I originally lived in a small town in PA, then went to college in Indiana, so this is very new to me. I've also had several black girls tell me to stay away from other black girls that like me because they only date white guys for money and status, which angered me that someone might want to use me like that. When I am with black girls in Brooklyn and other places black guys tend to say stuff, not to me, but to her. This is very embarrassing and worries me that something violent might happen one day. Should I even pursue this? I've never considered blacks before because I lived near so few of them, so a part of me wants to see if I can find a nice here girl no matter what her race is. On the other hand, it is much more of a pain in my butt than dating a white or even hispanic girl. Any suggestions?
2007-01-30 02:35:48 · 30 answers · asked by Matt 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ms. T, you are reading way too much into this question and there was no racism intended. I was not saying that black women want white guys for their money. This is something that I have been told a lot by other black women, so it was a concern to me. It would have been a concern no matter the girls race. Please don't call me names when you don't know me. I would treat you with more respect than that.
2007-01-30 02:58:36 · update #1
its because of the 7:1 ratio ... 7 educated black women for every 1 black man ... but the numbers are significantly different when it come to white men ... it not solely a gold digging issue ... make no mistake its about financial security ... the black woman is looking for someone who has something to offer ... and she sees that in a white man ... after the thugs, the jailed, the baby mamma drama, the homosexual, the ones on the DL, and STD's ... many black woman look outside their race ... black men and women date outside their race for completely different reasons! but in the end its not all about money, other issues play a hugh role.
2007-01-30 03:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must confess being a black woman that some black females seek white mates for financial status most definately. But as for myself I wouldn't mind dating a white guy for his personality and the way he treat me. The financial status would be the added bonus, but not what is only intended in the relationship. I was told and also viewed that white men(not all) are very affectionate to their mates, not to say that black men aren't but many perople say date out side your race and you will be treated better than your own race. I have yet to find that at. So make sure that this female is there for you and only you not your money. If she is there for you then give it a try, but make sure you are choosing the right woman. I dont want to tell you to give it a try and it turns out a disaster, so make sure you choose the right female, someone that is not a gold digger like myself. Good luck
2007-01-30 03:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ally R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you have an open mind about dating.
I too am from a small town in PA, and i only knew 3 black people in all my life.
It is so easy to put a stereotype on any kind of people that you do not know or understand.
I have heard the white men take care of black women thing, but isn't that what we all really want, not necessarily money, but taken care of.
If you like black, white, yellow, polka dots, whatever, you need to do what makes you happy.
Life is not easy, I have always dated guys 10 years or more older than me, not for money, not for looks, but personality, and their down homeness.
I got the looks, they got the grief,and sometimes praise for getting a 'younger girl' but we dealt with it.
What else would people do if they couldn't wag their tongues????????
2007-01-30 02:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For starters, here's a surprise....there's really ONLY ONE race.
That is the HUMAN race.
We've been taught alot of lies by the time we get out of school.
Now, for your question, it's really the same whatever the color of skin or background. Some will genuinely like you, some will like your money. To them it may represent security. Chances are you'll never find out motives, especially since alot of the time people don't even know themselves.
This I would do: first determine what I am looking for.
second, look for someone that has the qualities I want to see
third, realize I don't have to see someone just because they show an interest in me.
2007-01-30 03:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a black woman that has dated white men because of what type of person they were not not because they had money. If another woman says that about a woman you are interested in dating then you need to look at her motives. As far as black men saying stuff, once again did it ever occur to you that they could just be jealous. When i have dated white men some white women have given us looks and such but i could careless, i was happy and that's was all that mattered. people get jealous and sucks for them but i for one will be happy no matter what race my mate is just find a nice woman no matter what color she is.
2007-01-30 02:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by tall_slimm 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I (white) love my wife because of herself and not because or although she is black, and I am sure this is also true the other way round.
Unfortunately in today's society black and white still don't have the same prestige. That may be a reason why black girls prefer white guys. If that was true, black guys would have to prefer white girls.
2007-01-30 03:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by corleone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um okay i guess i can kind of see what you're saying..obviously you must have lived in a box or secluded from society but now that you're in the real world its probably hard to adapt to a multi racial environment even though i cant understand why. im black n i only date interracially (just dont think black guys are physically attractive) and its soo common here and everywhere ive ever been to. im kind of offended that you think black girls are money hungry. my parents give me tons of money id never date a guy just because he was white n had money so yeah..but whatever.
2007-01-30 12:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date who you like. There are going to be idiots in every group. More and more people are dating outside of their race because everyone else is doing, people are curious and some may have a certain preference or are just completely open-minded. Everyone is finding the idiots in every race. Dont let that be your deciding factor for an entire group of people.
2007-01-30 03:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Destiny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a black female..and i can say date whom ever you like..once you or others are dating a different race people will stare and make comments...if you like purple date purple if you like pink date pink..no one really cares..as far as blacks are golddiggers..maybe the gottheo ones..but you can find goldiggers anywhere..they come all different shapes or form..a golddigger could be a woman in her thirties who has nothing going on for her..but just like to take the man for all he got..i personally do not date because a man has money..sh it you could be a store clerk..as long as we love each other...again my advice to you date who you want..enjoy make each other happy...try yo get to know a person first..take things slow...and go from there...good luck..
2007-01-30 03:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...very interesting.
If you have to "consider blacks" as a possible dating pool, then maybe you should rethink your motivation.
When I meet an interesting person, the color of their skin is the last thing on my mind.
Date whomever you like. Why do you care what strangers think of you? If anyone puts their hands on your for ANY reason, you need to be prepared to handle your business.
Make sure she is sincere, and go for it dude.
2007-01-30 02:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋