I broke up with her today. Now everything I see reminds me of her. It's driving me mad. She was always so nice to me but that 'spark' wasn't there for me anymore you know. I feel so bad.
2007-01-30 04:11:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The best way to get over a girl is to get under another girl...
Ok, thats just a great quote... But man, I know what you mean. Just keep reminding yourself - it wasnt there for you anymore. One thing you will learn in life is that, in relationships, one person ALWAYS cares more than the other person. This time, it was she who cared more than you did... But, these things are a part of life - she isnt going to die, and neither will you. So, keep your chin up bro.
2007-01-30 04:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
get over it or get it back...in today's society we are always looking for spark, not reality. I lost a wife that way, she claimed there was no spark so she went and got a "boyfriend" there was a spark for her but the end of a good marriage and the loss of family and two daughters...this was just for spark. in all relationships the spark fades away, (we all get lazy at doing the things we did to create that spark) If your relationship was grounded and you had a good understanding and trust of each other, then work on reigniting the spark. people today are lazy and want everything to happen for them, if you have feeling for her, work on it no one ever said relationships are easy, they are work, and need work daily. If you do care for her go after it and correct it! it appears that way to me because your statement "Now everything......mad" is a STATEMENT
2007-01-30 04:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by Waagosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel bad because you miss her? Or do you feel bad because you feel sorry for her?
If you are a Christian, you should know that God has someone perfect for you lined up already. That doesn't mean that you will never have problems, it means that no matter what problems you have, if you deal with them biblically, you will grow closer to one another, reaching Agape love. Agape is the most endearing type of love, it grows, and grows, and grows. The spark may decrease, but the bonds will grow so that you will not become bored with one another.
It's really hard to say how you should deal with the break up, but you should definitely speak to someone to help you through it. Call your pastor for help. Find something to keep you busy. Take up a new interest. Call good friends and spend time with them. Try to limit your conversations with her, until you feel secure enough that you will not get back with her out of pity. If you take her back in pity and not because you really love her, you will be miserable and you will end up making her more miserable. Don't take her back to clear your own conscience--that is mean to do to her. Let her get over it.
Let God pick you up, and then keep on keeping on.
Don't think about the things from your past together with her. Only think of things that are good and happening now.
Phil 4:8
Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
That means to think only of the things that are real and good and that if it pleases God and is truthful, then think about that. He never wants us to dwell on the past (even if it is recent past). He wants us to keep on pressing forward.
2007-01-30 06:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first are you feeling bad because you fell guilty or do you feel as though you made a mistake? If your felling bad becasue you made a mistake call her and make it right. But if your just felling guilty just know that she probably wasn't the one for you and vice versa. It's okay to let go of something or someone that is not working with you. But to be honest it seems as though your having second thoughts.
2007-01-30 04:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by tlnay025 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a caring guy otherwise it wouldn't bother you. Start seeing other people and see if you find that spark..remember love is a choice.
2007-01-30 04:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by B"Quotes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is she feeling?
Maybe you make too much of the "spark"?
And what's this doing on R & S?
2007-01-30 04:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jake M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
wait patiently, time will make it all go away--don't rush into anything new, rebounding is so cliche
2007-01-30 04:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell yourself that it's gods will.
2007-01-30 05:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋