This has been puzzling me for a while. My son is a very gentle tempered 2 1/2 year old boy. When he's in the room with other kids, he is usually the observer and follower. I hardly ever see him being aggresive and grab other kids toy. He would either watch them play and get very excited. Or quitely pick out his own toy and playing in the corner.
However, when other kids come and try to grab his toy, or push down the block tower he just built, he get REALLY upset. I totally understand his feeling cause he feels his territory is being invaded. I tried to comfort him that just seems to get things worse. I usually have to let him cry it out for about 5 mins and then distract him to something else.
I am actually not very sure if I am doing the right thing. If I told him, "It's ok, just go play something else." Does that make him too easy to give up what he wants? But I definitely cannot tell him that "You have to fight for your toy." What should I do or how should I teach him to deal?
2007-01-30 03:45:48 · 4 answers · asked by emigirl77 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think that the best thing you can do is to empathize with him after one of these incidents. Don’t distract him. You want him to learn how to problem solve when a situation like this arises. Say things like, “Oh no! He took that from you when you weren’t finished! You much be feeling really (mad, angry, frustrated, upset). What should you do about that?” Encourage him to speak with the other child. Help him to express his feelings.
Do some role playing with him at home. Pretend to be the aggressor so he can practice what he can do next time this happens. I know he is a little young, but with some practice he will get better at expressing his thoughts and feelings and be better prepared to handle these types of episodes. Hope this helps!
2007-01-30 06:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it's okay to be mad that everyone gets mad now and then Ask him what he thinks should be done to remedy the situation.
He'll probably say something along the lines of wanting to get the toy back. When he goes to the child, have him offer the child another toy or invite him to play with that toy with him. If the other child rebells against both suggestions, then adults need to help by taking the toy away from the little theif and giving it to who originally had it.
2007-01-30 06:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your with your child when it happens nicely tell the other child it wasn't nice and ask the other child to give the toy back and wait his turn or to help rebuild the tower. Stand up nicely for your child. Not only that but if other parents see you saying something to there child they'll likely step in and have there child do the right thing anyways. You have to show your child now how to stand up for himself with out being rude. Your child doesn't have the words to express how he feels so he is gonna cry. Unless you help.
2007-01-30 05:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by rnlmamma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm for turning my decrease lower back to the teenager and ignoring the tantrum. Time them. as quickly using actuality the teenager stops, bypass to him and artwork together him in an interest that's good and enjoyed by using him/her. by using timing the tantrums, you would be waiting to make particular in the event that they improve or decrease in era and additionally the # of tantrums in an afternoon. it must be iteresting to additionally be extensive wakeful together as they ensue. that's likewise obtainable to make particular a progression that has shaped and the thank you to circumvent the tantrums. The worst element you're able to do is to furnish the teenager what he's wanting by using throwing the tantrum. you're then valuable beside the point habit and themes will in basic terms worsen, plenty worse from there on.
2016-11-23 14:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋