i need some advice?

Question

ok im going to see an ex what are some good things to say to break the ice or maybe some things to say to show i still love him very much without seeming desperate about it ...anyone ever gone through this

Answer 1

Ah. Well, this could go one of two ways, very fun and bring you back to "better times." or....put you both in an awkward position. Personaly, I would start it off casually, maybe some light humor, or an overly cheesy joke. Ask how his life is, and make sure he knows you have been fine. Also, make it known you are interested in HIS life AFTER YOU, but NOT relationship wise. After a good hour or so of uncomplicated talking, THEN tell him you still love him. be blunt baby, and don't be afraid. But tell him you would rather be friends than nothing at all.

Answer 2

Act like you've always acted with him. Don't show or tell him off the bat that you still love him. Don't come on too strong, just act like you don't really care if you're back together or you never see him again. This kind of behaviour works hence 'men often want what is not easily obtainable' tell him words to the effect that you've gone on with your life, you've done sooooo many wonderful things without him, and your life is FABULOUS!!. He'll most likely come your way with this carefree approach, however, do it in moderation because he may think you don't have any feelings for him whatsoever. Good Luck, and what's meant to be will be. xx

Answer 3

Give him a hug and a smile. Then show him that you care by showing concern. Ask him how he's been? What's he been up to? The less you say is actually better. Try not to talk about whatever it was that cause the break up. Shock him by giving him a single rose. Whatever you do keep this as a public date, don't end up doing something that you may regret if this doesn't turn out the way you want. Do give yourself to him and end up heart broken or looking cheap.

Answer 4

Don't speak, Just Listen.

The most essential thing in life is to establish a fearless heartfelt communication with others and it is never more important than with a person in love. Often the person in love feels reserved and insecure, and is not sure of your intentions when you first interact. So don’t feel anything extraordinary is going to happen, just be natural and relaxed, be yourself. Often people in love do not say what they want or mean, and the beloved does not know what to say or do. It is hard to find out what they might be trying to say, or even what they might be hiding. So the first essential thing is to relax any tension in the atmosphere in whatever way comes most easily and naturally. Once trust and confidence have been established, the atmosphere becomes relaxed and this will allow the lover to bring up the things he or she really wants to talk about. Encourage the person warmly to feel as free as possible to express innermost feelings, thoughts, fear, and emotions. This honest and unshrinking baring of emotion is central to any possible transformation of coming to terms with confession of love. And you must allow the person complete freedom, and give your full permission to say whatever he or she wants.

Answer 5

Yes I've been there and it didn't work out the second time either. I would say just be yourself and don't try too hard. Talk about the things you feel you need to , but don't expect too much. I suggest you really think about the relationship you had with him before and why it didn't work out. Are you missing him because you are lonely or is he really worth going back to?

Answer 6

Are you going to see him specifically, or will just end up seeing him while visiting other people?

Either way I would play it cool. He's an ex for an reason. Just be yourself and keep your dignity. You could ask casually how he's doing (if you HAVE to talk to him), but don't act particularly interested in getting an answer. Keep your eyes a little unfocused (like looking past him), and don't catch his eye and LINGER.

Try not to focus on him, his activities, who he is with(i know it's hard), but on the other people around you.

Answer 7

Well first off if he is ok with meeting up with you then you're off to a fine start.
But if this is a surprise attack....stay away. You may end up hurting him more than before.
If all is well don't look for the perfect thing to say...just be you! If you guys don't like each other for who you are than its pointless. DON'T tell him how much you still love him unless it gets to an already melted point. You don't want to make it totally akward..
P.S. Who broke up with who?

Answer 8

All I can say is that he is you ex for a reason. I'll tell you what my bestfriend has always told me...NEVER GO BACKWARDS..only forwards. I knowyou love him but obviously something was wrong because you two broke up. Why put yourself through it again? I say move forward and forget the past.

Answer 9

I am goin through it now but i never loved him but we still have strong feelings for each other though. Just joke about the past and try to work on a friendship and go from there, dont tell him your true feelings.

Answer 10

i have not personaly gone through this but ill tell you what i think I think that you should tell him that you still love him life is too short to wait around on love to work its self out you need to talk a chance The best advise i can give you is fallow your heart the rest will fall into place!!! good luck and keep your head up!!!