Help!!!!!!SOS!!!!!!!!Help ME A.S.A.P.!!!!!?

Question

i hav a boyfriend
i luv him more than anythin in the world
but he wont tell me that he luvs me
he wont call me baby
he goes to a public school and im homeschooled
we hardly get to see each other
he hasnt kissed me yet
he does not hold my hand in front of other people
i hav other guy friends that call me more than he does
before i met him i had been single sence 5th grade im in 10th
and im so used to bein able to flirt with all the guys and now that im dating ive gotta break that habit
i told him that i got a new skirt and he asked how long it was and i told him that it was like 2-3 inches above my knees and he said nothin after that
then later on i was talkin on the phone with him and talkin to my sister and told her that she could even dare me to pole dance in a thong and i would do it
and he saidWAT
I TOLD HIM WAT I TOLD HER AND ASKED IF HE WOULD LIKE THAT AND HE SAID NO!
I NO OVER 15 OTHER GUYS THAT WOULD PAY TO SEE ME LIKE THAT!!
WAT DO GUYS LIKE THAT WANT?

its hard 4 me to leave him because i luv him and every1 says that he really likes me alot

his sister is the slut and i dont even own a thong

he is not gay
and he cant stand the thought of being that way

we try to find time to see each other but with all of his "school projects" its really hard
i ask 1 of my friends and he said that he thinks hes cheatin on me

they would pay to see me like that only because there guys and they only hav 1 thing on there minds.
and thats why i luv him soo much
because he does not think like that


somethin else:
he asked me to go to a dance with him and i said yes.
he called me later and asked if we could go to the movies instead

i do not play with dolls!!!!im fixin to be 16
im plenty old enough to talk bout watever i wat!!!!

and he is there 4 me when im babysittin and the kids r puttin my through hell

Answer 1

give him space and dont try to control him dont always answer the phone when it is him and then when he calls never say u are waiting on him to call or ur not doing anything always be busiy then he will want you like crazy and want to call u and be with u and trust me he will want you bad i have been there =)

Answer 2

First, you are still very young. Don't get too wrapped around the axle about your mid-teen relationships. They will come and go and you may not even remember his name in 15 years. Believe me, I can relate to this. Specifically to your boyfriend, I can say he has a control and/or jealousy issue. He's obviously got a problem with his own confidence and self-esteem. Being introverted isn't helping him either. He doesn't know how to express himself to you. He may not "love" you and I would bet money that neither of you can really say what true "love" is. I wouldn't be too quick to say you "love" anybody without some real focused thought on the subject.

Answer 3

Your guy sounds like he has intimacy issues! Also, I'd have to worry if he loves you or not-the guy, like YOU said, he won't even say "i love you" back. Make sure your relationship isn't one-sided! If it's not, then he might just want to take things EXTRA SLOW. It's okay if that is the case, just let him! Don't push him or force him into touching if he's not ready yet. A nice talk with him sounds in-line. If he won't discuss his feelings with you (or for you), then he may not be mature enough for a relationship. Also, hold up on tempting your loved one with "sexy" clothes. Sexuality is so delicate-if you are with someone considering a long-term relationship, try not to flaunt yourself like a stripper. He might lose respect for you if you just consider your wants and needs first-sex-driven or otherwise.

Answer 4

if he doesnt want to see you in a thong is not bad is just that he probably respects you and doesnt want to say yes just in case you would think that he is sick. guys like that want a serious relationship and dont like to play around. now here is the bad part since he is in public school he probably has someone else. you should talk to him and talk clearly of what you want. the missing i love yous and babies maybe is because he thinks he is to macho for that or he isnt ready. think about his previous relationship and see what is going on. i tell my gf i luv u even in my dreams, and she will forever be my baby. we talk these things out so that is how we are closem communication is first and a must. try it and youll see

Answer 5

Hold on just one second.

First, the way you typed your question, it seems to me you are more like a little girl that is still playing with dolls and should not be at all talking about boyfriends and poll dancing wearing just a thong.

Second, I see absolutely nothing wrong about the couple of things you said about your “boyfriend”. He is even trying to be nice to you cause he respects you and would like to date you (or be friends) or he just doesn’t like you and is again being polite to you instead of telling you to leave him alone.

Third, for most of the people who have answers here, I think you guys are talking too much b/s about him and/or her. We barely know what is going on here, so we can’t really come up with direct conclusions, only a vague general idea perhaps.

Now, assuming you are the age you claim, and assuming he really likes you as you said (even though is from other people that you know this and not from him directly), and he is “acting” like you described, then I would think that he is trying to be nice to you and amazingly he is not thinking just to have sex with you. Otherwise, he would have said “yes” to your offer to pole dance in a thong (duh!).

I would recommend you to relax and calm down. Then, and only then, think about the whole thing, and try not to do or say stupid things, like the way you typed the question, it seems like you just threw out all your ideas at once in a desperate moment. Think about what you say and what you do before it actually happens. And try to be yourself, no matter what, when you are with him. Show him who you are and not who you think he would like you to be (cause you could be very wrong and then you will loose him).

If you are honest, things will be easier. Try to leave the sexual activities for later. Unless you just want a sexual partner (and for what you said I don’t think you do), then don’t try to get him interested in you just with sex. That will come later and trust me; it will be much better than you think.

Finally, if you haven’t talk to him about this whole thing, what are you waiting for? Usually guys are the one who ask her out first, and girls like that way better, but is not the only way to go, you can also ask him, he might be also shy? You never know. Talk to him, and find out how he feels about you for real and don’t keep on listening to others about what they think he feels.

Good luck.

Answer 6

at one point it sounds like he don't even know what he want like he is confused then near the end it sounds like he wanna be wit you for you but this boy is really confused i would say dump him but you love him and that is hard when your in luv i understand that very i know what you mean by the home school thing and him in public because that's how it is for me and my boyfriend but he doesn't act like that and maybe he is cheating and don't know how to break up with you because you told him the magic word YOU LOVE HIM or maybe he have a regret he has did and cant tell

Answer 7

It sounds to me like you are not happy. Stop wasting your time and move on. Like you said, there are plenty of others that will give you the attention you are looking for. Life is too short. Good Luck.

Answer 8

It sounds like he likes the nicer kind of girls. Nothing against you, but maybe he liked you for the way he thought you were. The "15 other guys" that would like that wouldn't like you for who you are. My guess is he's losing respect for you by a lot of the things you're telling him.

Answer 9

Sounds like he's just not that into you. Chances are he has another girl on the side. Cut your losses and move on.

Answer 10

it sounds to me like he is a more proper kind of guy then you are willing to date. Maybe he is not the type of guy for you