My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 3 years. We are really into each other, we like being together and spending time together (we haven't had sex), his family loves me and I love them, my family likes him and he like them, just my family is a little over protective of me, they go by the rules and want me to finish school and then get married, I say that’s not a bad idea but the problem is that I will finish school when I’m like 26 and him when he's like 28 we thinks that’s to far away because then we have to wait till he’s done with school to start thinking about marriage, so if we get married at that age, we will have to have kids like almost soon because we want kids but we want to be married for like at least 4 yrs then think about kids, we have done a lot of thinking we know its not just we get a ring and there. We know there’s a lot of responsibility like buying a house, paying rent, buying stuff to survive, pay for school. So when should we get married?
2007-01-30 04:02:07 · 3 answers · asked by yadira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
BTW he is 19 I am turning 19 in Feb, and we live with our parents right now. And plan on going to Universities after our first 2 years, which are like 4 -6 hrs away from where we live now.
2007-01-30 04:02:25 · update #1
I married halfway through my degree, and I'll be the first to tell you -- it's not for everyone! It's not easy balancing the responsibilities of being married and being a student. One thing to realize is that if you are a full-time student, you won't be earning nearly as much as a full-time worker. My husband and I both worked part-time (I was in college, he was pursuing a higher degree), and really had to scrimp and pinch to make ends meet. You probably won't have the same standard of living as you're used to just living with your parents. Also, it is very difficult for some people to manage the time, especially if one or both of you has a long commute to work or school.
Also, you need to consider that no form of birth control is 100% successful all the time. Whenever you have sex, there is a chance that you may get pregnant. You need to have a reasonable plan for if that were to happen.
Because of these reasons, I'd recommend that you wait at least until one of you finish your undergrad work. That way, if something were to happen, you would have the option of holding off on the higher degree and coming back to finish it later.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 04:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The timing is different for everyone. If you wait to get out of school before getting married, you will still have plenty of time to have children. Women with advanced educations usually get married later in their twenties or even early thirties these days because they need time to establish their careers after school.
2007-01-30 06:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's too long to wait, but 19 is too young to get married. Compromise, say get married when you are both 21-22. I would think that's fair. Good luck.
2007-02-04 11:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋