I love my family but it is getting to much for me to handle i feel i would be able to take care of myself better if i didn't have to live with my family. Me and my mother have not been getting along for about 8 months and i know many would say "your going through your teenage years" but there is so much more than that going on. My mom usually takes everything out on me. My sis is young so i understand the mom's little angel bit, and my brother is 17 but he practically lives with his g.f. Things get worse day by day. My mom is depressed all the time, and it's not the same as i was younger. I feel so overwhelmed when i am at my house, and i hate the life that i have to live right now. It is draining me.
I have had the same job since may, i have my own car, I maintain a 3.5 gpa or better i play sports, and i would be able to afford my own apartment I feel that emancipating myself would be the best thing for me to do, but i dont' know how to tell my mom or how to get it started. HELP!
2007-01-30 03:22:20 · 6 answers · asked by Jessica! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Consider consueling, or a group activity you all can participate in. I was in your situation when I moved out, but it is sooo much harder than what i was going through. Stick it out for a year or two, or graduate early from high school, and get a dorm in college. Save your family instead of walking away (or at least try before you move out). Help your mom, get her someone to talk to about her depression which can be treated.
Financially, you will have a hard time establishing credit if youre under 18, even if you have a car, job, etc.
Even though I moved out, and I'm doing better, I wish I could take back somethings I did/said that I cant change now or ever. It hurts me to know that I can never go back and be a part of my family on a daily basis, instead I only see them around holidays.
2007-01-30 04:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Its me again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are far to young to move out on your own, 16 is only the crest of adulthood. You should take a deep breath and say to yourself "I can do this." You mother is probably just beginning to feel like her birds are leaving and life is crashing down. Maybe you should just be more sensitive to her and your family instead of thinking about whats best for you in the immediate future.
You leave now, you could ruin the relationship with your family.
2007-02-07 09:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try and talk to your mom ask if she needs help with anything I couldn't let my mom stay that way just keep trying. And about moving away at sixteen I did it and I wish I would of stayed for a couple more years at home, its too expensive but it is nice I guess try to talk to your mom first and if that doesn't work then start looking around for places, leave some adds around so she will see you are going if you can't face her but tell her a while before you go so she is used to the idea.
2007-02-05 20:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by clover0002005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get some counseling but more than anything I think that if you can't resolve your issues with your mom after you've had several of your therapy sessions( they should help), maybe you should consider living with one of your relatives. You sound like a good kid, you'd be surprised who in your family would take you in even for a little while until you and your mom settle things. Who knows if after you did go live with family maybe she'd miss you a bunch and ya'll would talk things over and it would be all good. All families fight, sometimes my mom and I don't get along either but in reality we NEED each other.Talk things over with her and tell her your feelings. You never know she just might get to understand how you feel and ya'll will get along better b/c ya'll had your important chat with each other.
2007-02-07 11:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by maneene_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. Schools should be able to help you with that. Don't rush into moving out on your own. Try and work through it and see where that leaves you. If all else fails and you feel you can support yourself then that might be your next option. Good luck.
2007-02-04 09:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you seriouslt considering emancipation go to the court house and file the paperwork on emancipation the courts will then have you provve that you will be able to take care of yourself ie: food on the table roof over your head
2007-02-05 11:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by jammie v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋