you asked her Dr.?
Does she have a little potty that sits on the floor or are you putting her up on the big potty with one of those little seats?
I am thinking is is phobic for some reason. A lot of little kids are, so you must get past the fear.
Try asking her things like, do you like this potty or that one, let her choose.. maybe if she thinks she has some say in things she might start coming around.
Wish I could be more help, sorry.. I was really lucky both of my girls adapted very quickly they were both 2 when they were trained.

Answer 5

I totally agree with dotogflightindarkness. Why do people let there young ones make choices for themselves all the time. If it was up to your three year old then you shouldn't be there parent. Cause being a parent is yes let the make a couple decisions but not everything, we are parents that supposed to guide them through the young lives. For as potty training QUIT buying those dang pull- ups they are a waist of money. Both of my boy never had pull- up and by the age 2 the where potty train and never wet the bed. Its how you approach it. When the first show sign in doing then you kick in gear and go for it. Plus i know in most states for kids to go to preschool they have to be potty train and i don't blame them. You take control of it and show her!

Answer 6

Right now you are in a power struggle with her. I would say stop doing anything for a week. After this take her to the store and let her pick out big girl underwear. Put them on her from then on during the day. Let her have accidents if this is what it takes. It is messy and will keep you at home but it does work. When she does go let her pick a candy out of a jar or candy. When she sees how proud of her you are she will be doing it in no time. Night training may take a little longer put her in pull ups before bed for awhile, but she will get the hang of it trust me. Good luck!

Answer 7

I agree with a lot of the above suggestions - charts, stickers, etc. and MUCH PRAISE!!! That is (in my opinion) the key...
My mother-in-law promised my son "money" every time he goes to the bathroom, so he gets a few coins each time! He loves that and makes a huge deal about putting it in his bank. He, by the way, has been sick, so the potty training is not working so well. BUT - it had been VERY well up until then.
I wish you the best of luck! Don't forget who the parent is -- I know it's hard sometimes :)

Answer 8

conserving her in a diaper could join the priority. If she on no account gets to make sure what an accident in vast lady panties sounds like, she won't get that inspired with regard to the situation. If she already is going all nighttime without wetting, positioned her in panties. there will be some injuries before everything, little doubt, yet this is part of the deal. you in basic terms might desire to continually have wipes and an entire substitute of outfits for her interior the vehicle whenever you bypass someplace along with her. and don't scold her so as that she gets disenchanted whilst she has one, purely shop reinforcing that she has to apply the potty now by using fact she's a large lady. additionally, if she is in any way excited approximately preschool, use that to help motivate her. tell her that she has to apply the potty like a large lady if she needs to bypass to preschool. (on the turn area, if she seems to dislike the belief of preschool or is terrified of going, do no longer try that direction!)

Answer 9

Are you trying to get her to use the big potty or her own? If you don't have a potty chair take her to the store and let her pick out one of the new seats that goes right on the regular toilet....it may make it less scary for her. Also put some music and books in there for her to listen to or read while she is sitting there. Does she like stickers? Tell her she can have a sticker after she goes in the big girl potty. If these don't work just give up on it for a week or two and slowly try again....but don't fret and fuss if it doesn't happen....my son is going to be 4 in three weeks and he is just in the past few weeks started really using the potty.

Answer 10

it sounds like she is scared,maybe of the toilet flushing?or falling in?could u maybe back off a little bit and then calmly ask her why she is screaming?u could then have her help pick out new underwear, buy a little potty seat ,some m&m's as a reward and try again in a week or so.good luck!

Answer 11

So what she screams! That mean you have to give in to what she wants? NO!! YOU are the parent and you have to take control! It is not up to your 3 yr old to decide she doesn't want to!!! How ridiculous for you to have put up with this for so long! Get her panties, tell her it's time to be a big girl, that baby's go in diapers and their pants. Put her on the pot in the morning and let her set there til she goes! If she throws a fit, put her back in bed and make her stay there til she shuts up and then put her back on the potty. When she does go praise her and tell her how good she is. Use a star chart every time she goes and when she gets a week of stars, let her get a treat at the store. You have to stay on this all day every day til it works! Kids scream, they cry and none of it hurts them, but your parenting skills so far does! Kids need limits and you are going to have to set some for her or things are only going to get worse! You run the household, not your 3 yr old!