She hasn't seen my kids (her grandchildren) in almost two weeks because I was away in NJ (my little sister was in the hospital). Anyway she came here yesterday and didn't say nothing to them at all. They are the ONLY two grandchildren that do see her fat a$$ because her other grandkids or their parents (including her own kids) don't want nothing to do with her.
2007-01-30 02:33:22 · 23 answers · asked by summer ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
SOUNDS TO ME LIKE SHE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOU AND SHE KNOWS THE WAY TO GET TO YOU IS THROUGH YOUR CHILDREN. SHES A CONTROL FREAK. MAYBE THERES SOMETHING TO THE FACT THAT SOME OF HER OTHER CHILDREN WONT SPEAK TO HER. BE CAREFUL OF THIS ONE SOUNDS LIKE NOTHING BUT TROUBLE.
2007-01-30 03:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by TS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there other issues going on here? You don't seem like you get along with your mother-in-law since you did resort to name calling .Did your children try talk to grandma first or interact with her at all? Did she have a good relationship with grandma prior to this event? Do you talk bad about grandma within earshot of your children?It just seems strange that grandma is ignoring her grandkids.Don't get me wrong, I'm just throwing out ideas. Some grandparents do not live up to our expectations.I would try to see what happens on the next visit. Don't rush to judgement,perhaps she had something on her mind that day (or wasn't feeling well).What does your husband think of the situation?
2007-01-30 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her this. She is not allowed over to your house unless she is willing to play with her grandchildren. That is the price she is going to have to pay to visit her grown son.
If she doesn't want anything to do with them still, then you explain to your husband, that although he does love his mother, she is NOT allowed into your home since she has disrespected the rules. He is more than welcome to go over to visit her, without the kids of course.
It's mean, but if you really think about what she is doing to your kids emotions then you wouldn't think it was hard enough. You;ve got to put your children ahead of your feelings and emotions!!
And if your husband gets bent out of shape with this, you can kidnly tell him that he can move back in with his mother, seeing as he is not being a MAN and can come back when he is ready to own up to the fact that his mother is being a b*tch to HIS CHILDREN!!!
good luck!
2007-01-30 03:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pandora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would feel extremly hurt and confused by my mother-in-law if she snubbed her grandchildren. I would sit down with her and calmly tell her ,' It really hurt "Jeff and Noah's" feelings when you didn't talk to them the other day and we were wondering if there was anything you'd like to talk about.' I actually have a good relationship with my mother-in-law and it didn't get that way overnight. I worked really hard at it to get a good relationship with her. I hope it helps. God Bless
2007-01-30 02:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to put some input into this matter, had a similar problem many years ago, so I got rid of the wife, ex mother in law and kept the kids and now they (kids) are doing better than when I was married. Yea, thats drastic, but talk to your husband, before your mother-in-law's actions, leads her to be lonely and alone??
2007-01-30 02:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is as bad as you say she is, they are probably better off spending as little time as possible around her.Make an excuse to take the kids and leave every time she comes over , maybe she wil get the hint.
2007-01-30 03:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't invite her back. She is causing stress in your family, and abusing her grandchildren. They don't understand this behavior and do not need to. They are children. Your husband needs to deal with this. Its his mom. He needs to tell her she is no longer welcome, if she can not behave like a grandmother. Keep her unloving spirit at home.
2007-01-30 02:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She needs to explain to someone why she's treating those kids the way she is. Something tells me that there's more to this whole situation than she's letting on.
2007-01-30 03:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by padiwan2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is talk to your husband about this and let him have a talk to his mother. That's very rude and disrespectful, it's one thing if she doesn't like you, but she shouldn't take it out on kids. Good Luck
2007-01-30 02:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband needs to talk to her cause kids always know when something is wrong and that will empact them a whole lot and who knows, she might need those grand kids to do something for her and they will tell her no cause he didnt talk to them.
2007-01-30 02:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋